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    After starting uni I have come to many conclusions about life.
    Life is **** basically. There is nothing to it…and at the end everyone is alone and lonely.

    If we fall in love then we still die alone. What is the point?
    You can love somebody with all your heart but in the end your love can only be broken and lost through love.

    The family that we love WILL die in front of us…we have to go through mourning the greatest loss of those we love.
    I love my family so much (I sometimes think too much)and when my parents die (as they inevitably will whilst I’m still alive) I just don’t think I will be able to cope. There would be nothing left to my life. It scares me so much when I think about them dying.

    I’ve realised that sex is also very overrated. Climax is about 30 seconds long but that’s all.

    I just think to myself “Why bother living?”….What’s good about it?.
    We have to work and what do we get from that? We get money to pay to keep ourselves. Eg. Food, tax, rent.

    Suicide would be great (and believe me i've come close)but I know I never will because of guilt of leaving my family and friends behind. I know they would be devastated.

    Self-harm is helpful but society doesn’t like me doing it….it my body I can do what I want with it. Right?

    And I haven’t tried drugs so I wouldn’t know about them.
    Why do we all carry on living?...Whats good about it? What help do I need?
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    It sounds so stupid but life is truely what you make of it. I take it u r of no religion - just to get that out the way?

    People die, fact right. if ur so **** scared about the 'rentals dyin' - talk to them. I'm sure they've been through it - if not talk to grandma.

    and what's all this crap about,"You can love somebody with all your heart but in the end your love can only be broken and lost through love". Have you been listening to Hawthorn Heights again lol? Sorry - in all seriousness though yeah, **** happens but you can find the strength to get over it. We are human!...

    You love your family (albeit by your own admission too much maybe, if that is even possible) and they love you, be ****ing greatful. I see too many people who have crap relations with their family and still don't get all OMG - life is *******s. I don't see how you can say its not worth living when you admit you love your family so much?

    i'm sorry if it sounds like i'm having a go - i dont mean to
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    After starting uni I have come to many conclusions about life.
    Life is **** basically. There is nothing to it…and at the end everyone is alone and lonely.

    If we fall in love then we still die alone. What is the point?
    You can love somebody with all your heart but in the end your love can only be broken and lost through love.

    The family that we love WILL die in front of us…we have to go through mourning the greatest loss of those we love.
    I love my family so much (I sometimes think too much)and when my parents die (as they inevitably will whilst I’m still alive) I just don’t think I will be able to cope. There would be nothing left to my life. It scares me so much when I think about them dying.

    I’ve realised that sex is also very overrated. Climax is about 30 seconds long but that’s all.

    I just think to myself “Why bother living?”….What’s good about it?.
    We have to work and what do we get from that? We get money to pay to keep ourselves. Eg. Food, tax, rent.

    Suicide would be great (and believe me i've come close)but I know I never will because of guilt of leaving my family and friends behind. I know they would be devastated.

    Self-harm is helpful but society doesn’t like me doing it….it my body I can do what I want with it. Right?

    And I haven’t tried drugs so I wouldn’t know about them.
    Why do we all carry on living?...Whats good about it? What help do I need?
    I agree. I could tell you how cr*p my life is but it'd probably feel quite guilty about making this thread...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I agree. I could tell you how cr*p my life is but it'd probably make you feel quite guilty about making this thread...
    -(missed a few words)
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    All I can say is its true, life is what you make of it, if you're one of those people who thinks like that and wants you're life to just get wasted by saying its crap and how you will die alone, or you're family will die in front of you, go ahead.

    life is yours, it isnt ****, you're not some poor kid in africa starving, or some girl being abused by her dad- you have a loving family and friends so it seems, the fact you have started University shows you have a good life, and are being a spoilt bratt in my opinion
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    Workhouse I like what your saying. Your making me smile .
    Yeah maybe if I was religious it would help.
    Freezer you havent got the opinion i'm trying to put foward.
    There is no way that I'm being a spoilt brat. Going to university doesnt make you spoilt deary!
    Oh and I havent listened to Hawthorne Heights for a while!
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    (Original post by Freezer)
    All I can say is its true, life is what you make of it, if you're one of those people who thinks like that and wants you're life to just get wasted by saying its crap and how you will die alone, or you're family will die in front of you, go ahead.

    life is yours, it isnt ****, you're not some poor kid in africa starving, or some girl being abused by her dad- you have a loving family and friends so it seems, the fact you have started University shows you have a good life, and are being a spoilt bratt in my opinion
    Concisely Put... I completely agree.

    And in response to the OP's original question I would say that you do need help, of the professional kind, again i don't mean that in a harsh way but if you are fixating on the death of your family and not seeing a reason for living then seek help and fast bepfre you slip deeper into a depression. Your university will probobly offer a free, confidential counselling service... USE IT! thats what it's for!
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    You're not spoilt cos you went to University, you're spoilt because you have a loving family and friends, and a chance at a degree, and you're wasting the life saying its ****, when clearly there are people a million times worst then you.


    I have a strong opinion which I like to express, people who say my life is **** and think of the worst things to come are always gonna have a crap life, but the point is someone form a 3rd world country or a girl craving a loving family would trade everything to be in youre shoes.

    Stop thinking of the worst and think of the good things, I personally on a lighter note think you have a problem accepting death, as you dont want to die alone or see you're family die.
    Which is common, if I was you give it a long hard thort and see whats really pulling you down, many people say "life is ****" to mask a problem, you're maybe seeing the people you love die.. or you dying..

    Like workhouse said which was a good idea, use the Council service from ur Uni, but ur life isnt the problem...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Workhouse I like what your saying. Your making me smile .
    Yeah maybe if I was religious it would help.
    Freezer you havent got the opinion i'm trying to put foward.
    There is no way that I'm being a spoilt brat. Going to university doesnt make you spoilt deary!
    Oh and I havent listened to Hawthorne Heights for a while!
    Good - im glad i can make someone ... And stay away from the Hawthorn heights for a while lol, best methinks.

    I'm not religious at all, I'm more of a humanist than anything.- but i do know a number of people that it has helped give strength too in all sorts of situations... But all you need is a little faith i think (oh god it must be 3am - I'm making references to George Michael)...
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    lol!!!!!!!!!!
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    In my gap year I keep going 2 bed at like 4 n waking up at 4 the next day.

    So im gonna try staying awake till tommorow night and then getting a decent nights rest.
    Probably why Im so cranky and am still on here.... hmmm
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    (Original post by Freezer)
    In my gap year I keep going 2 bed at like 4 n waking up at 4 the next day.

    So im gonna try staying awake till tommorow night and then getting a decent nights rest.
    Probably why Im so cranky and am still on here.... hmmm
    I'm Just about to start my gap year and i'm doing much the same... Had my dad ring me yesterday morning to get me up.
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    (Original post by Freezer)
    You're not spoilt cos you went to University, you're spoilt because you have a loving family and friends, and a chance at a degree, and you're wasting the life saying its ****, when clearly there are people a million times worst then you.


    I have a strong opinion which I like to express, people who say my life is **** and think of the worst things to come are always gonna have a crap life, but the point is someone form a 3rd world country or a girl craving a loving family would trade everything to be in youre shoes.

    Stop thinking of the worst and think of the good things, I personally on a lighter note think you have a problem accepting death, as you dont want to die alone or see you're family die.
    Which is common, if I was you give it a long hard thort and see whats really pulling you down, many people say "life is ****" to mask a problem, you're maybe seeing the people you love die.. or you dying..

    Like workhouse said which was a good idea, use the Council service from ur Uni, but ur life isnt the problem...
    duuuude, playing the 'other people have it worse than you' card, albeit a truthful one, doesn't help. it just makes the person feel gulity and thus worse, making it harder for them to change their outlook on life.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    After starting uni I have come to many conclusions about life.
    Life is **** basically. There is nothing to it…and at the end everyone is alone and lonely.
    Life does seem a bit pointless at times, doesn't it? You're born only to die later. However, I've found that if you find a purpose for yourself, suddenly the meaninglessness disappears... maybe you could try doing that?

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    If we fall in love then we still die alone. What is the point?
    You can love somebody with all your heart but in the end your love can only be broken and lost through love.
    Not necessarily.

    I've developed quite pessimistic views towards love over time, but I know that people do sometimes find love that lasts for the rest of their lives, no matter how much that sounds like a load of Disneyfied b*******. Some people are destined to be alone, yes, but happy endings do exist.

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    The family that we love WILL die in front of us…we have to go through mourning the greatest loss of those we love.
    I love my family so much (I sometimes think too much)and when my parents die (as they inevitably will whilst I’m still alive) I just don’t think I will be able to cope. There would be nothing left to my life. It scares me so much when I think about them dying.
    I've come to see death as something positive... well, -ish. Obviously, it'll be sad to know that you'll never see loved ones again during this life after they die, but I personally think of it this way: their souls will still live on, and they'll be free from mortal pain.

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I just think to myself “Why bother living?”….What’s good about it?.
    We have to work and what do we get from that? We get money to pay to keep ourselves. Eg. Food, tax, rent.
    But if we work hard enough, we can earn enough money to do things like explore the world and find out about other cultures... or, if you're a lil' geeky like me, buy the latest video game consoles! XD There's so much interesting stuff to do in life, however I can understand that this can be hard to see sometimes.

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Suicide would be great (and believe me i've come close)but I know I never will because of guilt of leaving my family and friends behind. I know they would be devastated.

    Self-harm is helpful but society doesn’t like me doing it….it my body I can do what I want with it. Right?

    And I haven’t tried drugs so I wouldn’t know about them.
    I really think you ought to see someone about this... if you're even thinking of suicide, there's something seriously wrong.


    I hope that what I've said helps, even if just a little. ^_^
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    lifes for living true, eventually it all must end, but while you have it, lie it,
    spend each moment like its your last, it'll be all the sweeter, when those you love depart embrace it, cause its a new beginning for them and you, never mourn as there is nothing to mourn, the time you spent and the memories you have will last you a lifetime, and the most important advice i can give

    be all you can be (thats the army for you, true its the yanks saying but meh)
    never stop dreaming, never stop reaching for those proverbial stars, find something new everyday, and remember no matter where we all end up we all had fun getting there, i know ive been to the damn edge


    and laughed

    i once felt the same but realised you only get one shot so im not wasting mine

    good luck i hope this brings about a new beginning and new hope

    yours chris
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    The truth is, life probably is all of the things you say it is. I will not sit here and write, 'Oh, thats rubbish'. But if you think long hard and deeply about life in that fashion, you sort of channel your mind to actually believe so passionately that life really is rubbish. I tend to channel my mind into believing yes, life has its bad points, trials & tribulations, but this is what makes life quite entertaining. It is there for us to manipulate into anything we desire.
    We guide our life, it's only fate and fortune that adds on to it and takes away. So with this, I am at university, I am meeting new people and doing new things and I love life. There are bad things about my life such as my paralysed grandmother and things like that, but nobody can help that. You cannot change what was meant to happen, but you can change what you think and feel.
    You say about the heartbreak of love, but what about when you are in love, the feelings which come from it are priceless. What about being able to love your family, and not the feeling you will have when you can no longer love them. I think it's all about tuning in to positive things, not pessmistic, depressing, morbid things.
    Life is quite spectacular if you channel your mind to believe it. For me, travelling is awesome, there is so much to see, and simple things like eating new things, and going out with friends. All of this makes life great. If I thought about when my parents will die, if I fall out of love, or things like that, I would shoot myself after 2 days of thinking it.

    There's no use going on about less fortunate people either, it doesn't really help the OP, for the fact of the matter is, we are entitled to think these things and should not feel guilty really. We owe life nothing. But if you do think you owe life nothing constantly then you will feel futile. This is why I almost am quite egotistical. Because if I don't think about me, I won't actually do anything. Get out there and get something done, and make your life worthwhile.

    The more you think about the bad things, the more they happen. It's like the placebo effect and taking pills and feeling better because your mind thinks that. So if you actually get out there and do something to eradicate those thoughts, then you will actually love life. Sh** happens, and will happen. The strongest people overcome it, and change their lives around. BTW I'm not one of those people who can comment so extraordinarily cold hearted because I have never experienced bad things. Believe me I have had my fair share, but from it, I learnt to adapt to life, and make it what I want it to be. You can be one of those people with a degree who thinks they are owed a job, or a person with a degree who goes out there and shows off their personality and gets a good job. At the moment you are like a person with a degree, thinking life is taking them to places. You control your thoughts, feelings, emotions and where you go, what you like, what you dislike, simply; what you desire - and you have the freedom to do great things.

    Bad example really. But shut up now and actually go out there and do something. I take it you are young, believe, when you are 60 then you can look back at your life and think it was futile, just don't think it now otherwise it will be futile.

    Also, about suicide, well go on, do it. You probably won't and if you felt so intensively about it, you would have. Its just something in the back of your mind. But believe me, it is a waste at your age to contemplate that. You talk about life being rubbish, it will be for your family when you do it, and then you will have let your thoughts win. Because it will become true, that life is absolutely rubbish. Challenge your thoughts, engage with your mind, and do something stimulating. Cutting yourself to ribbons will not get you anywhere, it will just epitomize the idea of life being so vulnerable. This is what is happening, you are carrying out actions which agree with your thoughts.

    PLAY A SPORT, JOIN SOME CLUBS, DO SOME WRITING, TAKE YOUR FAMILY OUT FOR A MEAL! LIFE IS WHAT YOU BLOODY MAKE IT!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)


    After starting uni I have come to many conclusions about life.
    Life is **** basically. There is nothing to it…and at the end everyone is alone and lonely.

    If we fall in love then we still die alone. What is the point?
    You can love somebody with all your heart but in the end your love can only be broken and lost through love.

    The family that we love WILL die in front of us…we have to go through mourning the greatest loss of those we love.
    I love my family so much (I sometimes think too much)and when my parents die (as they inevitably will whilst I’m still alive) I just don’t think I will be able to cope. There would be nothing left to my life. It scares me so much when I think about them dying.

    I’ve realised that sex is also very overrated. Climax is about 30 seconds long but that’s all.

    I just think to myself “Why bother living?”….What’s good about it?.
    We have to work and what do we get from that? We get money to pay to keep ourselves. Eg. Food, tax, rent.

    Suicide would be great (and believe me i've come close)but I know I never will because of guilt of leaving my family and friends behind. I know they would be devastated.

    Self-harm is helpful but society doesn’t like me doing it….it my body I can do what I want with it. Right?

    And I haven’t tried drugs so I wouldn’t know about them.
    Why do we all carry on living?...Whats good about it? What help do I need?
    First and foremost, I would prescribe that you donate all your material possessions to someone who isn't too much of a whining, nihilistic ingrate to appreciate them; given that you clearly either derive no enjoyment from anything tangible, or deem pleasure beneath a completely arbitrary quantitative threshhold as tantamount to none (in which case, the net result is the same).
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    If it's that bad, shut up whining and kill yourself.
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    (Original post by Guffy)
    If it's that bad, shut up whining and kill yourself.
    helpful, real helpful, instead of trying to act tough online where, you apparently can not be hunted down, give some useful advice or get a life

    so sort your life out
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    (Original post by Flank Runner)
    helpful, real helpful, instead of trying to act tough online where, you apparently can not be hunted down, give some useful advice or get a life

    so sort your life out
    Are you crying?
 
 
 
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