Not good at anything

Is anyone else not good at anything? lol. The main things I look at are sport, intelligence and music and I am not good at any of them, I have rubbish social skills and am really quiet. Everyone said that I was a really good runner at high school cause I was the third fastest in the year but it doesn't mean im good at it I can only get 15/16 seconds 100m in London club races thats bad! Its worse because most people can get better than this who do not work out and practice. I can't sing either and am not clever, the highest grades I got for GCSE were B, a lot of people can get A or A*.

Is anyone else bad or just below average at everything?

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Cmon, give yourself some credit, there must be something your good at..if you feel not, then become good at something you want, develop your skills, take a course or something :smile:

Reply 2

K@

1

I got 1 A, a few Bs but mostly Cs at uni and my grades are still pretty average. Nothing wrong with that. In fact I'm pretty all round at anything I do, I'm not a great musician like some of my friends are. Nothing wrong with that, I enjoy playing and not being grade 5 million isn't going to bring me down.

All round I'm a bit of a let down, average grades, not very social in the evenings (don't go out etc) etc etc but I hope I'm a nice person and that I can make at least one person a day smile which makes me smile in return.

Sometimes you have to live for yourself, not others. Afterall (apparently) we only get one shot at life....

Reply 3

Captain Haddock

18

Take up an instrument.

Reply 4

x.fiore.x

14

Why don't you make a list of things that you are good at? I bet you can think of at least 10 things! Concentrate on these instead of the things you can't do, and you'll start to feel a lot better about yourself!

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

x_f_x

Why don't you make a list of things that you are good at? I bet you can think of at least 10 things! Concentrate on these instead of the things you can't do, and you'll start to feel a lot better about yourself!

Well im not good at anything, as I said at school I thought I was good at running until I joined a club and realised im aweful, im the same speed as a 14year old and am always last! Im 19, yet I was one of the best at school.
Its hard to tell if im good at anything because its hard to compare apart from music, sport and intelligence. What other things are there to be good at?

Reply 6

K@

1

Anonymous

Well im not good at anything, as I said at school I thought I was good at running until I joined a club and realised im aweful, im the same speed as a 14year old and am always last! Im 19, yet I was one of the best at school.
Its hard to tell if im good at anything because its hard to compare apart from music, sport and intelligence. What other things are there to be good at?

Lots, good at communicating, good at ICT, good at writing, good at colouring in (I am ;yes :wink:

, good at cooking maybe, good at designing things, good at listening, good at making things, good at typing, good with animals, good at keeping deadlines, good at helping, good at decorating, good at photography, good at art (in any form).... I could go on and on. Lots of those are only small but you can still be good at them. :smile:

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

K@

Lots, good at communicating, good at ICT, good at writing, good at colouring in (I am ;yes :wink:

, good at cooking maybe, good at designing things, good at listening, good at making things, good at typing, good with animals, good at keeping deadlines, good at helping, good at decorating, good at photography, good at art (in any form).... I could go on and on. Lots of those are only small but you can still be good at them. :smile:

Your right, Id say im good at listening to problems (apart from my own) but then anyone can be good at this! Not everyone can be good at sport, music etc. Im no good at art, just average, usually people are good at at least one major thing.

Reply 8

Eternity Forever

12

You sound like you lack self-esteem. My heart goes out to you. I sometimes have the same experience. Self-esteem has been compared to a bucket of water. It starts out full when we're born, but whenever we develop negative beliefs about ourselves, it's like poking little holes in that bucket and our self-esteem drips out.*

Stop comparing yourself to everyone, we are all different in our own ways.
Make a list of the stuff you're good at. Give yourself three compliments every day. Don't just say, "I'm so great." Be specific about something good about yourself, like, "I was a good friend to Greg today" or "I did better on that test than I thought I would." While you're at it, before you go to bed every night, list three things in your day that really made you happy.

Also about the grades, don't worry too much about them, most people don't even have one pass in their GCSEs. When you hear negative comments in your head, tell yourself to stop. When you do this, you take the power away from the voice inside that discourages you. Think positive thoughts about yourself! Focus on your strengths – not your weaknesses. Realize that you are better at some things than others.

Most people who are good at sports etc were not born with it, they developed it, maybe genes helped here and there, but try and develop something for yourself too. I am sure you are good at something, you just have to discover it.

are you good in bed?

OP

Mademoiselle Dee-chau-nelle

You sound like you lack self-esteem. My heart goes out to you. I sometimes have the same experience. Self-esteem has been compared to a bucket of water. It starts out full when we're born, but whenever we develop negative beliefs about ourselves, it's like poking little holes in that bucket and our self-esteem drips out.*

Stop comparing yourself to everyone, we are all different in our own ways.
Make a list of the stuff you're good at. Give yourself three compliments every day. Don't just say, "I'm so great." Be specific about something good about yourself, like, "I was a good friend to Greg today" or "I did better on that test than I thought I would." While you're at it, before you go to bed every night, list three things in your day that really made you happy.

Also about the grades, don't worry too much about them, most people don't even have one pass in their GCSEs. When you hear negative comments in your head, tell yourself to stop. When you do this, you take the power away from the voice inside that discourages you. Think positive thoughts about yourself! Focus on your strengths – not your weaknesses. Realize that you are better at some things than others.

Most people who are good at sports etc were not born with it, they developed it, maybe genes helped here and there, but try and develop something for yourself too. I am sure you are good at something, you just have to discover it.

Thanks, I'l try it, the thing is I think when I was younger I had too much confidence and I hate it when for example when I made friends with this girl in maths and she seemed to know more than me and we were talking and I said that Ive been running for 5 years and doing judo (thinking I had something special) and she was like oh thats great. Anyway when we had a sports lesson she was faster than me and never even trained I just felt so useless lol. Its things like that, people can be better than me and think nothing of it, yet I can be worse than them and call it my speciality :rolleyes:

I'l try what you said though :smile:

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

Rouge

are you good in bed?

Virgin, see everyone sees me as too average and I don't appeal. :p:

Reply 12

Wangers

16

dont worry about your grades - the average TSR user isnt exactly dim by any standards...

as for not being good at anything - you are, you just havent found it it..

Take a gap year and find yourself - trust me you'll know what I mean after

Wangers

Not good at anything

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