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Problem with person in Halls
Last night was probably one of the most terrifying nights.
Three of the people I share a flat with had people over from Ireland staying last night (they're still here). They all went out and got drunk (got no problem with that). However it transpired into being a terrifying night:
One of the guys who lives here got into a drunken fight on the way home. He came back into the flat and trashed the place looking for a knife. He was shouting "I'm going to kill the B*****d; I'm going to kill the f*****g B*****d" He kept shouting this.
By this time the rest of the flat had arrived home and attempted to calm him dow, he - he just kept shouting "I'm going to kill the B*****d; I'm going to kill the f*****g B*****d". They eventualy persuaded him to go to his room and calm down - he went and trashed his room and when nobody else was looking left the flat. At this time he was still very much in a rage and very much drunk.
They eventually found him (where I don't know) and got him home. I kept out of the road and double bolted the door into my room. Nobody phoned the duty site warden or the police (but I was very close the phoning both). The whol incident lasted fro 40 - 60 minutes (from when he first reached the flat).
I don't know what to do now. I don't know if I want to continue living in this flat with someone who has proven themselves to be so violent and potentially lethal (If nobody had managed to persuade him to go to his bedroom it is very likley that he would have left the flat with that knife).
What should I do (and this is in no way made up or exagerated - if it had lasted 5 minutes more I would have phoned 999).
Three of the people I share a flat with had people over from Ireland staying last night (they're still here). They all went out and got drunk (got no problem with that). However it transpired into being a terrifying night:
One of the guys who lives here got into a drunken fight on the way home. He came back into the flat and trashed the place looking for a knife. He was shouting "I'm going to kill the B*****d; I'm going to kill the f*****g B*****d" He kept shouting this.
By this time the rest of the flat had arrived home and attempted to calm him dow, he - he just kept shouting "I'm going to kill the B*****d; I'm going to kill the f*****g B*****d". They eventualy persuaded him to go to his room and calm down - he went and trashed his room and when nobody else was looking left the flat. At this time he was still very much in a rage and very much drunk.
They eventually found him (where I don't know) and got him home. I kept out of the road and double bolted the door into my room. Nobody phoned the duty site warden or the police (but I was very close the phoning both). The whol incident lasted fro 40 - 60 minutes (from when he first reached the flat).
I don't know what to do now. I don't know if I want to continue living in this flat with someone who has proven themselves to be so violent and potentially lethal (If nobody had managed to persuade him to go to his bedroom it is very likley that he would have left the flat with that knife).
What should I do (and this is in no way made up or exagerated - if it had lasted 5 minutes more I would have phoned 999).
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I never knew 6 of the 7 others I'm sharing with before I moved in (including this one). He has always shown signs of being a "bad drunk" but I never imagined (until last night) that he could be like that - I was scared to leave my room. I used both locks on my door for the first time)
I'm a guy - I don't know what difference that makes though
No - plus I wouldn't go near anyone who was drunk and in posession of a knife (and capable of using it)
Well, no, I was just thinking that you could have a word with him when he's sober and make it clear it wasn't to happen again, or there would be consequences. However, if you're not a physically intimidating guy, obviously that wouldn't work.
I'd say your best bet is grassing him up, to be perfectly honest.
I'd say your best bet is grassing him up, to be perfectly honest.
I think you should report him to the warden but you can ask not to be named. After all, you weren't the only one who saw him blow his top. If anyone else is willing to collaborate your story, he could probably be moved to another room without incident or at least be given a stern warning and watched.
Given the additional information I think you should report him. He was known to you as a "bad drunk", he has now turned out violent on top. I guess what is keeping you from doing it, is fear of what might happen if nothing happens to him (ie. he isn't removed from halls) and he finds out it was you who reported on him.
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Given the additional information I think you should report him. He was known to you as a "bad drunk", he has now turned out violent on top. I guess what is keeping you from doing it, is fear of what might happen if nothing happens to him (ie. he isn't removed from halls) and he finds out it was you who reported on him.
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Hmm, rather difficult. How about finding out whether others feel the same about their safety? If you are more than one person, there might be a chance that he can't pin it down on you.
As I see it at the moment only you were sort of "out of the situation", i.e. you were not involved and thus it can only be you who gasses on him (logic isn't quite right, because the others might just think it was a bit much too, but I am trying to think as "him")
So this would mean you would have to wait for another incident, maybe not quite as bad and then report him, citing "all the bad deeds".
I would at least keep a note of when what happened, so that you can name these incidents exactly by date and time and people involved.
As I see it at the moment only you were sort of "out of the situation", i.e. you were not involved and thus it can only be you who gasses on him (logic isn't quite right, because the others might just think it was a bit much too, but I am trying to think as "him")
So this would mean you would have to wait for another incident, maybe not quite as bad and then report him, citing "all the bad deeds".
I would at least keep a note of when what happened, so that you can name these incidents exactly by date and time and people involved.
Another tactic (if you don't react now) could be phone for help (999, warden or whatever) straight away the next time something similar happens. You don't know who the madman with murderous intent raving outside your door is..... It could be anyone. If it turns out to be him, well, what a surprise.
i think you need to move rooms. i couldn't live with someone that violent for another night. have u got anyone else u can stay with till it's sorted? if this happened to me i'd be straight round my mates place at the other end of campus!
whether u phone the police is up to you, but i'd certainly report it to the warden.
whether u phone the police is up to you, but i'd certainly report it to the warden.
Firstly i would never confront him, and secondly report him for the incident, but in future if something like this happens call the police.
strange....usually if somebody is looking for a knife they will head straight for the kitchen to pick one up.
He then might trash his room looking for one, but he wouldnt waste time trashing random areas...
It sounds like he has big anger problems, and is neither violent nor potentially lethal. Do you even know what happened?
Also, how do you know what happened on the way home if you stayed locked in your room cowering away the entire time?
He then might trash his room looking for one, but he wouldnt waste time trashing random areas...
It sounds like he has big anger problems, and is neither violent nor potentially lethal. Do you even know what happened?
Also, how do you know what happened on the way home if you stayed locked in your room cowering away the entire time?
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