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    When I started university recently, I met this guy. We'd spoken loads on MSN before I arrived and had got to know each other really well - even before we'd met in person, I knew I had feelings for him.
    The first time we met face to face was amazing - we got on so well and I honestly felt like I'd known him forever. He seemed to feel the same way and we were constantly ringing each other and texting each other.
    Then the second time we met up, he ended up staying over, and things got a bit heavy....he fingered me and I tossed him off, but that's as far as it went. We're both virgins, but doing sexual stuff with him just felt right. Anyway, since that night, he has gone SERIOUSLY weird with me! He stopped texting regularly, and when we spoke over MSN he was very off and distant. He said he "didn't expect things to move so fast" but at the same time said he wanted us to be more than friends! He said, "I just want to get to know you better first."
    Fair enough, and since then (a week ago) we've spent one whole day together which was really nice. Again though,we cuddled and held hands yet he seemed reluctant to even kiss me. I have no idea where I stand and I'm so confused. I have really fallen for this guy, but whenever I bring up the "awkwardness" that I can sense between us, he just brushes it aside and says he's been really busy with uni work or whatever.
    I hate feeling like this, and I feel like I've been a complete **** and made him lose all respect for me by going further with him on our second date. Please, any advice appreciated. Thanks so much for reading!
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    Maybe he's insecure about his own inexperience?
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    Yeah either he's insecure or now he's touched you up he's had his fun now he's moving on.
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    He's a virgin, and I was the first person he'd kissed, let alone gone further with.

    If this is the case, how do I resolve it? I like him so much, and he means so much to me, I can't bear the thought I may have messed it up.
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    Maybe you need to talk to him and find out where you both stand with each other.
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    Maybe he didnt expect things to go that far. Maybe he just got scared off a bit because of what you did!
    Just talk to him and see if everythings okay?!
    Hope you sort things out. x
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    (Original post by hehe_88)
    He's a virgin, and I was the first person he'd kissed, let alone gone further with.

    If this is the case, how do I resolve it? I like him so much, and he means so much to me, I can't bear the thought I may have messed it up.
    From you saying this, it appears to me that he is worried about experience!
    He might be worried that he did something wrong!
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    I've tried talking to him about it. It's impossible. He just brushes it aside, saying he hasn't texted because of all the work he's had. Before that night, he was texting me about fifty times a day.
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    write him a letter maybe?
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    (Original post by hehe_88)
    I've tried talking to him about it. It's impossible. He just brushes it aside, saying he hasn't texted because of all the work he's had. Before that night, he was texting me about fifty times a day.
    Maybe after your experience he's realised he's not attracted to you?
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    Got to agree,maybe If this was his first experiences with relationship it just a bit fast for him, The beginning weeks of uni are hard enough as it is. Sounds like you need to just talk to him about it, and If hes not up to talking like this maybe give him a couple days to sort his head out.
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    (Original post by Squelchy)
    Maybe after your experience he's realised he's not attracted to you?
    I thought that might be it, but he texted me later in the week to meet up again! And we spent another whole day together.
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    Well just take things slow and see how it goes!
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    (Original post by Claire_Elizabeth)
    Well just take things slow and see how it goes!
    Yeah, sounds like he's just a bit scared because of his inexperience.
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    (Original post by hehe_88)
    When I started university recently, I met this guy. We'd spoken loads on MSN before I arrived and had got to know each other really well - even before we'd met in person, I knew I had feelings for him.
    The first time we met face to face was amazing - we got on so well and I honestly felt like I'd known him forever. He seemed to feel the same way and we were constantly ringing each other and texting each other.
    Then the second time we met up, he ended up staying over, and things got a bit heavy....he fingered me and I tossed him off, but that's as far as it went. We're both virgins, but doing sexual stuff with him just felt right. Anyway, since that night, he has gone SERIOUSLY weird with me! He stopped texting regularly, and when we spoke over MSN he was very off and distant. He said he "didn't expect things to move so fast" but at the same time said he wanted us to be more than friends! He said, "I just want to get to know you better first."
    Fair enough, and since then (a week ago) we've spent one whole day together which was really nice. Again though,we cuddled and held hands yet he seemed reluctant to even kiss me. I have no idea where I stand and I'm so confused. I have really fallen for this guy, but whenever I bring up the "awkwardness" that I can sense between us, he just brushes it aside and says he's been really busy with uni work or whatever.
    I hate feeling like this, and I feel like I've been a complete **** and made him lose all respect for me by going further with him on our second date. Please, any advice appreciated. Thanks so much for reading!
    Maybe because what you did made you seem easy...like a slut. No one likes a slut.
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    Depends also what his background is, does he have strict parents, is he religious etc
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    What could I say to him, without sounding like I'm hassling him about it?
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    (Original post by Sam Beckett)
    Maybe because what you did made you seem easy...like a slut. No one likes a slut.

    Why does it always have to be the girl?! It was as much the lad aswell!
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    Sorry to burst your bubble but that sounds like typical teenage male cowardice. We've all done it at one time or another, been scared we're making a stupid mistake and just stupidly dropping all contact with her, but most of us grow out of it by the time we're about 16...

    If he's a nice guy and it's going to work, then it can work. You shouldn't have to by rights, but you might have to make a romantic move or two from now on. Convince him that it is the right thing. If it still doesn't work, he's got some growing up to do and he's not worth it - this year, at least.

    And I don't think he thinks you're a slut - and his inexperience slightly excuses his cowardice, so he's definitely worth a second shot IMO.

    Don't actually mention it to him directly, by the way, and don't expect him to magically know that you're bothered about it, because we're not telepathic like women think we are... just make it easy and tempting for him to get close to you romantically (not just physically).
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    You can't get wrong with a bit of oral.

    Back to the original question. The whole relationship sounds lame, MSN, Txting OMGROFLLOLLMFAO. All means of communication that mask our real personality.

    See him face to face and just ask him. Maybe he feels embarassed or ashamed. He might be insecure about his body.
 
 
 
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