Im so bored and tired of every doctor I see asking me about my sexuality...

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Every new gp, doctor, specialist asks me about if i am in a realtionship, which I know is hinting at sexuality because as soon as I say I am single they ask my sexuality and I dont really want to discuss that because I feel it has absolutely nothing to do with the majority of the reasons I am seeing the doctor. Are they just being nosey? One even wrote it in a letter he sent to my gp which I had a copy of and it was about my low hormone level and I just find it so absurd to even mention it.
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What are you seeing a GP for?
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Why are you afraid of mentioning your sexuality, out of interest?

We're not going to be able to back you up without knowing why you're seeing them, js.
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What are you seeing a GP for?
The most recent thing last week I was referred to see a specialist at hospital about the fact in my blood test I had low level of fsh.. So hormone level issues and he asked my sexuality which annoyed me and he wrote it in the letter to my gp.
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That's weird ive never been asked if my sexuality when I'm single
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Why are you afraid of mentioning your sexuality, out of interest?

We're not going to be able to back you up without knowing why you're seeing them, js.
Well, its not something I can talk about easy. I know they are a doctor but they are still a person. I have been about depression and problems with eating and I also got asked if I was in a realtionship/sexuality
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Well, its not something I can talk about easy. I know they are a doctor but they are still a person. I have been about depression and problems with eating and I also got asked if I was in a realtionship/sexuality
are you 100% sure that your repressed sexuality has absolutely nothing to do with your depression?
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Whenever I'm asked it's usually for those like, minority stat things so they can pretend they're being all equal in their service or whatever. You don't need to tell them and you can ask them why they need to know.

Bit creepy that they're asking you this about hormone levels. Seems like one of those silly pseudo scientific studies about sexuality and hormones.
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Whenever I'm asked it's usually for those like, minority stat things so they can pretend they're being all equal in their service or whatever. You don't need to tell them and you can ask them why they need to know.

Bit creepy that they're asking you this about hormone levels. Seems like one of those silly pseudo scientific studies about sexuality and hormones.
Exactly my thinking. I might complain to the nhs
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are you 100% sure that your repressed sexuality has absolutely nothing to do with your depression?
It has a large percentage to do with my depression yes, but its not solely responsible. i just dont want asking all the damn time, I felt like, and almost did say, is it that obvious doctor
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It has a large percentage to do with my depression yes, but its not solely responsible. i just dont want asking all the damn time, I felt like, and almost did say, is it that obvious doctor
As someone who's also dealt w/ depression and social anxiety, no one's ever even gone near asking me about my sexuality or my personal life or anything like that...I think it's very odd that they'd ask you about it...
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Well, its not something I can talk about easy. I know they are a doctor but they are still a person. I have been about depression and problems with eating and I also got asked if I was in a realtionship/sexuality

(Original post by M !)
are you 100% sure that your repressed sexuality has absolutely nothing to do with your depression?
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It has a large percentage to do with my depression yes, but its not solely responsible. i just dont want asking all the damn time, I felt like, and almost did say, is it that obvious doctor
And of course your sexual preferences are highly personal and you should not feel pressured to reveal things about yourself to anyone.
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I'd switch GP if I were you. Or ask them why they're asking.
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I'd switch GP if I were you. Or ask them why they're asking.
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It has a large percentage to do with my depression yes, but its not solely responsible. i just dont want asking all the damn time, I felt like, and almost did say, is it that obvious doctor
Low hormone count could have something to do with it I'm guessing. Tbh they're probably a seasoned doctor trying to sort you out with their experience. Don't complain lol it seems nosy but really if its in a letter then maybe it correlates with something else???
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The most recent thing last week I was referred to see a specialist at hospital about the fact in my blood test I had low level of fsh.. So hormone level issues and he asked my sexuality which annoyed me and he wrote it in the letter to my gp.
Are you sure they weren't asking to see if it was having a negative impact on your libido? Surely with certain hormone irregularities that's an issue for the patient and one they'd want dealt with? I mean, often things can be left as they are unless they're having a negative impact on the patient's life, which could be what they were trying to determine?
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They make have concerns about stds etc so that may be why they are asking
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I can understand how them asking about your sexuality would make you uncomfortable. Especially if you're not comfortable with it yourself.

When I went to the doctor about suspected low testosterone levels, they asked me if I had a girlfriend (I don't swing that way but I didn't say because I wasn't in a relationship). I think that would have been to see whether I was having sex (low testosterone affects libido so if I had been having/wanting sex everyday, chances are my levels would be normal.) I thought that was reasonable but I don't really understand them asking you your sexuality?
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(Original post by SebCross)
As someone who's also dealt w/ depression and social anxiety, no one's ever even gone near asking me about my sexuality or my personal life or anything like that...I think it's very odd that they'd ask you about it...
Yeah, when I've had depression (minus last week; but we knew what that was and it was sorted quickly) I've never been asked about relationships or sexuality.
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