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    i have a friend who's really nice to me...i like him a lot..hw do i know if sees me as just a friend..or something more?..:confused:
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    Ask.
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    (Original post by Champagne-Dahling)
    Ask.
    but wat if he doesn't like me tht way?...i dnt wanna ruin our friendship..
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    Apologise.

    (Or backtrack, fast.)
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    (Original post by Champagne-Dahling)
    Apologise.

    (Or backtrack, fast.)
    not as simple as it sounds..=(
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    Get drunk. Ask. If you don't like the answer, apologise in the morning saying 'oh my god I can't believe I said that. Promise me you'll never let me drink again'
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    Just flirt with him and see how he flirts back.

    You can usually tell when its serious flirting or just friendship, harmless flirting.
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    Ask. If he says something like: don't be absurd etc. just tell him you were kidding.
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    (Original post by maag101)
    Get drunk. Ask. If you don't like the answer, apologise in the morning saying 'oh my god I can't believe I said that. Promise me you'll never let me drink again'
    it'd work if only i drink alcohol, which i dnt..
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    it'd work if only i drink alcohol, which i dnt..
    Well get him drunk then
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    As I said, just flirt with him and see how he reacts.

    I flirt with all my mates (both male and female) because its just harmless and isn't doing any harm. If he flirts back with you, you should be able to tell if he is being serious or is just joking along.
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    As I said, just flirt with him and see how he reacts.

    I flirt with all my mates (both male and female) because its just harmless and isn't doing any harm. If he flirts back with you, you should be able to tell if he is being serious or is just joking along.
    thnx for tht..
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    Lie detector test ftw.
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    Oooh I wouldn't tell him if I was you :rolleyes: Much too risky!
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    (Original post by Milli)
    Oooh I wouldn't tell him if I was you :rolleyes: Much too risky!
    Sounds like you've had a bad experience with that.
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    (Original post by Dude)
    Sounds like you've had a bad experience with that.
    Me? Nope :p:
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    I had a bad experience with that..:rolleyes:
    Women and their mixed signals....

    But before I start ranting, I advise you do the flirting thing mentioned above, and if you really like him..go for it!
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    Yeh, flirting doesnt always work... take for example a guy at school. We got on really well though before sixth form he had always been really quiet & shy so people didn't really notice him, (i know that sounds harsh, but i have spoken to him about it & he doesnt mind). Anyway, from the way we got on & the way he seemed quite 'touchy feelie' with me, (sp?) & always checked i was alright etc, people often commented on how they thought we fancied each other. & tbh, i did really like him, at one point, i wondered if i had fallen for him. Unfortunately i was too much of a coward to say anything to him & a convo we once had showed that also in the situation of liking anyone he probably would not be able to say as he was the same! However generally his attitude towards me did suggest that he did like me & a few of my closest mates often said so.
    About a week before i went off to uni, one of my best mates said she fancied him, which i had guessed because of the way her attitude suddenly became a lot more flirty with him. (The thing was, although she didn't know my feelings towards him, i had been planning on telling her the same night she changed her 'tone' regarding him & became really complimentary etc). However, in the convo we had that night she told me that she wouldn't do anything because i was her best mate & she wouldn't do anything like that over a guy. A few days before i left, i received a text message from the girl telling me that her & the guy, we both liked, were going out. Needless to say, i was in shock & not very happy!! It was the worst time possible.. & i felt she betrayed me in a way because of the convo we had had. She said one thing & did another.. i was not happy at all! Mainly because her attitude about obsessing over a boyfriend in the months running up to uni had become rather silly, considering she was starting somewhere new very soon. Since going to uni, from what i've heard from another of my mates, she seems to be looking for someone better, in a way, from the way shes acting. I'm not impressed & am afraid she may end up hurting the guy, who is such a good mate!
    I am still not completely ok with her & am not looking forward to seeing them together in the hols. I know i should stop being a sourpuss & u probably think im jealous but it was just that she assured me nothing would happen, yet went totally against that! Our friendship will never be the same i dont think! Another of my best mates reckons she backstabbed me & that she can't be trusted as much as we all thought.
    (i apologise for the fact that this is anon, but i introduced the girl im referring to to TSR so im really paranoid that she may now be a member)!
    Sorry for essay, i had a little rant, lol
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    So yeh my advice, go for it!! Flirting may not work, can give out totally mixed signals & mislead u! I thought this guy fancied me back but as he is now going out with one of my best mates, i must have been wrong. A few people who commented on us before have said how surprised they are at them.
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    well ive had the same problem as the OP a few times.... its not easy.. but ive always gone for the honesty is the best policy... and if he is truly a friend he wont mind you telling him anyway... i know i'd just be flattered
 
 
 
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