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    Here goes, went out the last week with a mate and when out saw someone there who lives on the same student accomodation as me (know her already, see each other once a week?) and basically we went to a club and were dancing till closing and being honest I had a great time, one of the best nights I've had ever.

    We were dancing with each other and no one else (well two friends were near by) and I'd say it was going well. However, when going home she was staying at a friends house and so I couldn't really do anything so me and my friend went home. Did get a kiss on the cheek which I may have made a move on if she wee coming home as well. :p:

    Anyway, going out Friday night and she will be out as well I think so whats the best way to go about finding out if she likes me?

    I'm thinking I can dance with her again or just drink a little to get the courage to ask one of her friends if she likes me and take it from there? :cool:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    or just drink a little to get the courage to ask one of her friends if she likes me and take it from there? :cool:
    fantastic, I reckon you'll get the St George Cross for bravery
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    (Original post by MagicNMedicine)
    fantastic, I reckon you'll get the St George Cross for bravery
    Sorry but not my fault that I'm actually quite shy because of past experience is it?

    Just two drinks loosens me up and helps when asking (what is for me) awkward questions.
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    dance more with her, try getting alittle down and dirty on the dance floor perhaps?
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    I think if you got a peck on the cheek and dancing all night, she does like you.
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    (Original post by Zoecb)
    I think if you got a peck on the cheek and dancing all night, she does like you.
    You think? Peck on the check was when we were saying bye for the night and she went off to her friends house. Hug and peck it was, maybe she wanted something more if I had made a move maybe?

    When dancing I'd say we had a good chemistry going on as well.

    So how do I play it now?

    I have two choices for friday night you see, go out with mates and invite her along or go out where she is going where I might just go anyway?
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    Sorry but not my fault that I'm actually quite shy because of past experience is it?
    No, but it is your fault you allow yourself to be controlled by it.
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    I'd go with the latter. She knows you're a good dancer and had a good time with you so she will probably be drawn to you again. Perhaps this time buy her a drink and talk to her. That's the only way a peck on the cheek may become more :p: Good luck x
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    (Original post by LadyEnglish)
    I'd go with the latter. She knows you're a good dancer and had a good time with you so she will probably be drawn to you again. Perhaps this time buy her a drink and talk to her. That's the only way a peck on the cheek may become more :p: Good luck x
    Thanks :p:

    Brought her a drink last time and we talked a little but not much as it was just pure dancing all night.

    She did get paranoid about something though and I comforted her about it so thats all good and she felt good again.

    Going to go where she is going then. :p:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    You think? Peck on the cheek was when we were saying bye for the night and she went off to her friend's house. Hug and peck it was, maybe she wanted something more if I had made a move maybe?
    Just saying, I wouldn't give a random guy a peck on the cheek unless I liked him. Doesn't mean she wanted anything more straight away, I'd say that's an action to let you know you're quite nice and she might be interested.

    Just my opinion. I'm not representative of all women.
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    i wouldn't the minute you enter the club on friday or whenever, go up to her and say something like ZOMFG DANCE WITH ME BECAUSE I AM CLEARLY DESPERATE- instead, make eye contact and smile or something when you see her, but then go back to your friends, and watch to see if she starts flirting/ dancing with anyone else- only you can judge this properly. then if it looks good, go and dance with her or something.
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    (Original post by Rich_1089)
    i wouldn't the minute you enter the club on friday or whenever, go up to her and say something like ZOMFG DANCE WITH ME BECAUSE I AM CLEARLY DESPERATE- instead, make eye contact and smile or something when you see her, but then go back to your friends, and watch to see if she starts flirting/ dancing with anyone else- only you can judge this properly. then if it looks good, go and dance with her or something.
    Well I actually knew her before last week anyway as she lives about 8 houses away on my student accomodation. Will just have general chit chat and see how it goes. No doubt I will be dancing anyway and she'll most likely come to me for a dance/chat so I'll leave the ball in her court unless it gets late?

    Anyway for me to show I am interested other than straight up saying so? Already done sexy dancing which will be done again, anything else though?

    Had already exchanged phone numbers you see (well I had hers) before we saw each other last week. She did ask me if I had her number though so she obviously wanted me to contact her. Did that the next day, sent a few messages asking how the night went (she enjoyed it) and then asked if she was out Tuesday but she gave it a miss.

    Looking at it now it seems I am in with a pretty good chance, but the reason I post here is because I've never been with anyone before so need confirmation in case I am reading it all wrong. :p:

    One more thing, when shes out on friday it will be with her housemates and I know all those as well, if I buy her a drink but no one else it'll look like I want something (fair enough I do :p: ) but then it'll be obvious and if it backfires everyone'll take the piss. How do I go about this then? Just ask her to come to the bar with me when I get myself a drink for a chat and then get her one whilst it's just us there?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Well I actually knew her before last week anyway as she lives about 8 houses away on my student accomodation. Will just have general chit chat and see how it goes. No doubt I will be dancing anyway and she'll most likely come to me for a dance/chat so I'll leave the ball in her court unless it gets late?

    Anyway for me to show I am interested other than straight up saying so? Already done sexy dancing which will be done again, anything else though?

    Had already exchanged phone numbers you see (well I had hers) before we saw each other last week. She did ask me if I had her number though so she obviously wanted me to contact her. Did that the next day, sent a few messages asking how the night went (she enjoyed it) and then asked if she was out Tuesday but she gave it a miss.

    Looking at it now it seems I am in with a pretty good chance, but the reason I post here is because I've never been with anyone before so need confirmation in case I am reading it all wrong. :p:

    One more thing, when shes out on friday it will be with her housemates and I know all those as well, if I buy her a drink but no one else it'll look like I want something (fair enough I do :p: ) but then it'll be obvious and if it backfires everyone'll take the piss. How do I go about this then? Just ask her to come to the bar with me when I get myself a drink for a chat and then get her one whilst it's just us there?
    hmm, this is tricky. yes, i'd do what you suggest. her friends can't expect you to spend your entire student loan on them, and anyway, you're dating this girl, not her and her entourage of friends as well. i think you'll be fine. just play it cool, and try not to seem like you're all nervous and jittery, because she won't feel as confident then, and start to look for someone who is.
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    Yeah, well when I have had a few I grow in confidence anyway so that'll be fine I reckon. :p:

    It aint a proper date as such either, just I asked her if shes going to "insert place here" and she goes yeah. Will play it cool like you said, hopefully she won't be at work saturday or tired and will stay until closing, that way I can see how things pan out and give me time to see if she wants to make a move first or see if I will have to?

    If I have to make the first move how would I go about it and how can I be sure it's the right thing to do and what she wants?

    Oh and anyone else got any thoughts, need all the help I can get as I really like this girl and would like something to happen from it, more than just a shag as well as shes proper sound.
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    Oh yeah, theres a comedy night on tonight at the place we are going to on friday, I'm going with one of my housemates but do you think I should invite her as well?

    Thing is if I invite just her and not her housemates you think that'll give off a strong signal I like her? I'm thinking about asking her to come but then would it be better just to wait until tommorrow when she is out with friends and just ask her to the same night next week if things go well tommorrow?
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    Anyone got anything to say about asking her for tonight?

    Housemates just asked about going into the city centre or can go to the campus SU bar.

    Or just wait until tommorrow?

    Will be going at about 10/11 so need quick replys. :P
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    its worth asking her yes!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yeah, well when I have had a few I grow in confidence anyway so that'll be fine I reckon. :p:

    It aint a proper date as such either, just I asked her if shes going to "insert place here" and she goes yeah. Will play it cool like you said, hopefully she won't be at work saturday or tired and will stay until closing, that way I can see how things pan out and give me time to see if she wants to make a move first or see if I will have to?

    If I have to make the first move how would I go about it and how can I be sure it's the right thing to do and what she wants?

    Oh and anyone else got any thoughts, need all the help I can get as I really like this girl and would like something to happen from it, more than just a shag as well as shes proper sound.
    Offer to walk her home, and just casually hold hands or have your arm around her shoulders, or arms linked. That will show to her that you're quite a bit interested, and when you leave her at her door, if she's not giving you any indication of a good night kiss, ask for one. If she kisses you on the cheek, but you get the feeling that she may prefer a proper kiss, tell her she can do better than that - and she'll rise to the challenge.

    If you want a proper relationship with the girl, definitely don't sleep with her after walking her home, take things slowly and steadily, and make sure that when things do progress, that the two of you are perfectly clear about where you're at and how far to go. The only way to make a relationship work is to keep all lines of communication open and to keep on talking to each other.
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    Offer to walk her home, and just casually hold hands or have your arm around her shoulders, or arms linked. That will show to her that you're quite a bit interested, and when you leave her at her door, if she's not giving you any indication of a good night kiss, ask for one. If she kisses you on the cheek, but you get the feeling that she may prefer a proper kiss, tell her she can do better than that - and she'll rise to the challenge.

    If you want a proper relationship with the girl, definitely don't sleep with her after walking her home, take things slowly and steadily, and make sure that when things do progress, that the two of you are perfectly clear about where you're at and how far to go. The only way to make a relationship work is to keep all lines of communication open and to keep on talking to each other.
    Yeah, but we only live like 1 minute walk away from the SU bar and then she (and I) both live in a house with 10 other people so probably wouldn't be alone and I'd not like to make a move in front of other people. If she goes home early though by herself or is feeling down then do you suggest I go with her and comfort her like? Likewise, if shes having a good time but her friends go home, you say I should ask her to stay and I'll stay with her to ensure the good time continues?

    Also, decided not to ask her if she wants to come out tonight, just going to go out with mates and then just see how things go tommorrow. Will text her tommorrow though just to see if she's still up for the night though and if she has work on Saturday or anything.

    Thanks for all the advice so far, it's been sound and I hope to make the most of it!
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    Yeah, but we only live like 1 minute walk away from the SU bar and then she (and I) both live in a house with 10 other people so probably wouldn't be alone and I'd not like to make a move in front of other people. If she goes home early though by herself or is feeling down then do you suggest I go with her and comfort her like? Likewise, if shes having a good time but her friends go home, you say I should ask her to stay and I'll stay with her to ensure the good time continues?

    Also, decided not to ask her if she wants to come out tonight, just going to go out with mates and then just see how things go tommorrow. Will text her tommorrow though just to see if she's still up for the night though and if she has work on Saturday or anything.

    Thanks for all the advice so far, it's been sound and I hope to make the most of it!

    If she goes early, or stays 'til the end, you do the same. If necessary, tell her you need a breath of fresh air and see if she follows you outside. Once on your own with her, hold her hand, and smile, and see what happens.

    Worst case senario is you'll have to actually open your mouth to utter the words "I really like you, do you want to make something of it?"

    From the sound of it she's as interested in you as you are in her, but simply play it by ear, be gentle and and drop as many subtle hints in the form of body language and physical contact as possible.
 
 
 
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