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    My depression is managed in that I no longer want to top myself. But I still struggle with indecisiveness, low motivation, boredom, poor concentration etc. Don't know what to do in my spare time.

    I could play guitar, watch TV, read novels, study maths (not a student in this though and have no career in it), learn to draw, or exercise.

    Right now all I manage is listening to music which is good fun but can get boring.

    Don't know what to do.
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    Do exercise while listening to music
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    i'm quite similiar tbh... low concentration, sometimes i'm sharp sometimes I can't even remember little things, have a general determination to do something, anything but indecisive. I want to learn a new language for example, the problem is I can make myself interested in anything, therefore there's no conceivable reason for me to learn one over another... :/

    It's made worse by the fact I know this is called paralysis in decision theory and I know how to stop it lol.
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    (Original post by DErasmus)
    i'm quite similiar tbh... low concentration, sometimes i'm sharp sometimes I can't even remember little things, have a general determination to do something, anything but indecisive. I want to learn a new language for example, the problem is I can make myself interested in anything, therefore there's no conceivable reason for me to learn one over another... :/

    It's made worse by the fact I know this is called paralysis in decision theory and I know how to stop it lol.
    How do you stop it?
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    How do you stop it?
    Imo it's caused by passivity and overthinking, instead you need to spend more time doing and focusing instead of thinking about the thing you're doing. A desire to want some sort of certainty leads to indecision because that condition will never be met. So for example, you might say: I could play the guitar, then you'll assess it and you'll eventually never do it. Instead you should be playing the guitar right now

    Ring any bells?
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    (Original post by DErasmus)
    Imo it's caused by passivity and overthinking, instead you need to spend more time doing and focusing instead of thinking about the thing you're doing. A desire to want some sort of certainty leads to indecision because that condition will never be met. So for example, you might say: I could play the guitar, then you'll assess it and you'll eventually never do it. Instead you should be playing the guitar right now

    Ring any bells?
    Definitely

    People have sometimes told me I'm an over thinker rather than a doer and it's hard to stop the.behaviour you describe.

    So hard to weigh up activities to decide what's best though...especially when some of your activities that you'd like to do are a bit quirky like studying maths even though it's not a career or anything.
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    (Original post by nohomo)
    Definitely

    People have sometimes told me I'm an over thinker rather than a doer and it's hard to stop the.behaviour you describe.

    So hard to weigh up activities to decide what's best though...especially when some of your activities that you'd like to do are a bit quirky like studying maths even though it's not a career or anything.
    Like I said I suffer from the same problem. I'm unfortunately a sucker for giving brilliant advice and not being able to take it (although i've taken the advice I give on confidence so there is still hope) :/. I guess what we have to do is spend more time doing instead of weighing things up, we have to make ourselves irrational, you want to do maths? do it and hope everything falls into place. We need to quit asking for reasons and start doing.
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    (Original post by nohomo)
    My depression is managed in that I no longer want to top myself. But I still struggle with indecisiveness, low motivation, boredom, poor concentration etc. Don't know what to do in my spare time.

    I could play guitar, watch TV, read novels, study maths (not a student in this though and have no career in it), learn to draw, or exercise.

    Right now all I manage is listening to music which is good fun but can get boring.

    Don't know what to do.
    I know it sounds simple and something we take for granted but try going for a walk.
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    (Original post by Hachik0)
    I know it sounds simply and something we take for granted but try going for a walk.
    I do this and the solutions I come up to really are great, I walked back home the other day trying to solve a history question came up with 2 solid arguments .
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    Be homo
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    My free time is either drinking or playing COD. I love being a student
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    (Original post by DErasmus)
    I do this and the solutions I come up to really are great, I walked back home the other day trying to solve a history question came up with 2 solid arguments .
    Thats great

    One thing i would suggest though is that while walking, try to experience that specific moment in time. Try to keep your mind focused at what you're currently doing. For example, notice whats around you. The smell, what you can see, what you can hear.

    We take it all for granted. So next time you go for a walk. Take a step back, think and appreciate your surroundings. If you know of a good place which will offer you lots of stimulation try that. Perhaps a park or woods.
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    (Original post by nohomo)
    My depression is managed in that I no longer want to top myself. But I still struggle with indecisiveness, low motivation, boredom, poor concentration etc. Don't know what to do in my spare time.

    I could play guitar, watch TV, read novels, study maths (not a student in this though and have no career in it), learn to draw, or exercise.

    Right now all I manage is listening to music which is good fun but can get boring.

    Don't know what to do.
    I am not taking the piss when I say this: masturbate.

    You can find all kind of cool porn to watch and discover new fetishes :daydreaming: I find this kind of thing very comforting (depening on the fetish - some of them are very annoying). Orgasms are great and make you feel better/productive :yep:
 
 
 
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