I am in two minds about whether to post this anon or not. TLDR at bottom!
July, I started talking to the brother of my best friend while working in their country. We established a relationship ultra quick because we're that type of couple.
August, we had our first trip away at an expensive hotel at the coast in their country. We also said I love you. End of month I left for my country.
I usually go to their country during the summer and am not sure I want to go. I have already passed up amazing opportunities to do so which will leave me resentful.
In my relationships I usually pick guys who are amazing but lack jobs, education etc. Under my influence they usually get jobs and go onto better things. This relationship is not different and added to that is he has depression and extreme low self-esteem. I can't cope if he spirals down. He was going to kill himself back in January when I was visiting. He's also black and I have racist parents.
TLDR: He's black (I have racist parents), it's LDR, I don't have money to relocate, he has little job prospects and no education. I can't crush him. What should I do? I am reinforcing his self-esteem issues.
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