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    I've been with my current girlfriend for about 2 years now, and everything is fine, were both happy. however one of her ex boyfriends has recently tried to contact her multiple times, and she won't let me/her tell him she's moved on and to back off. am i looking into this too much or is something going on?
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    Well ask her how she would like you doing that to an ex
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    how she would like me to pester my ex, or for me to ignore my ex and let them continue trying to pester me.. ?
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    Leave it unless he tries to actually get back with her


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    It's her choice what to tell him. You don't have a right to just jump in and tell him to 'back off.' If you suspect she's being flirty with him, or such, then you have every right to have a serious conversation with her.

    But ultimately, if your girlfriend doesn't want you to say anything, then you should respect that and leave the issue be. Otherwise you risk seriously upsetting her.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    how she would like me to pester my ex, or for me to ignore my ex and let them continue trying to pester me.. ?
    Funny how guys mainly only care when they're at risk of losing what they have. I would say tell her to tell him that she has a boyfriend now. Wasn't that the obvious thing to do from the start? And if she refuses to tell him that, it's seriously fishy
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    (Original post by Temporality)
    Funny how guys mainly only care when they're at risk of losing what they have. I would say tell her to hell him that she has a boyfriend now. Wasn't that the obvious thing to do from the start? And if she refuses to tell him that, it's seriously fishy
    right, as if I've completely ignored her the past 2 years... i did tell her, i quote she said it would be awkward and cause uneccisary drama
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    (Original post by abbiemac)
    It's her choice what to tell him. You don't have a right to just jump in and tell him to 'back off.' If you suspect she's being flirty with him, or such, then you have every right to have a serious conversation with her.

    But ultimately, if your girlfriend doesn't want you to say anything, then you should respect that and leave the issue be. Otherwise you risk seriously upsetting her.

    but isn't that a bit unfair on her ex? to be leading him on like that?
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    If she's already ignoring him, he will get the message. In a way it might be a good thing because replying, even just to tell him to back off and she's moved on, shows that she's acknowledging him and might add fuel to the fire as he's got something to respond to. Ignorance is a clear message of no interest, responding shows there is just enough interest to make the effort to respond, which some people might cling to. If she's ignoring him, he will get bored and I don't really see the issue.

    Its not like she's actually engaging in conversation with him.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    right, as if I've completely ignored her the past 2 years... i did tell her, i quote she said it would be awkward and cause uneccisary drama
    tell her no it wouldn't he needs to know that it's a lost cause. he's not even with her right now, I'm sure he can deal with it. If he can't then tough luck. Tell her she's being *****y to you and causing 'unecessary drama' with you by not telling him. She seems to care more about avoiding drama with her ex than avoiding drama with the person she's with, and that's just plain unfair
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    It does seem odd that she's ignoring him, rather than telling him she's moved on.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    but isn't that a bit unfair on her ex? to be leading him on like that?
    If she is leading him on, then yes. But it isn't really down to you to say anything to him.

    How do you know she is leading him on? And if you think she is, why don't you talk to your girlfriend about it?
 
 
 
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