Jealous of friends success?

I don't know either of you but from this post she seems like spoilt brat, inconsiderate, selfish and a bit up herself. Of course you might have painted her in a horrible light or you're only talking about moments that show her bad qualities, but still, rubbing your wealth in someone else's face is disgusting. So unless these are qualities you are aiming for, I don't see why you should be jealous of her :P She doesn't seem like a very nice person tbh.

I understand that you feel jealous of her money but honestly as long as you've got your essentials, it doesn't matter too much. I've always heard that the more money you have, the more money you want. And even if that isn't true, money isn't everything.

You're envious of her, and that is clouding your view of her. She probably should be more tactful around you - but you can't help that. It would be silly to sever or damage a relationship with an old friend because you're friend has got lucky.

So my ex best friend (I'm saying ex because she's left university and so I hardly see her any more) and I were once really good friends for a number of years and I truly thought she would be a life long friend that I could always turn to in times of trouble. Recently, however, she seems to be stuck up and spoilt, which I think has stemmed from the fact her boyfriend showers her with gifts and she doesn't appreciate the true value of money which saddens me. We used to hang out 3/4 times a week and now I'm lucky if I meet her once a month!

Since he bought them a house and her a brand new car, she seems to think she's better than me, and he is always buying her expensive designer gifts which makes me feel rubbish because I struggle for money and mainly shop at Primark/Aldi. My boyfriend can't afford to spend much on me which I understand and wouldn't expect him to, similarly my family is a lot poorer than hers, but she made fun of this the other day when I met her for lunch/shopping and this upset me but I didn't say anything because it wasn't worth it. It was hard watching her buy designer luxury items and clothes because I felt uncomfortable and jealous at how easily she can throw away that kind of money. The whole time I was with her I felt like leaving, and I've never felt like that before which makes me feel like our friendship is slowly dying. She never asked once how I was or what I'd been up to lately, the conversation revolved around her.

Another thing is I remember being really excited to give her birthday present to her and on the day she didn't even text me to say thank you . I only spent about £20 on her but that's a lot of money to me and I considered her my best friend at the time. She used to text/call all the time and now unless I firstly initiate conversation, nothing happens.

I haven't talked to anyone about this because I feel like I'm making a mountain out of a mole hill but I don't know what to do. Has anyone else ever felt jealous like this when someone you cared about changed for the worse?

All I really have to say on this matter is that "pride often comes before a fall". Sorry to be cliché but it's very very accurate and something I have come across many times in life.

I also know (from direct experience) that crappy friends are not worth your time! Similar to this girl making fun of your family being less well off, my ex-friend mocked me for having different academic interests to her/believing in God. I also didn't say anything because I thought it wasn't worth it at the time. It is of the UTMOST importance that you surround yourself with people who enjoy your company; there is zero point in putting in effort for people who wouldn't do the same for you! Sometimes you have to be selfish with this kind of thing, it's really hard at times but good for an individual in the long run.

I've said it many times on other threads but 'breaking up' with my sucky old friends was one of the best decisions I ever made! I'm much more confident about my academic ability and about myself in general. I only surround myself with people I like and who like me: it works wonders for self esteem!

You don't need to be jealous that she has designer clothes and accessories, very few people are in that position and she should consider herself lucky to have a boyfriend willing to pay for that lifestyle! However, what you should really be thinking is that at least your boyfriend loves you enough to not have to prove himself by giving you lavish gifts, he cares for you and that's enough I wonder if her boyfriend cares about her as much as your boyfriend does for you (Versace or no Versace :P )

I hope this helps


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