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Resolving Jealousy
How do you consciously behave in a way that other people don't get jealous of you - without sacrificing the trait (your skills, beauty, sociality etc.) for which the other person is jealous?
I know it's not easy to find an answer to this question. Many cultural and emotional hindrances block the way...
But I believe. I believe that people can change through other people's will and actions.
( Otherwise I wouldn't be writing here
)
I once thought that the only way to prevent these kinds of adverse emotions is to simply keep distance from others, to merely avoid contact with people who are likely to get negative.
Escapism. Actually, isolation.
Another way would have been to simply downplay the subject of jealousy in the presence of others, to make it irrelevant in the eyes of others, to banalize it.
But that, in a way, would also be a kind of "sacrifice". I know it doesn't matter much, but sometimes I don't like it when I cannot benefit of something I'm good at just because I want to make others happy.
I recently thought of something else............... reversing the jealousy!
For example, as soon as you notice that someone is getting jealous of the way you socialize with people, you encourage that person to become like that as well, you show that person the possibility and ways to achieve it - and thereby make this person happy without sacrificing yourself!
However, I guess, there will always be a person who is jealous of the fact that you are able to resolve other people's jealousies... you know what I mean...
There's always someone who can't simply accept that someone else can be better than them at something (or many things, or sometimes everything). It's against such people's idea of being human... (in my opinion, it is often the very cause of jealousy!)
I'm sure economists wouldn't find anything wrong in this since such an attitude would obviously incentivate competition and improvement of society.
Yet, sometimes this jealousy can develop into a form of personal hatred. That's what I find uncomfortable. I love competition. But not violence. Not even at a spiritual level.
What do you think?
I know it's not easy to find an answer to this question. Many cultural and emotional hindrances block the way...
But I believe. I believe that people can change through other people's will and actions.
( Otherwise I wouldn't be writing here
)I once thought that the only way to prevent these kinds of adverse emotions is to simply keep distance from others, to merely avoid contact with people who are likely to get negative.
Escapism. Actually, isolation.
Another way would have been to simply downplay the subject of jealousy in the presence of others, to make it irrelevant in the eyes of others, to banalize it.
But that, in a way, would also be a kind of "sacrifice". I know it doesn't matter much, but sometimes I don't like it when I cannot benefit of something I'm good at just because I want to make others happy.
I recently thought of something else............... reversing the jealousy!
For example, as soon as you notice that someone is getting jealous of the way you socialize with people, you encourage that person to become like that as well, you show that person the possibility and ways to achieve it - and thereby make this person happy without sacrificing yourself!
However, I guess, there will always be a person who is jealous of the fact that you are able to resolve other people's jealousies... you know what I mean...
There's always someone who can't simply accept that someone else can be better than them at something (or many things, or sometimes everything). It's against such people's idea of being human... (in my opinion, it is often the very cause of jealousy!)
I'm sure economists wouldn't find anything wrong in this since such an attitude would obviously incentivate competition and improvement of society.
Yet, sometimes this jealousy can develop into a form of personal hatred. That's what I find uncomfortable. I love competition. But not violence. Not even at a spiritual level.
What do you think?
Reply 1
erm..yeah?
Reply 2
Maybe you should try mushrooms and experience ego loss.
Reply 3
If I hadn't had "ego loss", as you call it, I wouldn't be here.
Reply 4
on the whol reversing jealousy front, it won't always work. Some people don't do things because it is against what they believe in, against their principles. But they will still get jealous of you doing this thing, not because they wish they could do it, but because they dislike the end result. For example, a bf gets jealous whn his girlfriend is friendly and chatty with men. He doesn't want to be friendly and chatty with women in the same way because he sees it as a betrayal of the gf, but he still gets jealous because he doesn't like his gf being like that with other men.
Reply 5
Actually... I wasn't speaking about jealousies that arise in couples between bfs and gfs. I'm speaking about that kind of jealousy which comes to life between normal people, even individuals who have no relationship with each other. Among friends, between teacher and pupil, among colleagues, etc.
Usually, in the case of jealousy felt by a bf whose gf chats around with other guys... it is due to the bf's belief and fear that his gf might be flirting with others, and thereby create a gap between himself and her.
Usually, it is not because the bf is jealous about her "flirting skills" :P
But some guys are, and try to counter this by chatting around with other girls and "reach the same level" of the gf. That kind of jealousy usually strengthens the desire of eachother.
Hmmm... but it's not the kind of jealousy I was referring to originally
Usually, in the case of jealousy felt by a bf whose gf chats around with other guys... it is due to the bf's belief and fear that his gf might be flirting with others, and thereby create a gap between himself and her.
Usually, it is not because the bf is jealous about her "flirting skills" :P
But some guys are, and try to counter this by chatting around with other girls and "reach the same level" of the gf. That kind of jealousy usually strengthens the desire of eachother.
Hmmm... but it's not the kind of jealousy I was referring to originally
Reply 6
Errrr, thanks for that?
Reply 7
Sorry, didn't get what you mean.
Reply 8
I was saying with added confusion thank you. Because usually threads here are asking for help, whilst you seem to be giving it away, what with your analytical semi-''am gonna rite a buk on dis'' etc.
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