right to be nervous?

my boyfriend and i have been together near enough 10 months, and around 5 months ago, he decided to 'cheat' (not as such but i took it as cheating) with my best mate. We have put this behind us however.
Now We have both gone to different unis, yet still see each other every weekend without a doubt and have a great time. At uni though, he has started to hang about with a girl from his course, which he keeps reminding me is 'very funny and a great laugh' and her name which of course is Emily.
Should i feel threatened or at least nervous about this girl who he sits with in near enough every lecture and spends time with at dinners and stuff?
please advise!

Reply 1

tinkerbellejess

And you're still with him?! (after the cheatin thing before?!) It seems he's trying to make you jealous of his new life, When I started uni, I made sure my bf met everyone I was hanging out with, just so that he wouldn't feel the need to get jealous, I wanted to keep him involved, not tell him what was going on and keep him on the outside!

Reply 2

username47781

Yeah you have every right to be nervous he cheated on you with your best friend, the chances are he will do it again.

Reply 3

tinkerbellejess

A leopard never changes his spots and all that!

Reply 4

Claire_Elizabeth

Once a cheat always a cheat, what he has to figure out is, if the temptation is there would he do it? All you have to do is know what you want! Do you want to be constantly worried about him everytime he mentions the name "Emily", (he sounds like he wants to make you jealous). Or do you want to go out and have the time of your life at university without having to worry. I think the balls in your court and you decide whether you want to play it, or call it a day!

Reply 5

Psynergy

Anonymous

he decided to 'cheat' (not as such but i took it as cheating) with my best mate.

Elaborate, I get the picture he didn't see it as unfaithful but you have stronger views on the particular act. Did you discuss these things before or was it something he could be excused for seeing as nothing at all given a lack of information on your views?

Reply 6

dh00001

Psynergy

Elaborate, I get the picture he didn't see it as unfaithful but you have stronger views on the particular act.

i agree. sounds like he doesnt think hes doing anything wrong and you should explain your view to him.
where are the two of you in relation to one another?
and out of intrest why is her name of course emily :confused: