Nervous Guy

Naturally I am really shy with girls; I just run out of things to say; unless I am drunk :frown:

. Anyway, I met this really cool girl I like at uni, I got her number, and texted her loads. We are now basically going to meet up tommoz, I want to impress her, because I really really like her, but I am scared that I may come across as boring for her liking.

Natrually, I am a really funny guy; I have a good sense of humour and am quite popular. However when I am around a girl I really like I just find it hard to loosen up, because I don't want to say soemthing stupid and weird.

What would you guys recommend I do? Thanks.

Reply 1

generalebriety

16

Shyness isn't always a bad thing. Don't come across as falsely outgoing, that's the worst thing you can do.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

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generalebriety

Shyness isn't always a bad thing. Don't come across as falsely outgoing, that's the worst thing you can do.

Thats the thing, I am very very outgoing, because I get a kick out of meeting different people. :biggrin:

Deep down inside, I am just a shy individual; probably because away from uni my homelife is very different; its much more conservative.

Reply 3

*Sparkle*

17

Just talk to her abuot things at home, ask her about what she did before blah blah just get to know her, make a few jokes you'll be fine :smile:

and the more you get to know her the more you'll feel comfortable and your real self will just shine through :smile:

Reply 4

generalebriety

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Anonymous

Thats the thing, I am very very outgoing, because I get a kick out of meeting different people. :biggrin:

Deep down inside, I am just a shy individual; probably because away from uni my homelife is very different; its much more conservative.

Key word = "falsely". If you're genuinely outgoing that will shine through in your personality. If you're putting it on, that'll look obvious too. :smile:

There are plenty of people who go for people like you, I know people like you who I find attractive. :smile:

Reply 5

shirley7

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Just be yourself. If you want a relationship with this girl she'll find out your true personality eventually.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

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xrosiex

Just talk to her abuot things at home, ask her about what she did before blah blah just get to know her, make a few jokes you'll be fine :smile:

and the more you get to know her the more you'll feel comfortable and your real self will just shine through :smile:

Yeah

I am happy that she would like to meet up for me tommoz. Everytime she has seen me I have been completely wasted in a drunken social enviornment. I really want to get to know her, because she intrigues me more then other girls I know, but I am scared of asking very boring mudane questions. I have done that before with other girls; convo goes nowhere...It's like question - answer, question - answer (boring, boring, boring)...Should I ask really open ended questions?

Reply 7

high priestess fnord

9

1st dates are usually all getting to know you stuff anyway so nows the time to ask all the conversation starters.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

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blackswan

shy guys are very attractive
because they are shy and quiet it makes girls find them all the more interesting. Girls like some mystery in a guy.
Just be yaself, and just try to relax around girls, after all we're all human.

Your right. Before this girl, there was another girl that went for me that was intrigued by me walking around campus. I asked her why she was intrigued by me "she said she didnt know and was too shy to approach me". The problem with this other girl was that I was far too slow in telling her that I liked her in that way and by the end of it, she just got off with another dude that was willing to make the move. :frown:

I was going out with her a lot.

This is another thing that worries me I suppose, if I act too shy and complacent with this girl regardless if she likes me or not, she may not be interested anymore when someone else comes along .

Reply 9

Evil-Tuna

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Anonymous

Thats the thing, I am very very outgoing, because I get a kick out of meeting different people. :biggrin:

Deep down inside, I am just a shy individual; probably because away from uni my homelife is very different; its much more conservative.

So you're very outgoing usually, but at uni youre currently not very outgoing and at home youre not outgoing because its conservative. (poor you btw) well thats confusing.

And how do you know she likes ''very very outgoing'' people? For all you know you could have it all wrong etc.

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

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Evil-Tuna

So you're very outgoing usually, but at uni youre currently not very outgoing and at home youre not outgoing because its conservative. (poor you btw) well thats confusing.

And how do you know she likes ''very very outgoing'' people? For all you know you could have it all wrong etc.

At uni I am quite outgoing. At home I am not; religious reasons combined with lack of money.

I don't know what type of guys she goes for.

Reply 11

*Sparkle*

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Anonymous

Yeah

I am happy that she would like to meet up for me tommoz. Everytime she has seen me I have been completely wasted in a drunken social enviornment. I really want to get to know her, because she intrigues me more then other girls I know, but I am scared of asking very boring mudane questions. I have done that before with other girls; convo goes nowhere...It's like question - answer, question - answer (boring, boring, boring)...Should I ask really open ended questions?

Remember though, it's not just you who wants to go, she obviously agreed because she's interested so she'll be trying to keep the conversation going aswell. If you're both freshers then you've already got loads to talk about (the new area, societies you've joined, your flatmates).

Reply 12

Evil-Tuna

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Anonymous

At uni I am quite outgoing. At home I am not; religious reasons combined with lack of money.

I don't know what type of guys she goes for.

Surely lack of money at uni is worse etc.

she probably goes for someone similar to herself most likely. the idea of opposites attracting is usually false or applies to very few people.

Reply 13

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Evil-Tuna

Surely lack of money at uni is worse etc.

she probably goes for someone similar to herself most likely. the idea of opposites attracting is usually false or applies to very few people.

I ahve a reasonable student loan. But yes, I agree, money is tight these days. :biggrin:

Yeah I supose so, not sure if she is the complete opposite as we do have somesimilar interests (e.g. musical taste). Guess I will find out tommorrow.

Reply 14

generalebriety

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Anonymous

Yeah

I am happy that she would like to meet up for me tommoz. Everytime she has seen me I have been completely wasted in a drunken social enviornment. I really want to get to know her, because she intrigues me more then other girls I know, but I am scared of asking very boring mudane questions. I have done that before with other girls; convo goes nowhere...It's like question - answer, question - answer (boring, boring, boring)...Should I ask really open ended questions?

If you want to risk making her think she's boring you, yes.