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    Hi Everyone new here!

    Right so i have been feeling like this for a very long time. I have been in long term relationships with girls and i loved it etc all the usual stuff.

    However i keep having urges, urges to try new things. I'm still interested in girls however there is this one boy i've not known him very long he's gay and open about it. I think we have feelings for each other, for example just yesterday we met up on our own hugs kisses hand holding etc. I'm really confused We really hit it off and have been speaking ever since we have quite allot in common. I'm unsure as to how i go about this, and i think i need a second opinion! I then think about what will my family think? Children? Haters! It's really getting me down arguing with the people who i'm closest too etc

    Anyone got any advice? If you are going to be a douche bag then please don't comment. This is a very touchy subject for me!
    Thanks
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    As a young bisexual I think that the best thing to remember that what you are feeling is completely normal, some idiots will tell you bisexuality is a myth but it is anything but. When I first realised I was Bi I found myself a really great group of people in my community and talking with them made me so much more at ease.

    I first came out to my current partner followed by my close friends and everyone seemed okay with it, including one of my best friends who came out with me! The best advice I can give you is to find yourself a good group of LGBT individuals, look for local societies/ awareness groups and if you feel up to it go to one of the major pride events.

    In terms of coming out, I did it subtly (ordered a gay pride flag and hung it in my room).

    Best of luck, hopefully you will meet some amazing people!
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    (Original post by frostyjacks4life)
    As a young bisexual I think that the best thing to remember that what you are feeling is completely normal, some idiots will tell you bisexuality is a myth but it is anything but. When I first realised I was Bi I found myself a really great group of people in my community and talking with them made me so much more at ease.

    I first came out to my current partner followed by my close friends and everyone seemed okay with it, including one of my best friends who came out with me! The best advice I can give you is to find yourself a good group of LGBT individuals, look for local societies/ awareness groups and if you feel up to it go to one of the major pride events.

    In terms of coming out, I did it subtly (ordered a gay pride flag and hung it in my room).

    Best of luck, hopefully you will meet some amazing people!
    I know! Thats what annoys me and it make it hard to find somewhere you can post/go to talk about these sorts of things. As you can't just have a normal conversation! I might do that, does seem like a good idea i have spoken to him about my situation and he has helped me.

    Thats great news! My issue is my granddad, some people in my family are a bit homophobic. My uncle is fine as my aunties brother is gay. i don't know i don't want to make a rushed decision and then regret it forever! (telling people i mean) I think i may have some people that i can talk too my best friend from school came out las month and i will probably talk to him about it as he trusted me and came to me for advise when he was in this sort of situation!

    Thats a very good way of doing it haha!

    Thanks for the tips.
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    (Original post by Jon1208)
    I know! Thats what annoys me and it make it hard to find somewhere you can post/go to talk about these sorts of things. As you can't just have a normal conversation! I might do that, does seem like a good idea i have spoken to him about my situation and he has helped me.

    Thats great news! My issue is my granddad, some people in my family are a bit homophobic. My uncle is fine as my aunties brother is gay. i don't know i don't want to make a rushed decision and then regret it forever! (telling people i mean) I think i may have some people that i can talk too my best friend from school came out las month and i will probably talk to him about it as he trusted me and came to me for advise when he was in this sort of situation!

    Thats a very good way of doing it haha!

    Thanks for the tips.
    older people will always be difficult as they weren't socialised to accept LGBT stuff, don't have much experience of older people in my family being homophobic as they are all dead!
    best wishes and good luck
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    (Original post by frostyjacks4life)
    older people will always be difficult as they weren't socialised to accept LGBT stuff, don't have much experience of older people in my family being homophobic as they are all dead!
    best wishes and good luck
    It probably doesn't help that he is a miserable old man! Haha

    thanks means allot!
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    How old are you OP if you don't mind.
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    (Original post by kka25)
    How old are you OP if you don't mind.
    No sure sorry forgot to include it!

    I'm 19. 20 in august
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    (Original post by Jon1208)
    No sure sorry forgot to include it!

    I'm 19. 20 in august
    Well, what does your family like? Perhaps your family might get to know the boy a bit in future? Perhaps they can watch football together in-front of the telly ; )

    (I'm just throwing some ideas ATM).
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    My family are weird! Haha, Well my dad likes football so i think they might get on :') i think he likes football. Was thinking of introducing him as a friend making something up like we are going out with some friends and I'm giving him a lift or something

    ideas are helpful!
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    But before that, are your family the conservative type? Religious?
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    (Original post by kka25)
    But before that, are your family the conservative type? Religious?
    Nope they aren'! Which is a bonus
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    Just going to give this thread a little bump now the troll has been removed.
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    Thanks! There are some good people here, i did post it again could you delete it for me? I didn't know you closed and the reopened posts! sorry
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    (Original post by Jon1208)
    Thanks! There are some good people here, i did post it again could you delete it for me? I didn't know you closed and the reopened posts! sorry
    That's why the thread was labelled "closed for cleanup"

    The other one's been removed for you.
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    (Original post by moonkatt)
    That's why the thread was labelled "closed for cleanup"

    The other one's been removed for you.
    I didn't see that bit until after i had posted the other one

    Thank you!
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    Do you think he can strike a conversation with your granddad? Perhaps that could really help in formulating a good relationship with him.
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    (Original post by kka25)
    Do you think he can strike a conversation with your granddad? Perhaps that could really help in formulating a good relationship with him.
    I doubt it. My granddad is a very upfront person. He will tell you what he thinks and you just have to deal with it, he likes to drink also which doesn't help.

    They would probably just argue
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    (Original post by Jon1208)
    I doubt it. My granddad is a very upfront person. He will tell you what he thinks and you just have to deal with it, he likes to drink also which doesn't help.

    They would probably just argue
    I'm pretty upfront when I'm dealing with an upfront person ironically and it's quite fun seeing them argue

    If he's an upfront person as well, then I don't think there's any problem?
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    (Original post by kka25)
    I'm pretty upfront when I'm dealing with an upfront person ironically and it's quite fun seeing them argue

    If he's an upfront person as well, then I don't think there's any problem?
    That's true. I get the feeling that he would say what he thought back :') It could go either way i suppose. That's if my granddad would speak to me of course

    I suppose when i've actually found out whats going on i will have a choice tell him or not. Probably speak to mum first as she would know!
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    I think as long as you are safe you should just go out and enjoy yourself. What you should realise is that you are not obliged to come out to anyone. Don't worry about how your family might react, think about your own happiness. It might be a good idea to speak to someone about it though, someone you trust or even better someone who has gone through the same thing.

    I wouldn't advise coming out to everyone when you are still confused with your sexuality. Take some time to discover yourself, perhaps join a LGBT community to help "normalise" the fact you could be bisexual.
 
 
 
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