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    I find this difficult to explain so i'll just give examples of my past:
    My Best friend(boy) at school who i spent everyday with got new friends and just drifted away, first it was lying that his friend was there and that was it really.

    every job and i have had 14 over 5 years i have made friends but it never seems enough for them to want to go out with me, it might be because i'm not as lively but i get scared of loosing friends and i am sick of leaving work and these people fading from me.

    Now i'm coming to the same boat although i can't tell as i have a good friend and whenever there's others sitting around us i feel like i can't chat because they are chatting and she's the only one i trust.

    Is it normal to want to spend everyday with a friend or would you class that as a girlfriend as she has a boyfriend i just want to be friends. I mean i went to a bar with her and her boyfriend but i just want to meet her say once a week because she's a great friend and i even miss her when she's not at work.

    What do other people do.
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    Double posting isn't the way to get many replies :rolleyes:

    Back to your problem, if she's at work how come you don't see her everyday? I assume that one of you works part time. I'm affraid that there is not much you can do. Her boyfriend wouldn't want her to spend time with a new male friend (as opposed to old male friends who have been in the "Friends Zone" for ages, as opposed to romance zone). She might think it's awkward to meet up with a boy that regularly when you're not actually going out and she is in a relationship.

    Anyway, if you see her more often I can guarantee you that you will fall in love with her (even though you say she's just a good friend). Friendship often grows into love, and especially if you are feeling lonely and you like her and she's nice to you.

    So really, just enjoy the time that you do spend with her / see her, and hope that she will become fond of you and will want to get together with you. I doubt that she will risk losing a serious relationship because of an opportunity to become friends with another guy or even start a new relationship (with you), unless she really likes you. That's lame advice, I know, but that's the best I can do Sorry
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    I know I just want security in seeing the same people everyday even though i have to change jobs which is what i will be doing at the end of this month. Maybe it's having structure of a permanent job that i nee.
    Am i right in saying that everybody needs someone there for them at least every week. Like a friend, i am guessing that the general rule is to have a boy as a friend because being friends with girls is on the same level as a girlfriend.
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    Yeah I think you do need someone there for you all the time, at least once week! When I say all the time I don't mean seeing them every day but knowing that if you need them you can give them a call and they'll be there

    I'm lucky, I have a brother who is one of my best friends in the world, and I see him every day! My best friend (girl) lives quite far but we see each other every week and chat on the phone a few times a week as well. I can always count on her if I need cheering up

    Why do you have to change jobs so often? Stability is comforting!
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    (Original post by tanusha-tomsk)
    Yeah I think you do need someone there for you all the time, at least once week! When I say all the time I don't mean seeing them every day but knowing that if you need them you can give them a call and they'll be there

    I'm lucky, I have a brother who is one of my best friends in the world, and I see him every day! My best friend (girl) lives quite far but we see each other every week and chat on the phone a few times a week as well. I can always count on her if I need cheering up

    Why do you have to change jobs so often? Stability is comforting!
    I work as a temp though i am saving up to do my flying. I just need stability so much and i can only be confident when i know that my friends wont desert me, I have just had this in the past and i either feel to scared to talk or i just go completely over confident which is also not a good thing in my experience but then sometimes i meet hyperactive people who probably think im quiet and then when i learn that people are hyper i go hyper in another job and they are conserved.

    I don't know maybe once i have my job sorted i'll feel ok, i just hope to keep my friends from this work as they are good people and you dont get that many around
 
 
 
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