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Not sure if I am suitable for a relationship?

I am trying to find love but I'm not sure if I am suitable for a relationship. I would describe myself as introvert, quiet and shy. I'm too lazy to socialise and rather spend my weekends at home in front of the TV/PC. I guess it's very hard to find a girl who doesnt mind me being not socialable.
If you're "too lazy to socialise" why would you expect anyone else to make the effort with you? Introvert/quiet/shy is ok, lazy is not.
Original post by GodAtum
I am trying to find love but I'm not sure if I am suitable for a relationship. I would describe myself as introvert, quiet and shy. I'm too lazy to socialise and rather spend my weekends at home in front of the TV/PC. I guess it's very hard to find a girl who doesnt mind me being not socialable.


I can relate to this ^ I'm pretty much the same, in the sense that I am an introvert, I'm shy and I prefer being alone the majority of the time. However, I wouldn't really say your traits instantly make you unsuitable for a relationship. Have you got no social life at all? Are you a student? Most people meet prospective partners through friends, and obviously they have stuff in common. If you really want to find a relationship, depending on your circumstances (may be more accessible if you're at university through socials etc) you will have to put yourself out there. A lot of like minded people go on social networking sites, I mean I have, and you do find a lot of people with similar interests. I wouldn't want my partner to be extremely sociable, or at least he would have to understand that I like my alone time. You're not the only introvert out there :smile:
Reply 3
I work atm, so socialise with my collegues. However, as I work in IT, they are all male.
Reply 4
Yep. Sucks to be you.

There aren't going to be too many girls out there saying "You had me at IT,".
Original post by GodAtum
I work atm, so socialise with my collegues. However, as I work in IT, they are all male.


I'll probably get an IT job as well if I graduate. I have all the technical skills but only enough communication-wise to talk to my boss. (I don't care if I'm boring, I found out ages ago that I'm not suitable for a relationship either)
Responses a bit harsh but put it this way, if you are always at home watching TV, how the **** is any bae supposed to know you exist?
Reply 7
Original post by Smash Bandicoot
Responses a bit harsh but put it this way, if you are always at home watching TV, how the **** is any bae supposed to know you exist?


True. Unfortunately, as I work during the week, I am too tired to go out on the weekends.
Just because you're not suitable for a relationship now, doesn't mean you always will be.
Surprisingly guys like you do end up in relationships and often the girl is too stupid to realise that it's not a relationship
I can't kick you, so go get out there and socialize :smile:
You've got to change that introvert status, don't expect all at your doorstep. Lazy.. can be gotten rid of.

Original post by bittr n swt
Surprisingly guys like you do end up in relationships and often the girl is too stupid to realise that it's not a relationship


True, well said :^_^:
Original post by GodAtum
True. Unfortunately, as I work during the week, I am too tired to go out on the weekends.


Errr how many hours do you do Monday to Friday?

How much free time do you have of a weekend?

I have enough free time of a weekend for 8 hour porn binges, if you're in the house all that time not seeing friends or family, doing chores or whatnot I am damn sure you could go out if you wanted to.

Once or twice a week socialising.mate, plenty of time for Netflix in between.

And pls do not say 'you don't understand introversion', bruh, Smash is a veteran of social.anxiety
Original post by Duncan2012
If you're "too lazy to socialise" why would you expect anyone else to make the effort with you? Introvert/quiet/shy is ok, lazy is not.


Agreed. It's one thing to be introverted, but it's another thing to be lazy. If he can't be bothered to make an effort with friends, no prospective girlfriend would assume that he'd make an effort for her, either.
Reply 13
On the weekends I dont have any friends to hang out with anyway. I just end up doing things myself.

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