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Reply 1
confident on the outside, but shy inside... if u get me
Reply 2
Yeh..........,
Reply 3
How come Girls Don't Approahc Guys, on the street or in a place?
Reply 4
cos lads put up a front, and IMO Id get laughed at, and then be humiliated which sucks 
Reply 5
11
Confident looking but shy inside.
Reply 6
Paranoia/shyness/lack of confidence normally tends to be a turn-off for girls.
Reply 7
NB. Confident girls are hot! I do tend to go on about this tho...
Reply 8
Anonymous
How come Girls Don't Approahc Guys, on the street or in a place?
Because if the guy isn't interested [enough to ask for my number] then he's not. You can't make a guy fancy you, you can only step aside and let him
Back to the original question - I'd be flattered either way and I wouldn't turn away from a confident guy but I do like shy guys (well they can't be that shy if they approached me on the street!)
Reply 9
Not overwhelmingly confident. However, preferably confident so he has no problems talking and interacting with people. Also confident enough to take an opportunity while its there, not hold it off so he doesn't grasp it. I also like them to be sensitive on the inside though, so they are caring, sweet and loving.
Yeah I think women in general are attracted to confident guys more. We have evolved that way. This is because a women wants a man who can help support a family with her (income etc) and protect her.
justfarhan
Paranoia/shyness/lack of confidence normally tends to be a turn-off for girls.
Yeah I think women in general are attracted to confident guys more. We have evolved that way. This is because a women wants a man who can help support a family with her (income etc) and protect her.
Reply 10
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I like a lad that is confident enough to talk in social groups and classes but are shy inside (same as the other posts) and by the word 'shy' I mean caring, approachable (always smiling/laughing) and have a friendly nature about himself.
I don't like really confident lads the ones that show off and are loud mouths infact, they put me off totally.
I don't like really confident lads the ones that show off and are loud mouths infact, they put me off totally.
Reply 11
I love shy guys, but I'm shy myself so we never speak.Reply 12
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Anonymous I love shy guys, but I'm shy myself so we never speak.
I love shy guys, but I'm shy myself so we never speak.Try talking to him
I'm sure he'll appreciate it. I like a shy guy but he's confident enough to talk to people who talk to him... And I just went for it and got talking to him...I have a feeling he knows I like him especially when my so great friends made it ever so obvious...
Ah well...Reply 13
In my experience those who are overwhelmingly confident do just that, overwhelm. I'm presently in a long term relationship (1 year, woot!) and thats mostly because (apparently) I was confident to start with (which is, in all honestly, a side effect of being shy -- making jokes, up for smalltalk etc.) but was very shy when it came to actual relationship issues. Its apparently endearing.
My best advice to anyone curious on the subject is literally, and cornily enough, just be yourself. If you're yourself then its all good but if you're not you have to put on an act and it sucks. Plus those who don't have the 'confident' vibe about them naturally when trying to pull it off artificially tend towards being offensive and irritating to those he or she is trying to impress.
Just my 2 pence, there.
- r_o
My best advice to anyone curious on the subject is literally, and cornily enough, just be yourself. If you're yourself then its all good but if you're not you have to put on an act and it sucks. Plus those who don't have the 'confident' vibe about them naturally when trying to pull it off artificially tend towards being offensive and irritating to those he or she is trying to impress.
Just my 2 pence, there.
- r_o
Reply 14
Anonymous
How come Girls Don't Approahc Guys, on the street or in a place?
It is for the woman to attract the male, thus encouraging the male to make the move. I like that.
Reply 15
I love shy guys, but I'm shy myself so we never speak.Reply 16
i like guys who are modest, enough confidence to stand up for himself etc, and shy as in...gentle.
Reply 17
Somewhere in the middle for me. I like guys who are confident enough to have a laugh, have a good conversation and enjoy my time with. However I do like guys who know when to tone it down and are gentle and humble.
Reply 18
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tanusha-tomsk
Because if the guy isn't interested [enough to ask for my number] then he's not. You can't make a guy fancy you, you can only step aside and let him
Surely the guys could say the same about not bothering with girls who don't come and ask for their number?
Somewhat silly outlook if you ask me!
Reply 19
justfarhan
Paranoia/shyness/lack of confidence normally tends to be a turn-off for girls.
Well, I have no hope then
-Saruman
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