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Does making friends at uni get easier in the second and third year?

I'm currently a first year student and I'm finding it difficult to make new friends as people just tend to hang around with their college friends :frown:
Original post by Blyts-_
I'm currently a first year student and I'm finding it difficult to make new friends as people just tend to hang around with their college friends :frown:


Definitely, you find yourself a lot closer to people in your course/societies. Most people are in the same boat in terms of having moved out and not knowing anybody, so there will definitely be others thinking the exact same thing you are.
I found it much easier to make friends in third year. :smile:
You need to be a friend in order to have one
Original post by Blyts-_
I'm currently a first year student and I'm finding it difficult to make new friends as people just tend to hang around with their college friends :frown:


Im in the same boat as you mate, hopefully it will get better in second year.
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Feel exactlyt the same as you, although people didn't know each other before on my course, it feels like they already knew each other so well and I feel like the odd one out :frown: I hope it gets better in the term after christmas :frown:
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Original post by Anonymous263
Im in the same boat as you mate, hopefully it will get better in second year.


Original post by eat146
Feel exactlyt the same as you, although people didn't know each other before on my course, it feels like they already knew each other so well and I feel like the odd one out :frown: I hope it gets better in the term after christmas :frown:


Original post by Blyts-_
I'm currently a first year student and I'm finding it difficult to make new friends as people just tend to hang around with their college friends :frown:



I feel the same, people knew each other through tsr or in through mutual friends and they all started talking to each other since induction week. Odd situation
Making friends doesn't get easier if nothing changes, second/third year might give you more 1-on-1 time with new people, but it's pretty common for students to disappear quickly after class with no interest in socialising.

Don't be down if you don't meet anyone on your course because it's quite common, and if the people you try to befriend don't seem interested. Find people in societies who go to socialise, in fact it is even better to go without a friend so you don't get held back making new ones. Just be more proactive in being the first one to say hello and all :smile: people will be attracted to you like a magnet.
You need to make an effort to find people to be friends with- for example, through joining societies or sports, or by organising things to do with the people you do know. In general, in second and third year, people will not be any more open to making new friends than they already are- in fact, by third year, my course was quite cliquey!

In January, make an effort to join some societies, or volunteer, or meet new people somehow. Nothing will change if you don't do something to proactively change it.
Gosh, I'm going through the same thing. I tried everything from joining societies and clubs to going for socials.. I'm really friendly, but I don't know why I just can't seem to make any friends or close friends for that matter. No one seems to be interested in being my friend.
Making friends isnt as instant as it was at school/college. It takes at least 3 months to make a proper friend at uni so dont panic, just hang out with the people you get on with and proper friendships will develop
Original post by Mimsycrafts
Making friends isnt as instant as it was at school/college. It takes at least 3 months to make a proper friend at uni so dont panic, just hang out with the people you get on with and proper friendships will develop


Hi Mimsycrafts, but that's the thing, if I just keep hanging out with the same people everyday, I won't be able to make new friends. On a side note, i'm not close to the people I hang out with. I only see them in school and we don't go out cos it gets pretty awkward. No one knows what to say. I mean, it's find having friends in your course but at the end of the day, i'm just back in my room most nights and over the weekends. :frown:
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Hi Mimsycrafts, but that's the thing, if I just keep hanging out with the same people everyday, I won't be able to make new friends. On a side note, i'm not close to the people I hang out with. I only see them in school and we don't go out cos it gets pretty awkward. No one knows what to say. I mean, it's find having friends in your course but at the end of the day, i'm just back in my room most nights and over the weekends. :frown:


What do you normally do when you meet up with coursemates? if it is awkward in the pub suggest doing something different its cheesy but things like bowling,crazy golf and laser quest anything with a relaxed competitive edge brings a bit of personality out in people. Its always the quiet ones that are secretly wildly competitive

Have you joined active societies? Sporty societies can often be more about the wednesday night out than the actual matches. Or join up with a volunteering society where you will get out and about in the community and meet locals as well as uni students
Original post by Mimsycrafts
What do you normally do when you meet up with coursemates? if it is awkward in the pub suggest doing something different its cheesy but things like bowling,crazy golf and laser quest anything with a relaxed competitive edge brings a bit of personality out in people. Its always the quiet ones that are secretly wildly competitive

Have you joined active societies? Sporty societies can often be more about the wednesday night out than the actual matches. Or join up with a volunteering society where you will get out and about in the community and meet locals as well as uni students


Well, when we meet we're just in school, so we go for class and have lunch together, that's about it. I can't suggest such events cos my friends don't like going out and they prefer to spend their time studying at home? I found it a bit strange that they study all the time but who am I to judge them :O

The societies that I'm in are not very active.. And I can't join sporty societies cos i'm not sporty and my hand-eye coordination is just bad. Also, i don't want to make a fool of myself :s-smilie: Wow, making friends is really quite difficult..
In my experience it gets harder. By second year everyone has their friends and cliques and it's hard to break in. At least I find it hard, Im sure others find it easy... I've joined societies and stuff and even help run one but still. Kinda hurts though when I see 2/3 of people on my course who I thought I was was friendly with (its a small course) doing stuff together and not having invited me.

Guess I'm destined to be forever alone.
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In my experience it gets harder. By second year everyone has their friends and cliques and it's hard to break in. At least I find it hard, Im sure others find it easy... I've joined societies and stuff and even help run one but still. Kinda hurts though when I see 2/3 of people on my course who I thought I was was friendly with (its a small course) doing stuff together and not having invited me.

Guess I'm destined to be forever alone.


I know what you mean :frown: I wish all the lonely students could come together and form a society. The Social Society, where you make friends and stop feeling so alone! :redface:
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Probably, since the people on your course will begin to dwindle in number. I'm in my 4th year now and there's only about 10 of us. Suffice to say we all know each other very well at this point. :tongue:
No it gets worse, first year is the year for making friends. If you've not made them by first yr it will almost impossible to make any new ones in second.
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Original post by jumjum
I feel the same, people knew each other through tsr or in through mutual friends and they all started talking to each other since induction week. Odd situation


Yes it's the exact same for me. People are ridiculously unfriendly on my course and also the people I have met don't like to go out or drink or anything. I know it's not everyone's cup of tea but I thought uni revolved around this.

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