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    (Original post by SophieSmall)
    Living together is like a test for some relationships, many fail. How your family feels about your girlfriend is irrelevant to your happiness. It really can be as simple as that. Your girlfriend is borderline emotionally abusive.
    Emotionally abusive? What are the traits of someone who is emotionally abusive?
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    Emotionally abusive? What are the traits of someone who is emotionally abusive?
    Copy pasted an example list:

    Psychological abuse can look like:


    1. Humiliating or embarrassing you.
    2. Constant put-downs.
    3. Hypercriticism.
    4. Refusing to communicate.
    5. Ignoring or excluding you.
    6. Extramarital affairs.
    7. Provocative behavior with opposite sex.
    8. Use of sarcasm and unpleasant tone of voice.
    9. Unreasonable jealousy.
    10. Extreme moodiness.
    11. Mean jokes or constantly making fun of you.
    12. Saying “I love you but…”
    13. Saying things like “If you don’t _____, I will_____.”
    14. Domination and control.
    15. Withdrawal of affection.
    16. Guilt trips.
    17. Making everything your fault.
    18. Isolating you from friends and family.
    19. Using money to control.
    20. Constant calling or texting when you are not with him/her.
    21. Threatening to commit suicide if you leave.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Emotionally abusive? What are the traits of someone who is emotionally abusive?
    Makes you feel guilty even when you are not doing anything wrong, manipulates you into doing things their way, isolates you from friend and/or family either forcefully or through manipulation. Ect.
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    Guys, having read through that list and SophieSmall explaining it, I think she might be a little like that. I love her so much, what's the best way forward?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Guys, having read through that list and SophieSmall explaining it, I think she might be a little like that. I love her so much, what's the best way forward?
    Well being honest to yourself is the first step, so you done good there.
    It might just be that you aren't putting up enough resistance, probably because you don't want to upset her but you have a right to defend yourself and stand for what makes you happy.
 
 
 
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