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    I'm starting to feel invisable again- like I don't belong. I haven't felt like this since year 11 & its bad. Basically I just don't fit in with my course group at Uni. I guess it's kinda my fault. I was hardly there last year when they all formed their groups. I hate it. I hate sitting there feeling alone. I hate looking like an idiot. My only friend in the group has just about given up on Uni & as he was my only friend, I'm kinda on my own! =[

    I just feel like all the work I did with my self confidence over the last 3 & a half years has dissapeared. I no longer feel confident enough to answer questions in seminars/lectures unless I'm prompted. I'm starting to feel paranoid again thinking that everyone is judging me. It doesn't help that I've put on a bit of weight. I'm starting to hate the way I look physically- I haven't felt like this in a while.

    I just feel so annoyed with myself that I have let myself get back to this state. I've been doing so well & all of a sudden I'm back to square one again. I can count the number of friends I have at Uni on pretty much one hand & out of those.... I'd only count one of them as a semi-decent friend.

    Sorry for the moan but I just feel like crap. I want more to life than just being the quiet girl in the corner. I've tried making the effort but it doesn't do any good so whats the point? I thought Uni was different. I thought people were different.
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    (Original post by Dramatic Star)
    I'm starting to feel invisable again- like I don't belong. I haven't felt like this since year 11 & its bad. Basically I just don't fit in with my course group at Uni. I guess it's kinda my fault. I was hardly there last year when they all formed their groups. I hate it. I hate sitting there feeling alone. I hate looking like an idiot. My only friend in the group has just about given up on Uni & as he was my only friend, I'm kinda on my own! =[

    I just feel like all the work I did with my self confidence over the last 3 & a half years has dissapeared. I no longer feel confident enough to answer questions in seminars/lectures unless I'm prompted. I'm starting to feel paranoid again thinking that everyone is judging me. It doesn't help that I've put on a bit of weight. I'm starting to hate the way I look physically- I haven't felt like this in a while.

    I just feel so annoyed with myself that I have let myself get back to this state. I've been doing so well & all of a sudden I'm back to square one again. I can count the number of friends I have at Uni on pretty much one hand & out of those.... I'd only count one of them as a semi-decent friend.

    Sorry for the moan but I just feel like crap. I want more to life than just being the quiet girl in the corner. I've tried making the effort but it doesn't do any good so whats the point? I thought Uni was different. I thought people were different.
    I feel pretty much the same!! So you are not alone!!!
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    im starting to get fed up with all these self pity threads. For god sakes, its not that HARD to make friends, if you TALK to people, and MAKE an effort, as them QUESTIONS, JOKE with them in ur classes / lectures. why havent u joined societies, why dont u join the gym and casually chit chat to someone whos also on their own, why dont you join a sports club.
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    shut up anonymous. If you're going to be mean then be a 'man' about it. jees, way to build up someone's confidence. But joining more societies is always a good idea, if you feel groups have already formed try something new. There are people like you, go find them.
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    I kind of know how you feel. When I went to uni, I didn't get into halls, and so the only friends I made were people off my course, and in the societies I joined, and also the people I met at church.

    And at times it was a hell of a chore to drag myself across Loughborough (the world's windiest town, I swear) to get to the campus to go to an evening social when I'd dragged myself home only a couple of hours earlier to get something to eat.

    The only way to make friends is to be open and welcoming and friendly. It's not easy, but you're just going to have to bite the bullet and talk to people. Go and join the smaller societies, they'll be more welcoming because they like to get new members to add to the spice of the group. And you don't have to pay to join straight away, they'll let you get to know a few people and decide if you want to stay or not first.

    Take a deep breath, remember how you felt before, and grab onto every opportunity with both hands.

    EDIT: And good luck. Will be thinking of you. :hugs:
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    This sounds like the begining of depression to me, and that worries me. Don't worry, i've been in the exact same place and I have a good idea hw u feel. The way i dealt with it was to buy a discman and spend a whole yr in school listening to music and shutting out the world. NOT very adviceable. Have you tried joining any societies? Theyre a gr8 way to make new friends and you can find ppl you have something in common with. Don't give up just yet. The yrs jus starting, I'm pretty sure you're not the only one who feels this way. You just need to get out and meet ppl. Even tho it sounds a bit daunting, you need to meet new ppl and make new friends otherwise this could get worse.
    I hope this helps.
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    Maybe find a society of your interest
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    I know how you feel- I don't really fit into any of my course groups in sixth form, and I'd call most people aqquaintances, although I have a few friends.
    My best friend is probably gonna get kicked out in 2 weeks cos she got ill and missed loads of work so I haven't really got anyone either. I usually sit on my own and look like an idiot at break.

    I would say join some societies if you can, or make up your own. Is there something you can do with the friend you get on with?
 
 
 
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