Help! One of my friends has passed on an STI but won't tell them

That's incredibly selfish of her, she really really needs to let them know, if she tells them now, the flack she's going to get will be a lot less than if she leaves it till it statrs to cause them problems

Have you explained to her why it is really important to tell the other people? Perhaps she doesn't understand the implications of a STI.

You will lose your friend if you tell them, and you'd rightly deserve to. Its her obligation to tell them, not yours, and its not your decision to make. If she decides she doesn't want to tell them then that makes her a dick, but its not your problem. Try and persuade her if you can, but if you tell them yourself, don't expect to still be her friend.

You will lose your friend if you tell them, and you'd rightly deserve to. Its her obligation to tell them, not yours, and its not your decision to make. If she decides she doesn't want to tell them then that makes her a dick, but its not your problem. Try and persuade her if you can, but if you tell them yourself, don't expect to still be her friend.

That's your opinion and I respect that but I take the totally opposite view. If I had slept with a male who had STI and I had been infected but wasn't aware until a year or two years down the line after being diagnosed with cancer or even worse suffering from brain damage and fighting for my life as a direct result of a sexually transmitted infection I would probably harbour a gruge against the person who knew all along... not that I would even have a lot of time to do so, hypothetically speaking. Worse things can happen.

I'm not sure I agree with this, if there are four blokes wandering around out there, not knowing that they have an STI, they deserve to be told, not just for them, but also for any women they may pass it on to. I think that really, all things considered, if I were you I'd tell them, even at risk of destabilizing my friendship.

There are thousands of blokes walking around with STD's that they don't know about, why would these four matter so much? She should get the clinic to contact them anonymously or anonymously contact them herself. These guys could be one night stands that she has no idea how to contact or guys that would make her life a living hell if they were told she'd infected them. How would you feel if everyone she knew had labelled her dirty and infected just because you decided to tell them yourself? It's down to her to sort it out.

So hang on, are you saying you'd prefer not to know if it was you? You sound like a complete idiot tbh, 'why would these four matter so much'...because they can be helped! That's why! Anyone in their situation should be informed, and if it was me whos friend had passed it on, and refused to tell them, I'd feel obliged to let them know. No-one ever mentioned telling everyone, just those who are affected by it.