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    Sorry for the anonymous, just don't want to be recognised...
    Basically i hate everything, nothing seems to go right for me and even when i'm happy i always end up feeling depressed and worthless again, crying myself to sleep etc...
    It started when i was 11 and fell in 'love' with one of mi best friends, still love them and it kills me cos they don't feel anything back, from there i got depressed and thought about death loads and now i'm just sitting here feeling awful and can't stop crying and i just don't know what to do...
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    Have you been to the doctor?No-one needs leave depression untreated.
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    I can't actually say anything that will automaticaly make you feel better, but hey I'm in a similar situtaion. I can't stop crying and everyone else seems to have their life sorted, in fact I used to be one of those people, and now it's all gone, I miss it Got no shoulder to cry on at the moment. The only thing I can suggest about being in love with your friend is to go out and meet new people, and just try to forget him/her.

    Don't do anything stupid, you know you'll only regret it in the morning. And if you think about death you'll only plant yourself in a deeper, more depressiong hole.

    Hope something goes right, I promise it will though, it always does with everyone.
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    Okay, I know this is really easy to say and bl**dy difficult to do, but I think you need to try and get the confidence and clarity in your own mind, and talk to someone you trust - family member, friend, doctor, counsellor, whoever - and they will be able to give you a clearer 'outside' picture which will hopefully help you get some perspective and some help. Good luck, and pm me if you want to.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It started when i was 11 and fell in 'love' with one of mi best friends, still love them and it kills me cos they don't feel anything back, from there i got depressed and thought about death loads and now i'm just sitting here feeling awful and can't stop crying and i just don't know what to do...
    Break contact with this person completely, and forget about them. Trust me. Sure it's selfish because they haven't done anything wrong - but tough **** - I can tell you from experience that this is THE BEST thing to do for you. You will get over it, and life will seem a lot better.
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    seriously go see a doctor. Depression is a real illness and is nothing to be ashamed of. Its a chemical imbalance in the brain. It can be fixed with anti depressants and/or cognitive therapy.

    Dont worry about your friend. youll find when youre feeling better that there are many other people in the world worth going after.
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    (Original post by PremiershipFootballer)
    seriously go see a doctor. Depression is a real illness and is nothing to be ashamed of. Its a chemical imbalance in the brain. It can be fixed with anti depressants and/or cognitive therapy.

    Dont worry about your friend. youll find when youre feeling better that there are many other people in the world worth going after.
    Problem with this scenario, if that I suspect the feelings for this friend are a major contributing factor to how the OP is feeling. That means, there's a very real cause for the feelings, and anti-depressants would be a VERY BAD IDEA. They're not a quick fix, they cause a lot of problems, and they should only be used when it clearly is a completely biologically based depression (i.e. the feeling seems to have no basis in a real situation).

    I also know that some doctors (especially GPs) are quick to write a prescription rather than get you to focus on the root of the problem, because they don't understand it properly. So if you do decide to go and talk to your doctor - make the reasons that you can identify for how you're feeling clear, and let them know that you only want to use medication as a last resort.
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    You should go and speak to your doctor about this, but if you don't feel like it, but do want to talk to someone about it in confidence, call the Samaritans or your uni nightline.
    Samaritans
    In the UK dial 08457 90 90 90, for the cost of a local call.
    In the Republic of Ireland dial 1850 60 90 90, for the cost of a local call.

    Nightline - see if your uni has one set up.
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    Stand Fast, take a deep breath, and assess the situation, wiping your past clean, wont save you, nor will blundering into this half assed, as people have recommended, see a doctor for some treatment and for therapy if needed, but also ask yourself, what do you want from life and how can you achieve, find objectives and paths to follow to achieve your goals, your young, so dont dwell on a future that might not be, i'm in the business of death, best thing to do is not think about it, make the best of what youve got and live every day like its your last and know that there are people out here for you to talk to, your not alone

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    This may sound completely random but make a list of things you'd like to accomplish soon or in life, your goals basically. That should remind you why you are living, and you are living for YOU. Don't live waiting for someone else when they are probably living for themselves - it's like that old saying if you can't beat them join them. Start thinking about only you, it'll get you loads of confidence believe me.
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    (Original post by i own you)
    only thing 2 suggest is suicide.
    Why don't you act on your own advice?
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    If only :rofl:
 
 
 
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