Worried I may cheat on my girlfriend while drunk - am I a bad person? Watch

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I recently got into my first proper relationship and I really like her. I'm a bit concerned about my drunk self though. While I was single I was the type of person who would kiss people for fun and mostly it wouldnt mean anything.

The other night I was really drunk and I was dancing with someone and they were getting kind of close. The thing is I was going along with it and I kind of forgot I'm committed to someone else. I didn't do anything thank god but I felt like I could easily slip up. To me, i don't really take drunken kissing seriously but i know that i shouldn't just see it as a joke because of my girlfriend.

It kind of scared me so now i think i cant really trust myself while drunk and have decided to not get drunk again while I'm in a relationship. I'm being sensible,i think, but i feel really guilty because i know it could happen. The last thing I ever want to do is break her heart.

Am I a bad person? I definitely think cheating is wrong but my drunk self is pretty careless...
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People use alcohol as an excuse. Don't be one of those people, it's pathetic.
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Surely you can restrain yourself when drunk? I really don't think being drunk is any excuse; sure, you lose your inhibitions a bit, but it really isn't that difficult to stop yourself if you really care about your girlfriend as you say you do. Perhaps I'm being ignorant, but I really believe you shouldn't have to worry about what you may do whilst drunk.

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...don't get totally smashed then

also if you remember it then I can guarantee that you can control yourself
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Alcohol isn't an excuse tbh. You can't control yourself so either limit your alcohol intake or stop drinking. If you still feel like cheating then maybe this relationship isn't for you & you should tell her that.
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I think that a lot of people take a while to adjust to being in a relationship so you're not a bad person as long as you don't cheat or think about it. Some people will tell you not to drink at all, but personally I would just reduce the amount you drink so that you know whats going on and don't put yourself in a position where you might cheat.
I would say that if you do cheat, don't blame the alcohol , which most people do. If you are sober enough to do it, you're sober enough to know what's going on and that you are cheating.


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Can I just remind everyone that I already said I'm not going to get drunk again. I already know that, the thing that I'm wondering is whether or not worrying about this makes me a bad person? Or is it just because I'm adjusting to not being single anymore.
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The solution is simple. Don't get drunk.

EDIT: Just saw your last msg.
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Or is it just because I'm adjusting to not being single anymore.
I think that's exactly what it is.

You clearly care about your girlfriend, and are concerned about doing something wrong. In order to make sure not to do so, you are taking the right steps, i.e. drinking less, at least for the moment to assure it stays that way.

If it never meant much whilst you were single, I can understand how this might be a mindset one could easily slip back into, particularly as you are saying this is your first proper relationship. I think as time progresses, you will stop worrying.
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I don't know, I've personally never felt any compulsion or fear that i'd end up cheating on my boyfriebd, even doing anything inappropriate like dirty dancing or holding hands or flirting etc. I sort of feel like if she were the right person for you, you wouldn't want to.
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actually you can't always control yourself when drunk, i.e. when you're blacked out

just be careful lad, and try to see if any of your mates are willing to help you stop going close with girls
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Nail your penis to a plank of wood before you go out. That way you will not only be massively unattractive to other girls, you'll find it difficult to cheat.
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If you really like her and you're serious about this relationship, then you shouldn't forget about her long enough for you to get close to someone else and potentially do something with someone else.

If you're committed to her and she means something to you, you shouldn't want to do something with anyone else, it shouldn't feel right.

You're not a bad person because you're obviously concerned that you could hurt her and you don't want to do that, I just hope it doesn't come to that and you have a great relationship.
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