so down :(

been with a girl for 9 months, absolutely think the world of her.it took me 6 months to get with her and i love spending every minute of the day with her :frown:

. she really doesnt seem like the type to cheat. ive moved away but its only 20 mins on the train from uni, and shes texts me on friday telling me shes cheated on me and that were finished. such a shock and im so depressed :frown:

never felt like this about a girl before. just hate it :frown:

. i said id forgive her cos i love her, and shes insistant she doesnt want to be with me but ive done nothing wrong and she knows how upset i am and says she loves me and cares about me but she wont get back with me. im so depressed i havent eat for 4 days, and i just feel sick when i go near food, i cant sleep...and im just all around down. just seems like shes making any excuse possible not to be with me :frown:

Reply 1

Juicy Fruit

10

You'll be over her in a few weeks.

Reply 2

filastini

14

I feel sorry for you. It's hard for you to take in that she doesn't want to be with you even after you said you'll forgive her. Maybe whatever she did was too big a thing that she doesn't want to be with you - to not hurt you further? Also, the disappointment that she's not exactly how you thought she'd be - you'd never thought she'd cheat on you.

I don't see any other way to get over her apart from to give it time and let it slowly heal away. You probably already have realised, or soon will that she's not what you need because you need someone faithful for some as nice as you judging from the way you are. Don't be surprised if you find someone else knocking on the door sometime soon, there're many nice girls out there.

Reply 3

ste8901

OP

thankyou

Reply 4

filastini

14

How old are you? Do you talk to eachother?

Reply 5

ste8901

OP

im 19, nearly 20. shes 17, nearly 18. met her at work.

says she just wants to be friends but im finding it so hard to let go :frown:

Reply 6

filastini

14

Would I be stupid to assume you've seen quite a few hotties at uni already?

Reply 7

ste8901

OP

a load.....only have one girl on my mind tho at the moment :frown:

Reply 8

filastini

14

Start talking to a few of them, it'd help you :wink:

Reply 9

ste8901

OP

:P thanks mate :smile:

Reply 10

filastini

14

justfarhan

Start talking to a few of them, it'd help you :wink:

^ That's probably the last thing you wanna hear right now :redface:

I need sleep. Goodnight :smile:

Reply 11

ste8901

OP

probably lol. just need to sort my head out.it'd kill me to see her get a new guy :frown:

. night dude. im up for uni in...1 hour! (:0

Reply 12

shadowinthesun98

1

hey hun. relax. you're not doing anything wrong and you're probably not the problem. the problem is that she messed up big and now she doesn't know if she can be with you in an honest relationship anymore. i think she realizes she's in the wrong and if that's not the case and she really just doesn't want to be with you, she isn't worth your time anyways and you deserve someone better.

Reply 13

squigaletta

I'm sorry to be negative but there is the chance that a uni relationship was just a bit too hardcore for her. I know it hurts like hell, but I promise you, as the days carry on it will fade, the only advice I can really give you is just to ride this bad time out, because it will get better and you will be able to move on, which to me seems likeyour best option.

Reply 14

Squelchy

Focus on the reality of the situation: that she's a cheating whore who cheated the minute your back was turned, and who didn't even have the courage or the decency to break up with you to your face, but dumped you over text!

If that doesn't get you over her, I don't know what will. What a scummy bitch.

Reply 15

maag101

1

Yeah, she sounds like a right cow. What kind of girl would do that to a man she proclaims to love... bitch. *pats ste on the head sympathetically* It'll get better in a few weeks I promise. Time is a great healer you know. It's a cliche for a reason. :smile:

Reply 16

ste8901

OP

anyway. i give up im staying single,and not placing my trust in any girl for a longtime :smile:

Reply 17

philippa03

3

but remember you still can trust girls, i'd never dream of cheating.

Reply 18

Squelchy

philippa03

but remember you still can trust girls, i'd never dream of cheating.

Surprisingly, the most common place I encounter guys who have been cheated on by girls is the internet. I really can only think of a couple of my friends off the top of my head who have been cheated on, one of which goes out with girls he knows are whores, who he met by having a one night stand with them, so it's obvious what's going to happen there.

Reply 19

Nikolas

1

maag101

Yeah, she sounds like a right cow. What kind of girl would do that to a man she proclaims to love... bitch. *pats ste on the head sympathetically* It'll get better in a few weeks I promise. Time is a great healer you know. It's a cliche for a reason. :smile:

okay calm down a bit, steady on here. Perhaps she just got very drunk and didn't quite know what was going on and one thing led to another and she's incredibly embarassed of what's going on - just because she cheated doesn't mean she has immediately become a bitch overnight! Take some consolation in the fact that she at least had the dignity to tell you, becuase it shows that she respects you.

Meet up with her and have a serious talk face to face, tell her how much it means to you and that you want to work things out with her and hear her out. Then at least if she convinces you that a relationship won't work you won't feel so hard done by.

Time is a healer, but it takes a bloody long time. Don't listen to the people who say ***** like "get over her, get under someone else" becuase life isn't like that when you're dealing with someone you truly care about.

I wish you good luck mate, and feel really sorry for ya :frown:

so down :(

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