Girlfriend but like someone else

Been seeing my girlfriend for a few years now but in the middle of this I became friendly (not very friendly, just talk to her when I'm out, send the odd text, MSN etc) with another girl. This other girl has just started at uni in the same city as me and so I see her out and about more often. A couple of weeks back one of my friends went up to her in a club and told her that I liked her. She smiled in an embarrassed way and when my friend came back I got a bit shy on it too. The girl moved over to where I was in the club and danced beside me. I just stood with my back to them. Then they left early and I apologised. We had very little contact in the next week but then I met a few of her friends out this week. We just chatted normally then at the end of the night one of them asks me about the girl. I said something along the lines of "is is that obvious I like her?" they said yes and then said "you've a girlfriend though, it can't work, it'd be a different story if you didn't".

This has totally messed my head up. If I'd found out she wasn't interested at all it would have put my mind at ease! As it stands, I've a great girlfriend and realise I am being selfish but at the same time I'd love the freedom to try it on with this girl.

What do you think?

Reply 1

sahsum

13

This is a horrible situation. Do u love ur girlfriend? I know u can't really help being drawn to this other girl, but I'm pretty sure it would break your girlfriends heart if she knew you were thinking about this so sort your head out pronto.

Reply 2

anjurdsg

11

sahsum

This is a horrible situation. Do u love ur girlfriend? I know u can't really help being drawn to this other girl, but I'm pretty sure it would break your girlfriends heart if she knew you were thinking about this so sort your head out pronto.

:dito:

Reply 3

gracie88

14

sahsum

This is a horrible situation. Do u love ur girlfriend? I know u can't really help being drawn to this other girl, but I'm pretty sure it would break your girlfriends heart if she knew you were thinking about this so sort your head out pronto.

What Sahsum said is right, it probably doesn't help that you're at uni and maybe not near to your girlfriend, but if you love her you should try and leave things with this other girl. Imagine if you found out your girlfriend had thought things like this about another boy, how would you feel? I think it's okay to find other people attractive when you're in a relationship, but that should be as far as it goes or people will end up hurt.

Reply 4

username47781

20

I think Uni certainly does change some people., but if you really love your girlfriend you need to resist this other girl.

Reply 5

supernova2

11

have a **** and youll forget about it, remember the grass is always greener on the otherside, if you were with this girl and met your girlfriend in an opposite situation youd probably want to be with your girlfriend.

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

I was in this same predicament about a year ago. I left my girlfriend for this other girl who I thought i was interested in, and I thought was reciprical. turns out that I had one drunken night with her, and the next morning when I told her how I felt (or thought I felt) she totally said no. My gf was devastased by what I did, I was devastated wit what I did, and to this day it is the one thing that I truly regret doing. From personal experience I say stick with your girlfriend.

Reply 7

Nathan3535

Remember the differences between lust and love..

Girlfriend but like someone else

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