I want a boyfriend/ how to meet people

I really want to meet a boy to hang out with and stuff. I've never had a proper boyfriend and feel ready now to put myself out there. Howver im finding it really difficult to meet people. How do you meet people of the opposite sex? I dont really meet people through friends of friends so I need to find another way. I saw someone who looked really kind in sainsburys today - do you think I could just walk up to them and give them my number? or is that too freaky? I need help

Reply 1

username47781

20

Ok no do not go straight up and give a random bloke your number, if your still say around 18 years of old there is no rush to find a boyfriend, just enjoy your life. But you say there is a guy you like, well for starters you know nothing about him, get into a conversation with him, find out about each other.

If that is sucessful maybe go for a drink with him and see where that leads. Course you can also maybe meet someone if you joined a club of your interest or if you have an offer of a night out with another friend, take it.

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

lol no don't walk up to them and give them your number! they may have the looks of an angel BUT the heart of a devil. what about school!?! isnt that one of the most obvious places to look. are there any guys you've ever had
crushes on (but never went further then that) or guys that maybe you're already friends with (but would like to take things further) how old are you? don't try the internet until you are of a reasonable age (i dont think its too safe, and its hard to hold a long distance relationship wihtout experience-well in my opinion anyway) or do you go to any after school clubs? or any clubs/groups in general? or have any how do i put it 'promiscous' girl or boy friends who could introduce you to different people. or are there any weddings/parties coming up? i'd say those are a few goos marking points to meet guys. (oh and remember to dress well, i think first impressions DO count)

Reply 3

matt@internet

12

I can't seem to ask gals who I see as just mates for there number in case they think I'm interested in them and think they have to say no or whatever for some reason. Anyway like Carl says, don't just go up and offer your number to some random bloke.

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

I can't seem to ask gals who I see as just mates for there number in case they think I'm interested in them and think they have to say no or whatever for some reason. Anyway like Carl says, don't just go up and offer your number to some random bloke.

Try and make a REASONABLE excuse as to why you want their number...Or if you're planning on going out (as mates) to say the town or the cinema or whatever you do need to be able to hve some form of contact just incase you or them has to delay or cancel, that could be an excuse i guess...

Reply 5

Psynergy

Just go up to him and tell him you think he's attractive and give him your number, text/call and see if it gets any further.

I can't think of a single man who wouldn't at least be flattered by a girl coming up and being honest that she thought they were good looking and she was interested.

Elaborate plots are unecessary if there's no risk, and a stranger is the ultimate no risk situation, what are they going to do, scream, crack and finally have to be brough down from the top cereal shelf by a tranquiliser dart?

Reply 6

apricot

10

i really like this guy who works in a petshop and i hvnt had the courage to talk to him but he seems so nice and hes older so theres a chance hes mature as well. i was gonna just give him my number but thought that would freak him out but i can't exactly stay ages in a petshop he will probably think i'm a stalker!

Reply 7

K Abraham

1

I've given out my numbers to members of the opposite sex. It never turns out very well.

Reply 8

shinyhappy

14

Join air cadets. Seriously, works like a charm if you're fairly active/sporty.
Or failing that, some other male-dominated society, something musical, perhaps?
just find a female friend to tag along with, go along together, and you'll meet tons of lads. And by the laws of averages, some of them will be reasonably nice :smile:

Reply 9

Talon

18

shinyhappy

Join air cadets. Seriously, works like a charm if you're fairly active/sporty.
Or failing that, some other male-dominated society, something musical, perhaps?
just find a female friend to tag along with, go along together, and you'll meet tons of lads. And by the laws of averages, some of them will be reasonably nice :smile:

18 is a little old for ATC.

Reply 10

kam

10

Your girl friends probably know guys? Go out with them, meet some people, find someone who's interesting and get their number.

Reply 11

worldwide

1

I know this is said a lot, but girls have it so much easier! Most guys will just be really flattered by you making a move, so it's just about having confidence!
Just get involved in everything you can and be confident and i'm sure it'll work out eventually.

Reply 12

sweetface.

Anonymous

I really want to meet a boy to hang out with and stuff. I've never had a proper boyfriend and feel ready now to put myself out there. Howver im finding it really difficult to meet people. How do you meet people of the opposite sex? I dont really meet people through friends of friends so I need to find another way. I saw someone who looked really kind in sainsburys today - do you think I could just walk up to them and give them my number? or is that too freaky? I need help

I EXACTLY know what you mean, but i know the guy. I really just want to talk to him/hangout. I know i am the same i would like to meet new people. So i was going to post somthing like this but i'll look at the advice other people have given to you. This will help me too :biggrin:

Reply 13

xelprep

Anonymous

I really want to meet a boy to hang out with and stuff. I've never had a proper boyfriend and feel ready now to put myself out there. Howver im finding it really difficult to meet people. How do you meet people of the opposite sex? I dont really meet people through friends of friends so I need to find another way. I saw someone who looked really kind in sainsburys today - do you think I could just walk up to them and give them my number? or is that too freaky? I need help

I was in a Sainsburys today :biggrin:

. First time in a year or so :cool:

. And yeah, it's easier for girls, if a girl came up to me and said she thought I was good looking (I know I am anyway :p:

) I would be so flattered, even if I didn't find her attractive. Would just be a pleasant situation. But I don't think this would be the same if I went to a girl and did that, she'd probably think I was a freak :frown:

... shame.

Reply 14

Anonymous #3

Anonymous

I really want to meet a boy to hang out with and stuff. I've never had a proper boyfriend and feel ready now to put myself out there. Howver im finding it really difficult to meet people. How do you meet people of the opposite sex? I dont really meet people through friends of friends so I need to find another way. I saw someone who looked really kind in sainsburys today - do you think I could just walk up to them and give them my number? or is that too freaky? I need help

I use www.hotornot.com and have had great success. Just start talkin to a lad or smile to him...keep eye contact. He'll probably get the hint, talk to you. Then before he goes just swap numbers. Say well we should do this again sometime, or want my number? etc.

Good luck! Its cute that you look for 'kind' looking people hehe.

Reply 15

M j R

10

Anonymous

I use www.hotornot.com and have had great success. Just start talkin to a lad or smile to him...keep eye contact. He'll probably get the hint, talk to you. Then before he goes just swap numbers. Say well we should do this again sometime, or want my number? etc.

Good luck! Its cute that you look for 'kind' looking people hehe.

Hot or Not, well at least that will tell you if you are hot, or not. I know it has a date this person option, and it might be a way of becoming more comfortable around men and talking to men. :smile:

Reply 16

shinyhappy

14

Talon

18 is a little old for ATC.

Where does it say the OP is 18? Just guessing, but I'd say she was younger than that. (I joined ATC a couple of months before my 17th birthday, so you can still join fairly late and still enjoy it.)
And there are still things like UAS, (The all-grown-up-and-at-uni air cadets.)
And I used that as an example, there will be plenty of other male-dominated clubs/societies that the OP can join.

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