Lost Confidence

To keep a long story short im 4 weeks into uni and am 0/6 in the women count, all seem to get weird that im a geek who doesnt look it and am attracted to 'geek women'. Short of donning my sensible jumpers what should i do?

Reply 1

mr_person

I'm not sure I quite understand your problem. Is it that you aren't attracting women? or just that you aren't attracting the right type?

If you are attracted to 'geek women' then you might want to join a load of geek societies like computing, anime, roleplaying.., umm... star wars?

Reply 2

seandy

It's sort of a mixture of both, and being a 26 year old fresher doesnt help either.

Reply 3

mr_person

I see. Well I would say the age thing isn't a problem. You have a lot more life experience and stories to tell than most of the people who have come straight from school and you are likely more mature as well. I think you are maybe feeling that the other freshers are a little immature and not really into the same stuff as you. If this is true, then its not really anything to worry about. There's only so long you can go to really bad indie/rnb clubs on the premise you will be so mashed on the cheap drinks to care. I would recommend you still try and hang out with these guys when possible but accept that you aren't into exactly the same sort of things. Again i'd recommend joining clubs and societies, it isn't too late. Also don't assume that everyone is happily coupled up already :smile:

Reply 4

seandy

I'm not the cheap drink sort of person, i even hit the point where i offered to buy someone a bottle of bolly. It just seems a lost cause at the mo which is odd cos im only 4 weeks in and trying to be myself rather than who i am if anyone can understand that.

Reply 5

mr_person

Really I wouldn't worry about it. While I am the sort of person who enjoys pointless piss-ups, I have friends who really hate that sort of thing. It just seems to me like you haven't met the right crowd yet. Just keep going out and meeting people and you are bound to come across people with a similar mindset. :smile:

Reply 6

seandy

Fingers crossed, only have about 800 people left to meet in my student village, which is good percentage wise.

Reply 7

kam

Plenty more fish in the sea :smile:

Reply 8

Gem

Uni isn't a the place to shag as many people as you can! What did you expect? Everyone to be totally 'easy'?

Just be yourself and you'll find a nice girl. So what if it's 4 weeks in and you haven't found anyone?! Give it time! Just have fun, enjoy the Uni experience, don't expect anything and you'll be surprised :smile:

Reply 9

seandy

I feel i have given the wrong impression, im not here to spread my seed as it were, i just have happend to bump into lots of nice women who werent interested,

Reply 10

Gem

seandy

I feel i have given the wrong impression, im not here to spread my seed as it were, i just have happend to bump into lots of nice women who werent interested,

Ok, then I reiterate...'So what if it's 4 weeks in and you haven't found anyone?! Give it time! Just have fun, enjoy the Uni experience, don't expect anything and you'll be surprised :smile:

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