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Can't cope living with bitchy flatmates
Everything was going so well at university until I discovered that my so-called "flat-mates" enjoy talking and laughing at me behind my back. They are so stupid to believe I didn't know about it. I hear them all the time.
Because I have a job and work most nights to earn as much money as I can, I hardly "interact" with them but I'm also two years older than the rest of them, studying dentistry and have totally different interests. We have nothing in common and I'm finding it frustrating everytime I walk into the room and the atmosphere totally changes. I can't wait till next year, I'm hoping to move into a flat with my boyfriend but until then I have to put up with these bitches. I don't want to walk around smiling and pretending to be nice to everyone, because I don't trust them and so I'd rather stay well away, which just gives them more of an excuse to tell me I'm "segregating myself" from the rest of them. I hate it.
Because I have a job and work most nights to earn as much money as I can, I hardly "interact" with them but I'm also two years older than the rest of them, studying dentistry and have totally different interests. We have nothing in common and I'm finding it frustrating everytime I walk into the room and the atmosphere totally changes. I can't wait till next year, I'm hoping to move into a flat with my boyfriend but until then I have to put up with these bitches. I don't want to walk around smiling and pretending to be nice to everyone, because I don't trust them and so I'd rather stay well away, which just gives them more of an excuse to tell me I'm "segregating myself" from the rest of them. I hate it.
They must be stupid if they think that you're segregating yourself because you have a job.
I personally would either ignore them or tell it to them how it is, them being stupid etc, so they would know that I'm not going to take any $hit.
Maybe talk to the senior resident(s) or the site staff about them?
I personally would either ignore them or tell it to them how it is, them being stupid etc, so they would know that I'm not going to take any $hit.
Maybe talk to the senior resident(s) or the site staff about them?
to be honest, its pretty much the luck of the draw when you're put in a flat with people and generally because of the age difference you will notice different patterns of behaviour.
at the end of the day, you dont have to be best mates with your flatmates, so just try and make friends outside of your flat, whilst being civil to them, if you give them a chance you might get on with them!
at the end of the day, you dont have to be best mates with your flatmates, so just try and make friends outside of your flat, whilst being civil to them, if you give them a chance you might get on with them!
All my friends from uni, including my boyfriend live in the other halls down the road. So if I'm not at their flat then I'm at work or with one of my sports clubs. The only time I'm at my flat is really to make dinner or study/use the computer in my room. I have no real need to be in the communal room because to be honest it's boring, always left in a disgusting mess etc.
At mealtimes when I make dinner I see them there but as I say, don't know how to act around them. They are all so two-faced!
At mealtimes when I make dinner I see them there but as I say, don't know how to act around them. They are all so two-faced!
They probably have their own insecurities if they feel the need to bitch about you.
Try to talk to them and be a decent person or else face the consequence of them chatting about you?
They are probably only slightly offended that you don't feel the need to socialise with them... I know that if someone was being off with me and generally eing anti-social (from my point of veiw) I would probably chat to my mates about it.
(here comes the negs)
They are probably only slightly offended that you don't feel the need to socialise with them... I know that if someone was being off with me and generally eing anti-social (from my point of veiw) I would probably chat to my mates about it.
(here comes the negs)
Just breeze in, breeze out. Don't let these idiots ruin life for you. They have absolutely no bearing on your life whatsoever. So, treat them like casual acquiantances, and be indifferent.
Flatmates don't have to be mates - they are just people you live with. I don't hang out with mine ALL the time, we'd KILL each other
Flatmates don't have to be mates - they are just people you live with. I don't hang out with mine ALL the time, we'd KILL each other
be two faced back. you dont have to spend any time with them so just smile when you breeze into the kitchen and out again, then bitch about them to your real friends.
tomHHHH
to be fair it sounds like youve completly ignored them and blown them off since the start
That would be a reasonable explanation in most cases, but we all got along great when we all moved in together. We all went out during freshers week, got to know each other but after uni started and I found myself getting really busy with work and outside interests. I thought we were all mates until they turned bitchy. Of course I still have civil conversations with them, but at the end of the day it sickens me when I think I'm expected to "get along" when I know only too well what they really think of me.
Anyone else had this problem?
Bubblebee
Try to talk to them and be a decent person or else face the consequence of them chatting about you?
They are probably only slightly offended that you don't feel the need to socialise with them... I know that if someone was being off with me and generally eing anti-social (from my point of veiw) I would probably chat to my mates about it.
(here comes the negs)
They are probably only slightly offended that you don't feel the need to socialise with them... I know that if someone was being off with me and generally eing anti-social (from my point of veiw) I would probably chat to my mates about it.
(here comes the negs)
So going out to work to pay the rent and going to sports clubs to meet people is being anti-social?
I'm so sorry you have to go through this.
When I was in my first year, the girls in our flat "bonded" by picking on one of the boys we lived with.. They made him miserable! There was this really loud cockney one who would make horrible remarks about him both behind his back and to his face, it was almost as though they were united in their contempt for the guy. He was nice, actually. Just quiet, and a very easy target.
He moved out just before christmas, and guess what happened then? They had nothing to talk about so they started bitching about each other, and the rows in our flat were unbelieveable.
It probably won't make you feel any better hun but I'm convinced this is a similar occurance at your place, they need to feel united in their hatred of somebody and you were their easiest target.
Pretty much the same thing happened at my friends house last year (which is why she spent most of the year at mine) and it's just petty bullying. I bet they feel much better about themselves by putting you down, and sounds like they sure think they're better than you.
If I were you I'd ask about moving to a different flat or something.. Your first experience of uni should not be like this and they will only have each other to pick on in your absence.
Hope this helps.
When I was in my first year, the girls in our flat "bonded" by picking on one of the boys we lived with.. They made him miserable! There was this really loud cockney one who would make horrible remarks about him both behind his back and to his face, it was almost as though they were united in their contempt for the guy. He was nice, actually. Just quiet, and a very easy target.
He moved out just before christmas, and guess what happened then? They had nothing to talk about so they started bitching about each other, and the rows in our flat were unbelieveable.
It probably won't make you feel any better hun but I'm convinced this is a similar occurance at your place, they need to feel united in their hatred of somebody and you were their easiest target.
Pretty much the same thing happened at my friends house last year (which is why she spent most of the year at mine) and it's just petty bullying. I bet they feel much better about themselves by putting you down, and sounds like they sure think they're better than you.
If I were you I'd ask about moving to a different flat or something.. Your first experience of uni should not be like this and they will only have each other to pick on in your absence.
Hope this helps.
little_red_sox
I'm so sorry you have to go through this.
When I was in my first year, the girls in our flat "bonded" by picking on one of the boys we lived with.. They made him miserable! There was this really loud cockney one who would make horrible remarks about him both behind his back and to his face, it was almost as though they were united in their contempt for the guy. He was nice, actually. Just quiet, and a very easy target.
He moved out just before christmas, and guess what happened then? They had nothing to talk about so they started bitching about each other, and the rows in our flat were unbelieveable.
It probably won't make you feel any better hun but I'm convinced this is a similar occurance at your place, they need to feel united in their hatred of somebody and you were their easiest target.
Pretty much the same thing happened at my friends house last year (which is why she spent most of the year at mine) and it's just petty bullying. I bet they feel much better about themselves by putting you down, and sounds like they sure think they're better than you.
If I were you I'd ask about moving to a different flat or something.. Your first experience of uni should not be like this and they will only have each other to pick on in your absence.
Hope this helps.
When I was in my first year, the girls in our flat "bonded" by picking on one of the boys we lived with.. They made him miserable! There was this really loud cockney one who would make horrible remarks about him both behind his back and to his face, it was almost as though they were united in their contempt for the guy. He was nice, actually. Just quiet, and a very easy target.
He moved out just before christmas, and guess what happened then? They had nothing to talk about so they started bitching about each other, and the rows in our flat were unbelieveable.
It probably won't make you feel any better hun but I'm convinced this is a similar occurance at your place, they need to feel united in their hatred of somebody and you were their easiest target.
Pretty much the same thing happened at my friends house last year (which is why she spent most of the year at mine) and it's just petty bullying. I bet they feel much better about themselves by putting you down, and sounds like they sure think they're better than you.
If I were you I'd ask about moving to a different flat or something.. Your first experience of uni should not be like this and they will only have each other to pick on in your absence.
Hope this helps.
As i said before the reason they do it most of the time is because they are insecure people themselves.
Carl1982
As i said before the reason they do it most of the time is because they are insecure people themselves.
I absolutely agree with you.
Such a shame, you would have thought by their age they would be mature.
Guess not.
Just ignor them, try not to have much to do with them but still say hello etc.
Maybe you could be moved halls? Or rooms? Most unis have spare rooms somewhere.
At least I don't have a bitchyness problem living with only boys.
Guess not.
Just ignor them, try not to have much to do with them but still say hello etc.
Maybe you could be moved halls? Or rooms? Most unis have spare rooms somewhere.
At least I don't have a bitchyness problem living with only boys.
Anonymous
Everything was going so well at university until I discovered that my so-called "flat-mates" enjoy talking and laughing at me behind my back. They are so stupid to believe I didn't know about it. I hear them all the time.
Because I have a job and work most nights to earn as much money as I can, I hardly "interact" with them but I'm also two years older than the rest of them, studying dentistry and have totally different interests. We have nothing in common and I'm finding it frustrating everytime I walk into the room and the atmosphere totally changes. I can't wait till next year, I'm hoping to move into a flat with my boyfriend but until then I have to put up with these bitches. I don't want to walk around smiling and pretending to be nice to everyone, because I don't trust them and so I'd rather stay well away, which just gives them more of an excuse to tell me I'm "segregating myself" from the rest of them. I hate it.
Because I have a job and work most nights to earn as much money as I can, I hardly "interact" with them but I'm also two years older than the rest of them, studying dentistry and have totally different interests. We have nothing in common and I'm finding it frustrating everytime I walk into the room and the atmosphere totally changes. I can't wait till next year, I'm hoping to move into a flat with my boyfriend but until then I have to put up with these bitches. I don't want to walk around smiling and pretending to be nice to everyone, because I don't trust them and so I'd rather stay well away, which just gives them more of an excuse to tell me I'm "segregating myself" from the rest of them. I hate it.
Don't be nice. Be real. Some people are just worthless pieces of scum, but relish in the fact that you are not. They probably some ugly ho's anyway
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