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First Love

I just want confirmation really, cant talk to any1 about it.

Was In love with a girl, she moved with her parents after a nice summer, we stayed in contact for 2 years still liking each other...

My first love, I stay up at night thinking of how we used to lay in bed and just talk all night and laugh, I just think of her over and over.....

Its been 3 years since we were together (saw her a few times since) but I still feel so badly for her, I have been asked out by a few girls and have said no cos I always compare them to her.. Ive had drunken sex at a party and made me feel worse when I thort it wud fix it.


I dont know anyone who still feels attracted to the same girl after 3 and a half years and only seeing them a dozen times since as friends,,,


Is this normal? or am I some weird kid who needs to move on? and how?!

Reply 1

Weird? No. Move on? Yes.

That or work out how to get together with the girl from before. Too tired to discuss the details, but either you get together with her or move on. Sounds like you should do the latter.

Reply 2

Talon
Weird? No. Move on? Yes.

That or work out how to get together with the girl from before. Too tired to discuss the details, but either you get together with her or move on. Sounds like you should do the latter.

sounds like a plan

Reply 3

Aww, the girl must have mean't a lot to you. Why didn't you try long distance? Does she live far? Try getting in touch with the girl to see how she feels, someone is worth fighting for if you love them so much and its ashame you split up due to the move. At least if you know how she feels you can then take the next step or move on.

You never know though turning down other girls may be missed opportunities and your first love may have changed so much that your not mean't to be together anymore.

Good luck :smile:

Reply 4

Are you sure you're not attracted to the idea of her? After all, people change a lot in the space of a few years.

Reply 5

Well I think maybe telling her how you feel would put an end to your worrying. At least then she can tell you how SHE feels, and maybe you two could try again. If however, she doesn't feel the same way, THEN would be the time to move on.
Just do something about it. :-)

Reply 6

BlackHawk
Are you sure you're not attracted to the idea of her? After all, people change a lot in the space of a few years.


Absolutely agree with you. OP should definitely move on. I kind of know what he is talking about - but in the opposite position. The fact that someone hasn't got over you over the years is daunting, distressing and very unpleasant. Do her and yourself a favour and move on with your life.

Reply 7

Be careful.

I have recently been like this and have now realised that its more than likely that my brain is obsessing over my ex, going over and over the good times - when I could just be having these good times right now if I move on. Due to the fact that she was my first, I have no one else to compare them to - hence they're always going to be "perfect" in my eyes.

Try not to think about them (as strange as that sounds). Take up a hobby, hang out with friends, go on adventures, and so on.

Your making a big grey patch in your life when you should actually be living it - so live it!:smile: