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    Hi all,

    I am at university with a girl on my course who is a good friend. I have known her for a few years now and have a little crush on her.

    On imessenger we sometimes text for hours, but other times she will not respond for a day or two. I don't know what to make of this.

    Most of the time she will initiate the conversation, when I reply she will then ignore my reply. The following day or a day or two later she will initiate the conversation again and ignore my response again. Is she just playing with me? or maybe she just initiates conversation to be polite.

    Thoughts on how I should proceed (without appearing needy or confronting her)?
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    If it's a conversation not worth having, she won't reply. Same as with real communication, it stops once it gets boring.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi all,

    I am at university with a girl on my course who is a good friend. I have known her for a few years now and have a little crush on her.

    On imessenger we sometimes text for hours, but other times she will not respond for a day or two. I don't know what to make of this.

    Most of the time she will initiate the conversation, when I reply she will then ignore my reply. The following day or a day or two later she will initiate the conversation again and ignore my response again. Is she just playing with me? or maybe she just initiates conversation to be polite.

    Thoughts on how I should proceed (without appearing needy or confronting her)?

    Try to meet up!

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    (Original post by shawn_o1)
    If it's a conversation not worth having, she won't reply. Same as with real communication, it stops once it gets boring.
    She usually starts the conversation - and it is often idle chit chat, but then leaves me hanging after I reply. Annoying because she will then initiate the chat again the following day and do the exact same thing.

    Lately she has been quiet for a few days at a time.

    I usually leave her to it, but as I said, I do like her and would consider more than friendship if she was interested
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    She usually starts the conversation - and it is often idle chit chat, but then leaves me hanging after I reply. Annoying because she will then initiate the chat again the following day and do the exact same thing.

    Lately she has been quiet for a few days at a time.

    I usually leave her to it, but as I said, I do like her and would consider more than friendship if she was interested
    Any thoughts, especially from girls, on why she does this and how I should proceed would be appreciated.

    The possibilities I considered are:

    1. The conservation is going nowhere, so she ignores my reply
    2. She initiates conversation to keep in touch when we don't meet for a while
    3. She is busy
    4. She realises I have a crush on her and only wants to be friends, so she cools down the messaging after a short time.
    5. She wants to keep the conversation going over a few days rather than have it end within half an hour, so doesn't reply until the following day

    I suppose the possible reasons are infinite, and it is nothing for me to get worked up about. But find it a little bit annoying, especially because she is not the sort to mess around with peoples head
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    Any thoughts?

    I know I am over analysing this, but it is something that has been bugging me for a few months now
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    sounds like she's playing you around a bit and you don't want to be with a girl like that in my opinion..go for someone who you know for definite won't play you around
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Any thoughts?

    I know I am over analysing this, but it is something that has been bugging me for a few months now
    Honestly, she may be feeling a bit paranoid that she's coming on too strong always being the one to initiate the chat?


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    (Original post by kerrydouglas)
    Honestly, she may be feeling a bit paranoid that she's coming on too strong always being the one to initiate the chat?


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    That could be true.

    More thoughts from girls point of view welcome...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    That could be true.

    More thoughts from girls point of view welcome...
    I've been in that position before and if that's the case try texting her first a couple of times? Sorry for such a slow reply how are things working out?


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    (Original post by kerrydouglas)
    I've been in that position before and if that's the case try texting her first a couple of times? Sorry for such a slow reply how are things working out?


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    Month long Christmas holidays not helping.

    It can be difficult to understand the other persons intentions/thoughts through text messages
 
 
 
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