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I'm having a party for my birthday. I only want to invite a few friends. But recently all my friends have been inviting their boyfriends to parties aswell. I don't mind, but my mum says it's not fair on me as I don't have one and that I don't know them well so it would be like an invasion on my party, which I guess in a way is sort of true. And it is my day, so I don't want them to be all luvey duvey with their boyfriends when it's my time to shine :p:

So how exactly do I say to my friends 'hey, come to my party, but don't bring your boyfriends, 'cause my mum doesn't really like the idea, and to be honest, neither do i'?

Reply 1

matt@internet

Simply say to them that you wanna spend this time with them and that you don't know thir b/f's well enough to share in this special day.

Reply 2

zain88

Make it clear that it is just a very small thing and tell them you have invited a few select people. Describing what kind of party it's going to be will probably give them a hint not to bring anyone else.

Reply 3

JayG99

Be honest and frank. Make sure you have their full attention (you may want to talk to them one by one?). Tell them your feelings, because with real friends, your feelings are what matter most.
Good luck, hope that helps.

Reply 4

TSR Group Staff

try and make it sound girly, then the lads won't be too fussed about not going...

Reply 5

Anonymous #2

Just tell em ur dad is an ex marine who hates little boys with girly haircuts and any lad that touches a girl before shes 18 he wud squeeze the life out of them wirh 1 hand

Reply 6

Squelchy

matt@internet

Simply say to them that you wanna spend this time with them and that you don't know thir b/f's well enough to share in this special day.

Yep. Just tell them you want some "friends time."

Reply 7

L i b

Go out for a meal. Then keeping numbers low seems perfectly acceptable.

Reply 8

Squelchy

Lib North

Go out for a meal. Then keeping numbers low seems perfectly acceptable.

If she does that then she's not doing what she wants for her birthday any more than she would be if her friends asked their boyfriends along.

She shouldn't have to compromise. Her friends should be able to go without their boyfriends for one day. It's her birthday for God's sake.

Reply 9

L i b

Going out for a meal isn't exactly controlling a birthday. It's a pretty standard part of it for most people,and can be followed by anything.

The OP could just come out and say 'I don't want your boyfriends to come' and I'm sure she is aware of that, but she is clearly looking for something with a bit more social subtlety.