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Met a hot girl and asked her out. We've been getting flirtier and have taken things to the bedroom.

There is something I would like to ask her, but am wondering how.

There is a pornstar who literally looks identical to her and I have thought about my new girlfriend whilst utilising a video of her.

I would like to ask whether my girlfriend could give me head just like the girl in the video? They look almost the same!
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I'd say your chances of this ending badly are very strong. Rather than pulling out a porno, rather ask her if she'd like to try a certain technique, and make sure you ask her about anything she'd like to try as well.

Be adventurous, but if you start comparing her to a pornstar, it's almost certain to make her feel self-conscious and inadequate.

Still, some girls / couples like watching porn together, so you could also throw that up in convo.
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(Original post by Momma's Kumquat)
I'd say your chances of this ending badly are very strong. Rather than pulling out a porno, rather ask her if she'd like to try a certain technique, and make sure you ask her about anything she'd like to try as well.

Be adventurous, but if you start comparing her to a pornstar, it's almost certain to make her feel self-conscious and inadequate.

Still, some girls / couples like watching porn together, so you could also throw that up in convo.
Thing is:
1. I find my girlfriend hot
2. I find this pornstar hot
3. The pornstar look literally like my girlfriend. It is uncanny.
4. I find the pornstar hot because she looks like my girlfriend.
5. Would my girlfriend be aroused and flattered that I like her because she looks like her?

I used to fap to the pornstar because I asked her out for that reason. It was a fantasy about her giving me head.

Thoughts?
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There's an old saying that it is never like it is in porn videos, as the above poster said, this will probably end badly if you think this way.
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(Original post by Rock Fan)
There's an old saying that it is never like it is in porn videos, as the above poster said, this will probably end badly if you think this way.
It's more that I find the idea of my girlfriend giving me head hot. The fact that the pornstar looks virtually identical to her is why I find it hot.

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(Original post by Momma's Kumquat)
I'd say your chances of this ending badly are very strong. Rather than pulling out a porno, rather ask her if she'd like to try a certain technique, and make sure you ask her about anything she'd like to try as well.

Be adventurous, but if you start comparing her to a pornstar, it's almost certain to make her feel self-conscious and inadequate.

Still, some girls / couples like watching porn together, so you could also throw that up in convo.
The reason I find the pornstar video hot is because it looks like my gf giving me head. Should I mention this?

That is the only reason really, she looks like her!
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For god's sake do not tell her no
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For god's sake do not tell her no
Can I not suggest or mention why I find it hot?

It's because it looks like my gf giving me head. That is what I find hot about it. I watched it before I even asked her out.
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There is a pornstar who literally looks identical to her
Maybe it is her!


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Can I not suggest or mention why I find it hot?

It's because it looks like my gf giving me head. That is what I find hot about it. I watched it before I even asked her out.
Why?! No, it's not very flattering tbh. Also it makes you seem very seedy.
Just enjoy it and suggest she try something different or so, but don't say, 'hey you look like a pornstar and I want you to do what she does'.
Not gonna work on a lot of girls. In the long term you could try watching it with her, but not bringing up your slight obsession, or if she's not interested.
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Why?! No, it's not very flattering tbh. Also it makes you seem very seedy.
Just enjoy it and suggest she try something different or so, but don't say, 'hey you look like a pornstar and I want you to do what she does'.
Not gonna work on a lot of girls. In the long term you could try watching it with her, but not bringing up your slight obsession, or if she's not interested.
Okay. I mean I find the video hot because the girl in it looks exactly like her. This is what I find hot about it. If she saw that would she think it was hot?

It's the thought of her that I find hot, not the pornstar. The pornstar looks 98% like my gf.
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Okay. I mean I find the video hot because the girl in it looks exactly like her. This is what I find hot about it. If she saw that would she think it was hot?

It's the thought of her that I find hot, not the pornstar. The pornstar looks 98% like my gf.
Yeah except being a female, I would 90% bet if you told her she would assume it's the other way around and that you like her because she looks like the pornstar. In fact I almost guarantee it. Even if you way otherwise. There is no benefit to telling her and far more risk of this happening.
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Show her the video, ask her if that's her
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What on earth is wrong with just asking her to give you head?
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Firstly, see if she's into porn.
Secondly- say you look like my favourite pornstar. But you're beautiful.
Thirdly- dependant on her level of interest, get a blow job first.
The way the pornstar does it could be just to please the camera. It might not please you if you're fortunate enough to actually get it.

Oh, if she is cool about attempting to do it- don't make her feel bad if she sucks.
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Maybe it is her!


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I thought that was where OP was going with this..
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I'm going to bite the bullet here and ask what loads are probably thinking.

Which pornstar?
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I'm going to bite the bullet here and ask what loads are probably thinking.

Which pornstar?
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He has bigger tits than many female pornstars.
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Yeah except being a female, I would 90% bet if you told her she would assume it's the other way around and that you like her because she looks like the pornstar. In fact I almost guarantee it. Even if you way otherwise. There is no benefit to telling her and far more risk of this happening.
I see your point. Thing is for me, I literally stumbled upon this pornstar who looks like her. It's uncanny and so hot.

What if we accidentally discovered it together? I literally think about her and am moaning her name when enjoying it.
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