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Fancy a girl badly but scared to screw up a friendship
I really fancy this girl Ive met at uni shes in the year above but 2 years older.Shes absolutely lovely and I fancy her really bad.We've been gettin quite friendly and shes quite flirtatious but I cant tell whether her flirting is messing around and that we are just good friends who have a good laugh.Like shes said Im sweet and stuff but Im not sure whether thats in a 'ahh your such a cute friend way' or 'your so sweet id like to be your girlfriend'.Shes also had some problems with an ex, so i dont want to seem insensitive if i make a move.I too scared Ill make a move that ill freak her out and shell think im some kind of weirdo and try to avoid me.Plus she works at the union bar so its not like i can just forget about her if she rejects me.I have her number,msn etc but Im too scared Im gna scare her off because I cant tell whether her flirtin is messin around.I rarely fancy many girls, but this is one in a long time.People have said just lay down your intentions but i cant be too fwd or shell get freaked out.But I also cant leave it too long where i fall into 'just friends' trap.Im so confused I think about her all the time.Im just not sure what way i cant start to move it foward and in a subtle enough way.
Reply 1
This is advice I was given when I needed help with a girl who was a friend but I wanted a bit more.
Ask her to do something with you, but not as a date. It may sound wierd, but find something you can do together that has no romantic connotations at all. Whilst conversing try to see if she looks you full in the eyes and stuff like that because that is normally a good sign. If you really get the feeling that it's more than just flirting, ask her out again, somewhere not to heavy, just casually, to see a film or something and see if she wants to go.
I'd say maybe she does like you. As long as you don't try to force anything you won't be being insensitive.
Ask her to do something with you, but not as a date. It may sound wierd, but find something you can do together that has no romantic connotations at all. Whilst conversing try to see if she looks you full in the eyes and stuff like that because that is normally a good sign. If you really get the feeling that it's more than just flirting, ask her out again, somewhere not to heavy, just casually, to see a film or something and see if she wants to go.
I'd say maybe she does like you. As long as you don't try to force anything you won't be being insensitive.
Reply 2
Errm it seems strange if i ask her to do something JUST with me that its not a date.It may be a bit strange for her still, because we only met during freshers week.And we havent asked each other to go somewhere to hang out, we've just seen each other while out or on society socials etc.Where dya think would be suitable for this 'low key' meeting.Another thing which may be a sign happened while back.We were messing havin a photo and she went to kiss me on the cheek, and me messing around turned and pouted me lips to do a jokey kiss on the lips, but she basically said no, so i just laughed it off and went back to the cheek.Whether that has any relevance I dont no
Reply 3
It probably does have some significance. But maybe it was just because she didn't know you that well.
As for the 'low 'key' meeting I'm afraid I can't help with that. The girl I was going to ask left after a few days because she didn't like uni at all. Even if you just invite her to the bar with a few others and then see how she behaves around you; although for sure it can be very difficult to know whether they like you or not!
Sorry that probably doesn't help. Good luck though!
As for the 'low 'key' meeting I'm afraid I can't help with that. The girl I was going to ask left after a few days because she didn't like uni at all. Even if you just invite her to the bar with a few others and then see how she behaves around you; although for sure it can be very difficult to know whether they like you or not!
Sorry that probably doesn't help. Good luck though!
Reply 4
its all in the eyes if u see it in the eyes u no its for real. and seriously i would go for it, because from experience if she likes u as more than a friend then chances are when she stops liking u as more than a friend then the friendship u had before won't be the same anymore anyway. so really u have little to lose IMO thats my experience anyway 
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its all in the eyes if u see it in the eyes u no its for real. and seriously i would go for it, because from experience if she likes u as more than a friend then chances are when she stops liking u as more than a friend then the friendship u had before won't be the same anymore anyway. so really u have little to lose IMO thats my experience anyway
wise words!
Reply 6
What about her eyes should I notice the most.The way she looks at me?Or if looks into my eyes.Ive had lousy experience.I cant read signs anymore at all.Are there any other things i should look for because flirting can be many things but i dont know which ones are signs that they like you
Reply 7
?Im starting to think maybe i should try and just leave it a while get to know her first before i make a sudden move.Im just crappy with timing, hopefully i wont have put it off for too long
Reply 8
What exactly should I do then?Anyone?Need help because still unsure how to approach this.
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