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What to do

BAsically Im in a gap year, and my mate who stayed local to Uni, let me come to Freshers week, so I made loads of friends.

Im a real upfront honest guy who just likes having fun, so loads of people started liking me and they call me saying you coming to my dorm for a poker game, or girls askin me to come to there parties.

Anyway I am a cocky arrogant ****, thats who I am, I cant change cos its how I feel normal, everyone who i met thinks its funny and likes me being so confident. but recently my mate who invited me started saying "I never realised how much of a cocky twatyou are" "You always have to do things right" etc etc.

Now Im not gonna change the way I act, but I can see where hes coming from, as Ive delt with this before as people have not liked me before but I just forget them, but hes my mate.

What can I do? Im not saying Sorry, and he seems to be pissed, n all of the mates I made are backing me up saying hes acting crazy and I dont want him to loose his mates.

What can I do?
Reply 1
You've admitted you're a tw-t, but you don't want to change. What can you do? You've pissed off the people closest to you - you sound like a sh-t mate to be honest. You're not prepared to stop being a d-ck for your mates? The only option is to make new friends or change.
Reply 2
What, your mate was fine with who you are before freshers week, and everybody else likes you, but now he has a problem with you?

Sounds like jealousy that he's the one at uni, but you're the one making all the new friends.
Maybe take a minute to think about how he feels, I am not saying he is right to feel it but keep it in mind. He invited you to his fresher's week and perhaps he feels you've done all he wanted to do in that time. He might be insecure that the friends he's made are friends with him because of you and that, once you pee off on your gap year, he will be left with a load of superficial friendships. He might have simply asked you to his freshers as a failsafe, a person to talk to incase he found it hard and be really regretting it. He might have wanted a fresh start/new friends and now realises that you are instrisically linked to all of these new relationships. I don't know, I'm not him, but if you're such an all round great guy maybe exercise your compassion muscles for a bit instead of your ego.
Sounds jealous or tired of your attitude. But I'd say the first, pehaps he hasn't made as many friends as you and is trying to diminish your confidence. He probably wishes he had it and is lashing out at you because he isn't confident. Talk to him, but don't change. It seems to have worked this far. Note though, arrogance won't get you through life, you need a little leeway when it comes to your close friends x