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droppin out of uni
not sure if this is in the right section but anyway...ive been in uni for 3 wks now and i hate it so much i want to drop out. i have only made 2 friends, i dont understand my course - its too difficult, i hate living on campus, im invisible - no1 notices me and i hate the people in my hall. they steal my food and plates n stuff. i also av 2 do a presentation in front of like 60 people soon..and im sooo scared of speaking in public. i jus dont know how to tell my parents that i want to leave uni. they've paid so much already..i dont wanna disappoint them. wat can i do? 
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Okay you must tell the uni about this. Give them a chance. There is so much they can do.
Also, which uni/course is this?
Also, which uni/course is this?
2 friends is plenty enough.
Wipe raw chicken on your plates and cutlery and wash them before you use them but the others will get food poisoning.
Noone likes speaking in public if it is their first time. Know your stuff inside out and you'll be fine. Noone will notice that you are scared
Wipe raw chicken on your plates and cutlery and wash them before you use them but the others will get food poisoning.
Noone likes speaking in public if it is their first time. Know your stuff inside out and you'll be fine. Noone will notice that you are scared
no, we dont have a resident tutor system.
im doing psychology and there is no other course that i would want to do instead..
im doing psychology and there is no other course that i would want to do instead..
Which uni is this? There must be someone you can talk to
1) I am sure that you have some sort of councellors at uni, whoc you can talk to.
2) Two friends is fine! And if you want more, join societies.
3) Everyone is sort of invisible on a big campus, don't expect people to come up to you to make friends.
4) If you have problems with your flatmates, you can always move.
5) For heaven's sake, if you are so much into psychology, I am sure you could have worked out some of these for yourself.
2) Two friends is fine! And if you want more, join societies.
3) Everyone is sort of invisible on a big campus, don't expect people to come up to you to make friends.
4) If you have problems with your flatmates, you can always move.
5) For heaven's sake, if you are so much into psychology, I am sure you could have worked out some of these for yourself.
Firstly relax, you not the only person in this situation, it happens to a lot of people every year.
Next of all, realise you really CAN approach you parents. They love you, and will be able to offer good advise. it will also help to get it off your chest. I can garuntee you they will support your decision, no matter what it is. As long as you explain your whole situation, they will understand.
Believe me here, I have been there- last year i dropped out, yes you don't want to dissapoint them, but in the end, your only lying to them, and more importantly yourself, if you dont tell them.
I was struggling with the maths on my engineering course, and even though i had friends and liked the uni, i wasnt learning, the teaching methods didn't suit me. i had to wait and reapply this year as i didnt drop out till after christmas.
If you act now, you will be able to do something. Your uni will have a guidance/counciling service and there always great people. The uni staff are there to help, don't be shy with this, kick up a fuss and pester them and thigns will get done.
If your not liking your halls, ask to move. do you have any friends in other halls?
If you don't like your course, see if there are vacnacies on any other and give them ago- its not too late to change. a week or two can be caught up.
If your really stressed out, and you dont think that will help, then by all means drop out!
REMEMBER: DROPPING OUT DOES NOT MEAN FAILURE!
Think of this as a massive positive step. youve discovered this course isnt for you, so find something you might like. you havent failed at your course, youve mearly opened a door to more options, some you may not have considered before.
i found dropping out to be a massive positive step in my own learning. This year, ive only been here a week and im loving the place. as had half a year out as a kinda gap year, im older than most of this year group, and i find myself a bit more mature- which is a good thing. have found it easier to socialise and make freinds, and to top it off the course is much better this time!
Take a year out if you need to, consider your options, relax. Maybe go traveling, maybe earn some money. justt do something that isn't siting around and you will benifit imensely from it.
Feel free to PM if you need to chat more.
Next of all, realise you really CAN approach you parents. They love you, and will be able to offer good advise. it will also help to get it off your chest. I can garuntee you they will support your decision, no matter what it is. As long as you explain your whole situation, they will understand.
Believe me here, I have been there- last year i dropped out, yes you don't want to dissapoint them, but in the end, your only lying to them, and more importantly yourself, if you dont tell them.
I was struggling with the maths on my engineering course, and even though i had friends and liked the uni, i wasnt learning, the teaching methods didn't suit me. i had to wait and reapply this year as i didnt drop out till after christmas.
If you act now, you will be able to do something. Your uni will have a guidance/counciling service and there always great people. The uni staff are there to help, don't be shy with this, kick up a fuss and pester them and thigns will get done.
If your not liking your halls, ask to move. do you have any friends in other halls?
If you don't like your course, see if there are vacnacies on any other and give them ago- its not too late to change. a week or two can be caught up.
If your really stressed out, and you dont think that will help, then by all means drop out!
REMEMBER: DROPPING OUT DOES NOT MEAN FAILURE!
Think of this as a massive positive step. youve discovered this course isnt for you, so find something you might like. you havent failed at your course, youve mearly opened a door to more options, some you may not have considered before.
i found dropping out to be a massive positive step in my own learning. This year, ive only been here a week and im loving the place. as had half a year out as a kinda gap year, im older than most of this year group, and i find myself a bit more mature- which is a good thing. have found it easier to socialise and make freinds, and to top it off the course is much better this time!
Take a year out if you need to, consider your options, relax. Maybe go traveling, maybe earn some money. justt do something that isn't siting around and you will benifit imensely from it.
Feel free to PM if you need to chat more.
You should talk to someone, do you have a student advice centre? 2 friends are better then none so don't worry. Are you living in catered or self-catered halls? Surely you could report these people to reception or something. If I was you I'd give your course a chance, you've only been there 3 weeks. Degree level is daunting compared to A-level. There is a big difference but if you give it time you will get used to the level of work. 
^^^
Took the words right out of my mouth.
And I'm doing Psychology as well. If you post what you're struggling with I could try and help you?
So many people are going to be feeling like this hun. I remember my friend last year wanted to drop out every day but she didn't, she carried on and she's just going into her 2nd year as a more stronger person than ever. She only made friends with 1 person in her accomodation...s'not a bad thing.
And about speaking. I have to do a presentation in 2 weeks and I am crapping myself, completely but everyone's in the same boat and like my psychology tutor told us, in a nice way, you've just got to get over it. Everyone's got to do one and they wont be focusing on how nervous you are or anything.
Obviously it's up to you, whatever you decide to do but I would personally try and stick it out.
Took the words right out of my mouth.
And I'm doing Psychology as well. If you post what you're struggling with I could try and help you?
So many people are going to be feeling like this hun. I remember my friend last year wanted to drop out every day but she didn't, she carried on and she's just going into her 2nd year as a more stronger person than ever. She only made friends with 1 person in her accomodation...s'not a bad thing.
And about speaking. I have to do a presentation in 2 weeks and I am crapping myself, completely but everyone's in the same boat and like my psychology tutor told us, in a nice way, you've just got to get over it. Everyone's got to do one and they wont be focusing on how nervous you are or anything.
Obviously it's up to you, whatever you decide to do but I would personally try and stick it out.
im in exactly the same situation.I dont really make friends that well and only have a small set of mates. i have to do a presentation on monday infront of just 20 ppl, i get really nervous but everyones got to do it. Also i really didnt understand what i had to do for my assignment and i found the lectures really hard to undersand so today i went and had a word with my tutor. He was really friendly and gave me a lot of advice on what to do, they are there to help and if you have a problem with your course you should go and talk to them.
You say you feel invisible? I'm not saying you shouldn't feel this way but it is renowned that many students feel invisible when they start uni. It's a big change isn't it? You go from being in a cosy small environment in sixth form to being part of a massive group of students and you're expected to fend totally for yourself. I agree with the other posters, student's union and societies will help you make more friends (though it is impressive you've already made two, most people just have acquaintances at your stage of university!) and there are also student counsellers if you're feeling really low. Try telling your friends about your feelings, you'd be surprised how many people who appear confident on the outside are feeling vulnerable on the inside. There's so much bravado at university cos everyone's expected to have a great time so people fake that they are but a lot of people are just like you-it's nothing to be ashamed of, try sticking your course a little longer.
I considered dropping out in my first year around October/November time because of a lack of motivation and an abysmal social life but by the time I had the christmas holidays, I felt alot better and I figured I may as well see the year out, if I fail then fine, drop out but if I don't then I'll stay. Things improved, I stayed and pass my first year and I'm now in my 2nd year, looking back, I'm so glad that I never dropped out so don't take the decision lightly.
In terms of you course give it a bit longer as there is a jump between A level and degree and it is bound to take some time to get your head around some of the harder concepts. Maybe do some extra reading befor your lectures so you have a head start on them.
Two friends is a good start maybe try hanging out with them at their houses, and meet some of their friends, maybe try and join a society with one of them. There are lots of things to do. Don't keep things bottled up try and talk to someone.
Two friends is a good start maybe try hanging out with them at their houses, and meet some of their friends, maybe try and join a society with one of them. There are lots of things to do. Don't keep things bottled up try and talk to someone.
I'm really sorry you're finding uni hard. I know it's really difficult sometimes! Definitely speak to someone at the uni, joining societies is a really good idea to meet new people. If you can speak to the uni they might be able to move you to a better hall/flat to suit you. Also don't worry about telling your parents, they only want you to be happy and they'll just try and help you find a better place for you next year. You should try and last it out until December 1st cos you don't have to pay tuition fees til then!!! Good luck!
I told my dad that I'd dropped out of Uni (after pretending to still be going for 2 months) with a drunk text message when I was away for a weekend. Not the best plan! 
My advice, as a one-time drop out, is that if it's the University / course itself that you're not enjoying - then yeah you should seriously consider dropping out and trying again elsewhere. I did, and it was basically the best decision I ever made (2nd time round, I'm in 2nd year now and absoutely loving Uni). However, if the main problem isn't the University but YOU (nervousness about your work, not being confident/assertive enough with your flatmates etc.) then it's that you need to focus on, because it's going to be the same wherever you go.
Thirdly, Uni isn't for everyone... but unless you have a solid plan for what you DO want to do as a career - don't throw it away too quickly. Don't drop out to move home and work for the minimum wage indefinately, is what I'm basically saying. You might feel like you want to go home to your old life / old friends... but what you need to remember is that they'll be moving on too, and "home" can suddenly be a bit lonely.
My advice, as a one-time drop out, is that if it's the University / course itself that you're not enjoying - then yeah you should seriously consider dropping out and trying again elsewhere. I did, and it was basically the best decision I ever made (2nd time round, I'm in 2nd year now and absoutely loving Uni). However, if the main problem isn't the University but YOU (nervousness about your work, not being confident/assertive enough with your flatmates etc.) then it's that you need to focus on, because it's going to be the same wherever you go.
Thirdly, Uni isn't for everyone... but unless you have a solid plan for what you DO want to do as a career - don't throw it away too quickly. Don't drop out to move home and work for the minimum wage indefinately, is what I'm basically saying. You might feel like you want to go home to your old life / old friends... but what you need to remember is that they'll be moving on too, and "home" can suddenly be a bit lonely.
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I told my dad that I'd dropped out of Uni (after pretending to still be going for 2 months) with a drunk text message when I was away for a weekend. Not the best plan!
My advice, as a one-time drop out, is that if it's the University / course itself that you're not enjoying - then yeah you should seriously consider dropping out and trying again elsewhere. I did, and it was basically the best decision I ever made (2nd time round, I'm in 2nd year now and absoutely loving Uni). However, if the main problem isn't the University but YOU (nervousness about your work, not being confident/assertive enough with your flatmates etc.) then it's that you need to focus on, because it's going to be the same wherever you go.
Thirdly, Uni isn't for everyone... but unless you have a solid plan for what you DO want to do as a career - don't throw it away too quickly. Don't drop out to move home and work for the minimum wage indefinately, is what I'm basically saying. You might feel like you want to go home to your old life / old friends... but what you need to remember is that they'll be moving on too, and "home" can suddenly be a bit lonely.
My advice, as a one-time drop out, is that if it's the University / course itself that you're not enjoying - then yeah you should seriously consider dropping out and trying again elsewhere. I did, and it was basically the best decision I ever made (2nd time round, I'm in 2nd year now and absoutely loving Uni). However, if the main problem isn't the University but YOU (nervousness about your work, not being confident/assertive enough with your flatmates etc.) then it's that you need to focus on, because it's going to be the same wherever you go.
Thirdly, Uni isn't for everyone... but unless you have a solid plan for what you DO want to do as a career - don't throw it away too quickly. Don't drop out to move home and work for the minimum wage indefinately, is what I'm basically saying. You might feel like you want to go home to your old life / old friends... but what you need to remember is that they'll be moving on too, and "home" can suddenly be a bit lonely.
I really, really like this post. I desperatley want to withdraw and start again elsewhere and this post really made me think about it and figure things out about why i want to withdraw and if I'm makin the right decision. Thanks
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