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    I've met a girl at university who is an international student. She's on the Erasmus scheme, and is only here for one semester (until February).

    I really, really like her. She is pretty much my ideal girl: intelligent, funny, beautiful but understated, and she appreciates my sense of humour which is rare!

    I've spent quite a lot of time with her over the last couple of weeks, and we get on really well. The problem is, I have no idea if she feels the same way about me, or if she is even interested in a relationship with anyone for the short time she is here.

    She is a very reserved kind of person, and doesn't give a lot away in terms of how she feels about things. That is good in a way, because she has a beautiful smile and it feels really rewarding when I say something that makes her laugh. Sigh...

    Anyway, I want to know if she feels the same way about me but I'm not sure how to go about it. I asked one of her friends from the same country to do some very subtle investigating, but no joy; apparently she wouldn't give anything away.

    I called her earlier to see if she wanted to go for a walk in the park, but she was just about to leave for a class. I want to try and spend some time with her alone, but it's hard to get her away from her friends and I do not want to pester her and become annoying. I also do not want to risk ruining the friendship, because she's a really great girl and I would be mortified if I messed things up.

    I want to be pretty certain she likes me before I make any kind of move. Posting on here is a last resort as I've tried pretty much everything else. Can any of you help? I'd be really grateful
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    I think asking her out on a date would be a good idea and then taking her to somewhere really nice not in an expensive sense but e.g. to place which does food or particular dish she likes and then taking a walk or going onto a nice place for a drink, cocktails are always good. Do something from the heart, don't be cheesy!!

    Asking her out on a date I think will say to her I like you and I want to spend time together as more than friends. If she says no then you tried but make it clear you still want to be friends.

    I hope this is useful!

    Root xx
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    I think asking her out on a date would be a good idea and then taking her to somewhere really nice not in an expensive sense but e.g. to place which does food or particular dish she likes and then taking a walk or going onto a nice place for a drink, cocktails are always good. Do something from the heart, don't be cheesy!!

    Asking her out on a date I think will say to her I like you and I want to spend time together as more than friends. If she says no then you tried but make it clear you still want to be friends.

    I hope this is useful!

    Root xx
    Thank you. That does help a lot.

    It's just finding the right moment to ask. It's not easy!
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    Well don't rush it and make sure it is just you two there!!!
 
 
 
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