He's not texted....

A guy I'm seeing has a habit of always texting like two minutes after we've left each other, e.g the other night he texted me in the taxi on the way home. I really, really like this guy, as in I'm falling in love with him.
Anyway, we spent the last three full days together, he went home today at around 2 or 3pm, and it's now gone 11 and I've not heard anything from him! I feel so down because I'm worried he's lost interest or gone off me. :frown:

Please help.

Reply 1

a_t

16

Pfft, when you've got real problems come back, this is nonsense.

Reply 2

pink_lucie

14

erm....its not the end of th world...he just spent 3 days with you....geez calm down

Reply 3

Flank Runner

battery is down, no signal, no credit, the poor lad is asleep after spending 3 days straight with you, or he feels like you and him are together so he doesnt have to make quite soo much effort anymore and can relax on the texting, theres a million reasons, txt him and find out

Reply 4

chupacabras

1

He's possibly run out of credit/batttery on his phone. I wouldn't worry about it.

Reply 5

ciara

13

Maybe he just thought it would be a bit over the top to text you straight away after spending all that time with you? Relax dammit, don't be so intense, just enjoy the fact that the relationship is new and exciting.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

I know it sounds petty, but I swear, I have such strong feelings for him, and the fact he hasn't got in touch is making me feel so low. It wouldn't be like this if he normally didn't text much, but usually I've got a text off him within five minutes of leaving him! I'm sure he must have gone off me. :frown:

Reply 7

ciara

13

Anonymous

I know it sounds petty, but I swear, I have such strong feelings for him, and the fact he hasn't got in touch is making me feel so low. It wouldn't be like this if he normally didn't text much, but usually I've got a text off him within five minutes of leaving him! I'm sure he must have gone off me. :frown:

Not wishing to offend you OP, but you sound a bit needy and like you have very little self confidence. Fair enough you really like him and really want him to text you, we've all been there, but you shouldn't feel low just because you haven't heard from him. Surely there are other things that keep you happy even when the man in your life is playing up a bit? How about you text him, not coming on too strongly but just saying it was nice spending time with him or something. And make sure there's a question in it, so that he has to respond. Then just calm down, go watch a film or something!

Reply 8

a_t

16

Don't let him get wind of this, you might scare him off by coming on too strong

Then you would have a problem :p:

Reply 9

hehe_88

2

ciara

Not wishing to offend you OP, but you sound a bit needy and like you have very little self confidence. Fair enough you really like him and really want him to text you, we've all been there, but you shouldn't feel low just because you haven't heard from him. Surely there are other things that keep you happy even when the man in your life is playing up a bit? How about you text him, not coming on too strongly but just saying it was nice spending time with him or something. And make sure there's a question in it, so that he has to respond. Then just calm down, go watch a film or something!

I can't help it. I'm not usually like this, it's just because I have such intense feelings for this person.

Reply 10

Enchanté

14

He will lose interest in you if you keep constantly texting him,i'm sure he will txt back soon :smile:

Reply 11

TomX

14

He must have turned gay, it's the only plausible explanation.

Reply 12

aleathiel

16

just give the poor guy some breathing space, after spending 3 days together he obviosly doesnt have anything "new" to say so doesnt wanna text just for the sake of it, some people actually text for a reason lol so when he has something to say to you then you'll hear from him but in the meantime dont worry about it so much

Reply 13

high priestess fnord

9

i lost my bf once. it turned out that he had left the country after sending a quick text but for some reason it had never arrived. i was sooo angry i could have strangled him.

Reply 14

Fleece

15

Pull yourself together, OP. It's really not the end of the world and it doesn't have to mean anything.

Reply 15

username47781

20

As the others said give him a bit of space, bombarding him with texts will drive him away.

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP

I havent bombarded him with texts! I haven't texted him once since he left yesterday. I just expect him to text me first, because he always does.

Seriously, I know how petty this must sound but it's now been nearly 24 hours and I've heard nothing. It's like a physical pain, I can't stand the thought that he might have lost interest.

Reply 17

khil

15

hehe_88

I can't help it. I'm not usually like this, it's just because I have such intense feelings for this person.

There will come a time when the initial stage of a relationship has passed that both of you will become less attached and cease to feel the need to text each other constantly for the simple matter of - it's a stable relationship, you're both confident of each other that you don't need such reassurances and very simply, you both need your own space. When that time comes it does not mean you've gone off each other - it just means your relationship has become more stable and mature. Surely that's something to be happy about and not worried over!

Reply 18

khil

15

Anonymous

I havent bombarded him with texts! I haven't texted him once since he left yesterday. I just expect him to text me first, because he always does.

Seriously, I know how petty this must sound but it's now been nearly 24 hours and I've heard nothing. It's like a physical pain, I can't stand the thought that he might have lost interest.

Then just text him and say "hey I miss you x I really enjoyed our time together for the past 3 days" etc. Nothing too over the top but enough to voice that you're thinking of him.

You need to be more secure about this relationship and start trusting him or this relationship will never work.

Reply 19

number17

text him then, you idiot.

He's not texted....

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