awkward - corridor mate is crying loudly

I'd go and have a word. See if she's OK, etc.

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

speak to her and ask her if she needs to talk be there for her and calm her down...be her shoulder to cry on and take her out for a walk or something ..give her plenty of fresh air and let her know ur there if she needs u but be there. Be a true friend. Keep us updated...

Reply 3

tari :)

8

I'd go and see if shes alreet... it's times like these that bring friends closer together. :smile:

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Ok i dont think i'll talk to her yet as i heard her slam the door then lock it, and then i heard her bf come back and theyre arguing again. This is really uncomfortable coz i can hear everything =/ damn the thin walls here!
I might leave it a while before i see her. Dont know if she wants people to see her in the state she sounds like shes in

Reply 5

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

Ok i dont think i'll talk to her yet as i heard her slam the door then lock it, and then i heard her bf come back and theyre arguing again. This is really uncomfortable coz i can hear everything =/ damn the thin walls here!
I might leave it a while before i see her. Dont know if she wants people to see her in the state she sounds like shes in

yeah give it some time and wait till u hear silence and knock and ask to see if shes ok ...she just might need a friend to cry to atm but make sure her bf is not there ...she might not want people" to see her but she might want a friend to comfort her

Reply 6

Fluffy

15

Are you male or female?

Go and buy a large bar of choccie, or some Haagen das or similar so you have it on standby for later. You could then pop in to her room later with an 'offering' to help cheer her up, and then see if she is OK.

Reply 7

Sheen

11

i think you should go see if shes ok and if she need a chat or anything.

Reply 8

melonman

i was upset over a guy the other night and my flatmate came in to see if i was okay, and gave me the biggest hug ever. and i really, really appreciated it. i didnt really know him that well and out of all my other flatmates who weren't in at the time we had spoken the least. but he was there when i needed him and he really cheered me up :biggrin:

good luck! xXx

Reply 9

Fluffy

Are you male or female?

Go and buy a large bar of choccie, or some Haagen das or similar so you have it on standby for later. You could then pop in to her room later with an 'offering' to help cheer her up, and then see if she is OK.

Food is the best way to make friends and if you go in offering her chocolate or something and start talking to her she can choose whether she wants to tell you about it, and if not she'll probably apprecciate some company and a new friend.

Reply 10

icantthinkofacoolusername

Food is the best way to make friends and if you go in offering her chocolate or something and start talking to her she can choose whether she wants to tell you about it, and if not she'll probably apprecciate some company and a new friend.

Of course, if she's on a diet or has an eating disorder, she runs the risk of making her feel worse.

Reply 11

Squelchy

Of course, if she's on a diet or has an eating disorder, she runs the risk of making her feel worse.

Seriously, she's a girl - she's not going to turn down chocolate.

Reply 12

NickNack

littlenat01

i was upset over a guy the other night and my flatmate came in to see if i was okay, and gave me the biggest hug ever. and i really, really appreciated it. i didnt really know him that well and out of all my other flatmates who weren't in at the time we had spoken the least. but he was there when i needed him and he really cheered me up :biggrin:

good luck! xXx

and i was that guy! lol nah, same scenario but different uni :smile:

knock on her door after her bf has left nd give her a hug

Reply 13

icantthinkofacoolusername

Seriously, she's a girl - she's not going to turn down chocolate.

I'm a guy, and I find it hard turning down chocolate.

Why am I so fat?!? :bawling:

Reply 14

Squelchy

I'm a guy, and I find it hard turning down chocolate.

Why am I so fat?!? :bawling:

Seriously don't start.
I live with 7 girls and if I have to hear that one more time I am just going to tell them it's because they eat **** ALL the time.

Reply 15

icantthinkofacoolusername

Seriously don't start.
I live with 7 girls and if I have to hear that one more time I am just going to tell them it's because they eat **** ALL the time.

I would. I hate having that conversation with people when talking about being naked or whatever, and they say "it's easy for you, you're slim and have muscles," and it's so hard to bite my tongue and not say "yeah, because I ****ing work my ass off lifting and I eat very sensibly."

Reply 16

Squelchy

I would. I hate having that conversation with people when talking about being naked or whatever, and they say "it's easy for you, you're slim and have muscles," and it's so hard to bite my tongue and not say "yeah, because I ****ing work my ass off lifting and I eat very sensibly."

I know, it's like either keep on eating and accept that you're never going to look great or do something about it. Don't just keep on going on - it's boring.

Reply 17

icantthinkofacoolusername

I know, it's like either keep on eating and accept that you're never going to look great or do something about it. Don't just keep on going on - it's boring.

I know. It especially winds me up when they complain about having a slow metabolism. I mean, so do I, and yes, it is like fighting an uphill battle, but it's a battle which you can easily win if you're willing to put the effort in.

Some people are just lazy and unwilling to change habits, though, and for those people I have no sympathy.

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