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l.o.v.e s.i.c.k - due to my gorgeous best mate

ook.. this girl (lets call her Miss X) is just about driving me mad. I love Miss X completely and she's the closest person to me. The thing is i'm bisexual and she's - on the surface- staight. however, a while back we got reeally close emotionally, and we ended up getting together. i expected it to go further, but due to pressures from our very close group of girl best friends, and her families she couldn't go through with it.

I thought fair enough, i love her too much to push her into anything. but we've become close again and everytime we touch physically there's this massive tension. i can't face rejection again but my god i can't sleep, eat, work she's taking up all of my mind. i have to see her everyday and have to act as her friend and it's so tiring. i need her in my life so much but how can i when i feel like this?

i figured i've got a two options- ignore it and stick the last year of school out with her, or tell her. Advice is so needed i'd appriciate it from anyone- could you handle it if two of your best friends were going out? am i being unrealisitc to expect that it could ever work?

xxxxx

Reply 1

Squelchy

I'd forget about it if I were you. If she didn't go through with it last time, she probably won't this time either.

Reply 2

person 34

9

Tell her! From what you've said, I don't think it would ruin anything, perhaps she would feel weird about it, but you never know she may feel the same. Has she got a bf, sorry didn't quite get this? If she does, then yeah that will make it more complicated, but to be honest from what you're saying, you aren't going to get over it quickly and you need to actually do something about it, so get in there boy :wink:

Good luck

Reply 3

Tennessee

I was in a pretty similar situation to you not so long ago. Have you two ever talked about it? And by getting together, what do you mean exactly? i think you should talk to her about all of this...but if that's too hard, just write her a letter, telling her how you feel but saying that if she doesn't feel the same etc it won't affect your friendship, you'll be fine with it. Obviously, you won't be but...make her feel like it's her decision. And i think, the whole two best friend thing...it would be weird for them at first, but that's to be expected. They'd get used to it, and it wouldn't be a big deal to them in the end. And i don't think your being unrealistic at all...just, please do go for it, because you won't ever know what could have happened if you'd have just said...

Reply 4

rawls87

i would suggest telling her, if u dont u may regret it for a very long time..

Reply 5

garvs

person 34- i'm a girl? i said i'm bisexual?!

Reply 6

person 34

9

ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh i see. me dumb :smile:

i still think you should tell her, but "lesbian" relationships usually end up a bit messy and awkward, but if she says "no" and you back off, then there should be no problemo.

Reply 7

maag101

1

There goes the anon!!

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

I was in a similar situation a while ago, hmm, it is hard, especially that both of you are of the same sex... im still not really over it, cause theyw ere my first REALL love and we were so close emotionally because we were best friends. I never told them, so i never really found out if they felt the same back. I didnt because A) nobody around me would come to terms with it, B) i personally MYSELF think homosexuality is wrong ( i know that sounds weird but i loved my friend in a different way - and ive never felt or feel like that towards any other person of the same sex). I still se them everyday at school, but i guess the sparks worn off. we're not the same as we used to be.....its weird i cant really explain it....'cause sometimes the spark re appears but and it reminfds of how we used to be close..theres been times where the atmossphere WAS really intense between us...but both of us never metioned anything..so sometimes i think it was just me...but then wen i think again...i realise that they gave hints aswell...and we wouldnt hug very often but wen we did, boy oh boy did we hold each other for ages..its just i dunno...worn off a little (emotionally)...but physically (wen we're together) it does sorta re-appear...

Reply 9

Tennessee

lol don't worry...i knew you were a girl. what i said and my situation, was the same...advice still applies. :smile:

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

okay i just re read my last post, that doesnt make much sense does it? i've jumped from here to there, but hopefully you get the jist of it..

Reply 11

Esquire

1

Or you could just get over yourself. If things are meant to happen then the chances are that they'll probably happen. you have to admit moping around on TSR is pretty pathetic.
*braces self for the wave of neg rep*

Reply 12

garvs

Esquire- nice and heartless. youre evidently too busy pissing off other people to fall in love with someone. if you had done, you might have the sense to realise i'm not moping around- if i could get over her don't you think i already would have. get some tact.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

bless you- that sounds a really similar situation. i think there's just a really fine line between really close best mates and somethin more- sounds like you're just toeing the line. I think i'm way past it unfortunately! who were you most worried about- friends, family- when you didn't take it any further? would you have if it was a guy?

yeah i avoid physical contact with her but when we like link arms or greet each other its aaawful i just wana scream lol xx

Reply 14

L i b

19

Not much point in Anon when (a) you break it half the time, (b) you've only made one or two posts here any nobody knows you.

Anyway, um, unrequited love sucks. We all get it once in our lives. Makes us stronger people... I hope.

l.o.v.e s.i.c.k - due to my gorgeous best mate

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