Don't worry, my boyfriend's in the army too - apparently it shouldn't be too dangerous because I think they're mostly working as peacekeepers with the UN now but there'll pretty much always be an element of danger so I guess it's one of those things you kind of have to get used to.
As for your relationship - the likelihood that he's going to go off you just because he's over there is generally considered to be pretty slim - again, without being crude, they're stuck with a load of other guys for however many months so I think he'll generally be pretty pleased to see you again - if anything I've found that the paranoia's usually the other way seeing as it's kind of easier for you to find someone else. Other than that, they have computers and stuff out there so you can still talk on fb etc and sure it takes a bit of extra work to keep it going but if you think it's worth it then it doesn't have to be the end of it
Boyfriends going to Afghanistan :( watch
- 06-01-2015 13:35
(Original post by Anonymous)
- 06-01-2015 13:43
I met a guy in summer who is in the army and these last few months have been absolutely amazing. We get on so well and I love spending time with him. He makes me so happy!
However, in a few months time he is going to Afghanistan for 5 months and I am really scared of what that's going to do to our relationship. What if 5 months away from me makes me realise he doesn't like me? And of course what if he dies .
I know I have about three months till he goes away but for the next few months he is on a course so we will only be seeing each orher every other weekend if that so that may make me
"Get used to" not seeing him.
But I am really scared and worried.
(Original post by Guy Secretan)
- 06-01-2015 13:44
What did you first find attractive about him also how long into the relationship did you sleep with him.
- 06-01-2015 17:11
The time passes faster than youd think
My fiance was away for 3 months and we live together! So it was a real shock to the system. It was hard and time does drag sometimes but before you know it it is time to come home!
Make sure to send him parcels (of useful stuff! They often have more shower gel etc than they could drown in because they get sent so much) as they love recieving them and just write letters etc.
If you want to talk about it then do so, but remember youve only been with him a few months and this IS HIS JOB. That will always win. They dont look at it like we do. My partner always said about how excited he was to go and when od get upset because i felt like he wanted to leave me hed get exasperated becaise this is what he trains for, his whole point of a job. Always, always remember that.
Good luck x
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