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    Hi everyone

    For some time now, I've been rather down about not having any goal or dream I'm working towards.

    I'm not really looking forward to any sort of career. I did medicine for a while, hated it and dropped out. Realised I didn't really want to be a doctor, I like helping people, but the idea of the job wasn't the same as I imagined, I didn't like being or working in hospitals nor was a I really interested in the course materials.

    I then switched to Engineering. I don't hate it. I don't really love it either.

    I just don't have a dream job I'm working towards. Ideally I'd like to be a famous actor, musician, sportsman. But I wouldn't settle for just the act itself, e.g. being a small time actor (I don't even like drama, and am not great at music). Just the fame most likely attracts me.


    Some people go for money, but I was born into a wealthy family. I don't have the desire to earn lots of money. I don't tend to be very materialistic, I don't spend much nor feel the need to.


    So I just dunno what to do, or what I want to be. I'd love to work in a career that I love or am passionate about, but I don't seem to be able to find that. It's hard to really motivate myself to work (but I do do it). Even with activities, sports, societies I do so many different ones. My friends are often astounded why I do so many, and how I fit the time in. But truth is, if I didn't I'd probably just get bored, I can't focus on one thing that I really love.

    I'm just looking for that motivation and passion which I can't find. I force myself to do so many things, but it often feels like a chore and it's empty.


    Any help? Or anyone in a similar situation? Please feel free to share :cool:
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    You speak out of my heart. I was in a very similar situation to yourself.

    Sometimes it feels like there's an emptiness within your heart that you cannot fill no matter what you do. Neither with money, partners, friends, movies, games, alcohol, cars, jobs, good grades etc.

    I can only speak of myself, but there is something that closes this emptiness within my heart. Only one thing: Helping other people. That feeling that you have when you have helped somebody and you know that you made someone's life a little bit easier is just beyond imagination.

    But there's also another thing that could help, and this is philosophy. Not the kind of philosophy that one learns at school, like Kant. Sounds weird but it could drastically shift your perspective on life.

    Alternatively, people might find religion or spirituality equally helpful.
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    You speak out of my heart. I was in a very similar situation to yourself.

    Sometimes it feels like there's an emptiness within your heart that you cannot fill no matter what you do. Neither with money, partners, friends, movies, games, alcohol, cars, jobs, good grades etc.

    I can only speak of myself, but there is something that closes this emptiness within my heart. Only one thing: Helping other people. That feeling that you have when you have helped somebody and you know that you made someone's life a little bit easier is just beyond imagination.

    But there's also another thing that could help, and this is philosophy. Not the kind of philosophy that one learns at school, like Kant. Sounds weird but it could drastically shift your perspective on life.

    Alternatively, people might find religion or spirituality equally helpful.
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    (Original post by SkyT)
    You speak out of my heart. I was in a very similar situation to yourself.

    Sometimes it feels like there's an emptiness within your heart that you cannot fill no matter what you do. Neither with money, partners, friends, movies, games, alcohol, cars, jobs, good grades etc.

    I can only speak of myself, but there is something that closes this emptiness within my heart. Only one thing: Helping other people. That feeling that you have when you have helped somebody and you know that you made someone's life a little bit easier is just beyond imagination.

    But there's also another thing that could help, and this is philosophy. Not the kind of philosophy that one learns at school, like Kant. Sounds weird but it could drastically shift your perspective on life.

    Alternatively, people might find religion or spirituality equally helpful.
    Thanks for the response.

    Yeah I'm very similar. As for helping people, I'm sort of like a volunteer junkie. It's one of the things that cheers me up a bit helping people. Though it doesn't change the fact I feel empty and directionless. Problem with volunteering as it's hard to make a job out of. That's the appeal partly, because it's free. If you're paid, becomes a job. And even then, not enough money in it I feel to raise a family.
 
 
 
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