I find uni lonely

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Reply 20

I found I get on really well with people in my flat and we go out together, then we meet up with our friends from courses and introduce them to eachother, before we know it theres a hue group of us.

Reply 21

samaira1178

i am currently at man met uni and am in my second year. I am a girl and am so lonely. I dont have any friends in manchester. I dont know why. In my first year i didnt go out much in the beggining of term because i was comletely skint. Afetr that nobody bothred with me anymore. I even cried myself to sleep how sad is that?. I started binge eating for comfort. When i moved into different halls i thought it would be different but it wasnt, all the students were foreighn. one is a chinese girl and the rest all guys. I have got one friend who is a guy but he tried it on with me (even though he knew i had a boyfriend) and because hes my only friend i pretended it never happened. Its so easy for me to make male friends but its not the same. They always try it on with me or ask me out. I have a loving caring boyfriend but still feel so depressed. Guys have never been a problem. weneva i go out i get so much attention from guys but that dosent matter to me. I even tried to make friends with the people at my placement but they are all older then me and im always the last one to know when they are ging out. They were all going out today so i asked one of them aout it and she ignored me. is it becoz im asian? i have asian friends that live at home but they are boring, they dont drink, dont go clubing and go straight home after uni. Everyday is like a challenge for me. trying to make friends. I had one girlfriend who came with me from my hmetown but she changed and stopped seeing me when she made new friends. She never let me meet them and never invited me to go out with her when she was with her friends. In the end we stopped talking on a night out and she said all those days in college (in my hometown) she hated me and was glad i had no friends here. sometimes i think im getting punished by god. But im strong and will survive this. and take each day as it comes. I just want to say that anybody that reads this that knows of any girl/guy that they dont bother talking to and ignore please talk to them this is horrible, try youre best to make an effort with them it could change their life.

Reply 22

Anonymous #6

I too am ever so lonely. I came to Plymouth uni to study dietetics. There was a 'click' formed on my course and I just felt left out all of the time. It has made me depressed at times. I tried to focus on my studies and I did make some friends outside of uni, but I found it so hard that at the end of the 1st year I left.
I am so upset because I did really well in my exams, but I just couldn't face going into year 2 and feeling as lonely as I had in year 1.
Since leaving Iwas much happier because I haven't had to see everyone speaking with each other and treating me as though I don't exist and my self esteem has improved.
Although dropping out is a last resort, I think it was the best thing for me to do. Maybe I will go back and study the subject again but at a different uni. The lecturers didn't do anything to help us get to know each other, in fact the lecturers added to the loneliness because they didn't know any of our names and never interacted with us either. Sometimes all I craved was some adult conversation! When I went on placement I enjoyed talking to people so much! I realised how much nobody spoke with me at uni!
I'm actually a very sociable person and lots of friends back home and have since made lots of friends outside of uni.

Reply 23

Guy Secretan

OMG don't resurrect a four year old thread

Reply 24

Nariel

Wow, looks like a lot of people are in the same boat then! I'm a third year now and have uni friends, but I didn't make them until six months into uni. I tried talking to a hell of a lot of people and they were really nice and still are, but we're not close friends. It took meeting one awesome person on my course, but that took months of talking to a lot of people who just didn't seem to share the same mindset/interests as me. With 100 people on the course, it took a while! After I made friends with one person, it seemed an awful lot easier to speak to others that were similar. I guess having a social safety net makes it easier. It's like once you make one friend, more naturally gravitate towards you. But it's totally a case of perseverance and working to show people you're fun to be around :smile:

Good luck!

Reply 25

shakool2kool

this is why ... YOU SHOULD HAVE ALL LIVED IN HALLS THE FIRST YEAR!
but saying that i said loads of mates that never lived in halls and would always bring them round and chill with them, so it does take time but eventually everyone makes friends in uni =]

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