I have a boring personality. What can I do to change it?

I'm a girl and I felt so down today, I looked at other people in my class and realised how boring I am also with my big group of friends, I hardly know them since I don't talk much and theres only about 2 people out of 10 friends I'm really close to. I really want to have a confident and talkative personality but no I'm quiet and hardly talk even though i want to but I'm afraid of how others would judge me and if I say stupid things. :frown:

I know this is stupid but do you have any tips?

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Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Yeah - open your mouth and . . . talk!

Reply 2

hixey101

if you say anything stupid just laugh and everyone else will and that will be the end of it.

Reply 3

hannah_dru

Everyone thinks they're boring at some point. It doesn't help when you're down either. I do it all the time and I can be shy. I just talk about anything.

Reply 4

Profesh

I'm invariably highly interesting, and hence do not empathise in the least.

Reply 5

Profesh

I'm invariably highly interesting, and hence do not empathise in the least.

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I bet you're sat next to a well-thumbed thesauras...

Reply 6

TheOxe

I don't think so, that dude is always chatting those cool english lines. Wish I could talk like that :frown:

Reply 7

Guffy

Become a dominatrix.

Reply 8

If you believe in reincarnation, why not end it all and go for round 2?

Reply 9

Profesh

3232

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I bet you're sat next to a well-thumbed thesauras...

Substitute 'thesaurus' for 'meretrix', and you'd be nearer the mark.

Reply 10

SuperhansFavouriteAlsatian

Co-mother****ing-caine.

Reply 11

salgueira

You can't change a boring personality (except by chemicals), but you sound just to be shy, not boring. IMO, the boring ones are those who always have their mouths open and love the sound of their own voice. Work on becoming quietly confident, and accept that you're a shy person who isn't going to become a loudmouth. Which is good, as there are enough of those around. You can have an air of mystery or something. :biggrin:

Reply 12

Mashi

Maybe you just haven't found the people you really click with yet. Why don't you join some clubs as people there will have the same interests as you and then you can get to know them better.

Reply 13

Anonymous #3

you cant change your personality?? oh **** im buggered then.

Reply 14

aleathiel

just have fun with your friends and dont worry so much of what people think

Reply 15

kam

Just enjoy yourself with your friends and talk more.

Reply 16

salgueira

Anonymous

you cant change your personality?? oh shi** im buggered then.

I don't know, your personality can change over time, but the question is why you'd want it to? I wouldn't want my way of thinking and my views to change just so more people would talk to me. :s-smilie:

Reply 17

Anonymous #4

Mashi

Maybe you just haven't found the people you really click with yet. Why don't you join some clubs as people there will have the same interests as you and then you can get to know them better.

Probably accurate. When I was going through my own little self-confidence crisis at one point, I tended to hang around with a bunch of boring arseholes, in turn making me feel like the odd one out for being unable to relate.

Then I suddenly realised that it was a load of ****, that I was brilliant and forgot all about it.