Why are women expected to look so perfect?

Even when men are not? I remember a guy/friend I used to live with (went on several dates with) hating it when I cut my hair short (it was chin length) and telling me to grow it long. He had a receding hairline and was basically bald at the front/shaved the rest but no one pestered him about it. He also didn't make much effort with clothing ie jeans and dirty trainers most of the time yet kept hinting at me to wear heels, dresses and dress up more ( Im only 4ft 11 but hate walking in heels!). I even went to the gym and because I like lifting weights and having lean muscle (helps with my running/climbing sport too) he said I should not go as much (plus I was flat chested but gaining weight doesn't change that for me). I think that's why he ended it, we were complete opposites lol. Seems I did everything wrong but I was just being who I am.

Are there any men (in their 20's or 30's) who would accept someone like me lol? It seems that only men over 50 are interested in me :/

How old are you?

Even when men are not? I remember a guy/friend I used to live with (went on several dates with) hating it when I cut my hair short (it was chin length) and telling me to grow it long. He had a receding hairline and was basically bald at the front/shaved the rest but no one pestered him about it. He also didn't make much effort with clothing ie jeans and dirty trainers most of the time yet kept hinting at me to wear heels, dresses and dress up more ( Im only 4ft 11 but hate walking in heels!). I even went to the gym and because I like lifting weights and having lean muscle (helps with my running/climbing sport too) he said I should not go as much (plus I was flat chested but gaining weight doesn't change that for me). I think that's why he ended it, we were complete opposites lol. Seems I did everything wrong but I was just being who I am.

Are there any men (in their 20's or 30's) who would accept someone like me lol? It seems that only men over 50 are interested in me :/

First let's set the groundwork. There is no such thing as perfect. No woman looks perfect. Ok now moving on, I would be lying if I said men don't notice every single detail about the looks of a woman they love. To them it is of cardinal importance. Second only to how nice the woman is to him.

Let's not pretend these priorities are the same for women. I don't know any woman who can honestly say she would like it if her man was better looking than her.

tbh the guy you dated sounds like a bit of a prick

First let's set the groundwork. There is no such thing as perfect. No woman looks perfect. Ok now moving on, I would be lying if I said men don't notice every single detail about the looks of a woman they love. To them it is of cardinal importance. Second only to how nice the woman is to him.

Let's not pretend these priorities are the same for women. I don't know any woman who can honestly say she would like it if her man was better looking than her.

Women notice every single detail on the men they love too, I noticed everything from his dirty shoelaces to how many little biscuit crumbs he has stuck in his beard most mornings (I could even match the crumb to the biscuit!).

I don't know any woman who would honestly prefer an ugly man. Though as you say maybe the priorities arn't the same hence why he ended it with me, but this is what I am questioning.

Really? I would have thought lots would want their boyfriend to be better looking than them, especially if they don't consider themselves to be pretty (this is the case for me anyway).

Also I think that whilst women do take into account men's appearance, they don't expect so much from them (ie make-up, shaving...)

Even when men are not? I remember a guy/friend I used to live with (went on several dates with) hating it when I cut my hair short (it was chin length) and telling me to grow it long. He had a receding hairline and was basically bald at the front/shaved the rest but no one pestered him about it. He also didn't make much effort with clothing ie jeans and dirty trainers most of the time yet kept hinting at me to wear heels, dresses and dress up more ( Im only 4ft 11 but hate walking in heels!). I even went to the gym and because I like lifting weights and having lean muscle (helps with my running/climbing sport too) he said I should not go as much (plus I was flat chested but gaining weight doesn't change that for me). I think that's why he ended it, we were complete opposites lol. Seems I did everything wrong but I was just being who I am.

Are there any men (in their 20's or 30's) who would accept someone like me lol? It seems that only men over 50 are interested in me :/

(I could even match the crumb to the biscuit!).

You may not consider that about yourself but take it from me that a man who wants you will find you pretty. What you are talking about is a case where the woman is completely ugly so no man would fall for her, but in this case there would be no man to compare her to.

Of course women shouldn't expect their men to groom to that extent that the woman feels she actually has to put effort in to compete with him.

Lol what?

Men are expected to be intelligent, confident, funny, successful, tall, good looking, rich, muscular, large penis etc etc

All we want is an above average face and a small waist. All a woman needs to do to be considered attractive is not be overweight, it's not hard to watch your diet and do cardio a couple times a week.

Lol at women complaining about looks when it's men who are under more pressure to look good plus men are expected to make the first move while you hide behind your make up.

When do you ever see men making a big deal about a woman's height, confidence or how much money she makes?

No such thing as an ugly girl, only a lazy girl.

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