Messed up a relationship

I have just broken up with someone I have been going out with for the last couple of months. I know it sounds cliched, but in many ways I was glad simply because of how rocky it has been and now that I know it is over for real I can move on. Im just worried what I have done has completely ruined what could have been a great realtionship.

It started off with a friend of a friend who I met on myspace. We started talking a lot on msn and decided to meet up since we dont live to far away. I had a great day when we did. Later though I made the mistake of saying that I actualy fancied her a bit, and she told me she didnt feel like that about me. I should have left it a bit until we knew weach other a bit better but anyway.

We still carried meeting up with friends and actually did quite a lot. A few weeks later she told me that she had really enjoyed being with me and that she liked me more than a friend. I said I liked her too, even though I had stopped myself after the first time we met up, and we started going out.

A bit later on she told me she didnt want to be my gf. I was obviously upset but knew I would live. A week later however she came to my house and cliches again we ended up together again. I asked her if it was just a one off or if she wanted us to be together again. She said she did.

Then yesterday things went astray again. I had been wanting to see her but she had cancelled on me twice. I read between the lines and told her she had to be honest with me. She told me that she was worried I wasnt giving her any freedom and that I was obsessed.

I couldnt belive that is what she said, I had never thought I was like that. All I have ever done was try to be good to her. I told her she was beautiful, that I enjoyed being with her. I have never told her she couldnt do anything. She had a lot of commitments with her sport things, but I have never let them get in the way or told her that she should give them up for me. I feel awful because I have tried to be a good boyfriend but now its been thrown back in my face, and that we could have been together for a long time if it wasnt for me.

Anyway sorry about the long post. Any advice would be great.

Reply 1

natsing

To be honest, it sounds like this girl has no idea about what she wants! You made the right decision ending it, and its time to move on and meet someone who's in the right headspace for a relationship, and can commit to you the way she felt she couldn't!

Reply 2

Sam Beckett

Maybe she met you out of pity. Or she did want to see you but not to be your gf on the first day of bloody meeting you.

Sounds like you need to learn to cool it with the female of the species and not come on so strong/quick. She may be part to blame but you did put her on the spot a bit on the first time, the correct response is 'I had fun, we should do this again sometime'. You could have put her off a bit.

There are other girls in the world. Internet relationships is strange.

Reply 3

A Y A Z

She doesn't like you. That was pity it was. Forget her.

Reply 4

username47781

Sounds like A) she doesn't have a clue what she wants or B) She just enjoyed mucking you around, either way forget her she is not worth the hassle.

Reply 5

sophierw

Get out while you can, else the hurt will just get worse. You dont want to get in a totally messed up relationship where neither of you actually knows what the hell is going on!! Find someone who cares

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