(Original post by Anonymous)
I'm thinking of staying at home whilst at university as it's cheaper and I would be a lot more motivated to work
. Just wondering if it would be harder to make good friends at university if I stayed at home?
Any experiences from people who lived at home whilst a university or heard from anyone? What are the advantages and disadvantages?
As long as you've got your reasons for staying at home, and you've thought about it long and hard, then stay at home! Yes, it is difficult to make friends - especially in the first few weeks when you don't really know anyone. I remember feeling pretty crap the first few weeks because during freshers week everyone is in this insane mood when they must absolutely get along with everyone they meet. The advantage you have commuting is that you can sit back a bit, then settle in with a group of friends you genuinely get on with. It does take a bit of getting used to though. Everyone says you get out of uni what you put into it - if you want an amazing social life then you're gonna have to work hard to get one, crash at friends houses and stuff like that, but if you're prepared to put in the effort then you'll get what you want. I think though, it is a bit easier to sit back and let the social side of things slip away from you if you commute. It just depends how much you want it.
Also think about the length of your commute - I have the worlds most horrendous commute (wake up before the sun has risen, 3 mile cycle ride, half hour train journey, one hour bus journey, 10 minute walk), so you have to be pretty motivated and committed to keep it up.
Always remember as well that at most unis people tend to move out from campus accomodation and move out into off-campus accomodation in the second year. You could always commute in the first year, and if you find that it gets a bit tedious commuting up each day you can always move out then. It's nice having the option.
People say that you get certain 'life experiences' from living at uni which you won't get at home - whilst that's true, you can gain those life experiences in other ways. You just need to make an extra special effort. Get a part time job, put in loads of hours over christmas, save up money and go travelling or something in your uni holidays. Get a volunteering job during the week. Still join societies at uni and get involved. Do something a bit different. As long as you can justify why you are commuting it can be a positive experience in a job interview.
This all depends on your parent-situation though. Mine have progressively hacked me off further and further as the years have gone by, so you need to think about that.