Guy I like said last night that he prefers "trashy" women...

I find that sort of stuff a turn off for women too. I wouldn't call myself liberal but I wouldn't call myself conservative either, I'm in-between. I don't prefer really shy girls or anything like that but I'm more attracted to girls that keep to themselves.

I don't really meet guys in clubs TBH

Any recommendations on where to find someone like that? I'm in stuff like running clubs, but most of the blokes there are in their 40s or older

No, I'm working and planning to go as a mature student when I'm 22/23 (I think you posted on my thread actually?)

Most of my male colleagues are older than me, and I don't really think it's a good idea to date in the workplace anyway.

You mean you find girls like the ones he prefers a turn off?

How do you mean by keeping to themselves? I'm quite sociable, just would never do one night stands etc

You were still drawn to the type that goes clubbing though, no?

Where did I say that?

I'm assuming the guy you spoke about in this thread likes going to clubs as well as festivals.

Maybe I should put it this way, what drew you to him?

You're really clutching at straws here

But I already posted this in a response to someone else:



He does *seem* more sensible right now, which is why I like him (haven't known him for very long). As stated in the OP, a lot of stuff about him that I had no clue about came out last night as most of the people in that group have known him for much longer than me. Which I found a turn off.

That's mean

A lot of guys in their 20s seem to prefer girls like that though... I'm only 20 and not prudish but I wasn't brought up that way, dunno where to find a guy who actually does respect that

Sorry if this is harsh, but it's so annoying when people always say this, "I just can't find someone who likes people like me". Most guys will definitely prefer a girl they see as less trashy. When guys talk about "girlfriend material" they are usually talking about girls who are more chilled and down to earth.

I'm a liberal guy too, and I like partying and some of this stuff, but it isn't really a requirement in a partner, I actually tend to go for shyer girls.

Honestly a guy with taste like that is just gonna end up with a ton of problems (potentially involving babies, prison and hospitals :/ ) and no, not all 20 something guys are like that - I've met some who are absolutely lovely and some who are childish and some just like the guy you described. I hope you find someone better, you deserve it!

No offence taken lol Maybe my having moving relatively recently is a factor in this? I don't know as many guys in their 20s as I'd like, so I guess I have a relatively limited pool of people to decide from. Most of my male friends in the area are guys in their 30s and 40s and they actually have families. I work long hours sometimes so it's hard to meet guys my age in London.

I don't think most guys in their 20s have the exact same preferences, but a lot of the ones I know (at least) seem to go for women who are very "open minded". Maybe it's just because they're more sexually cool with things?

Well yeah, that would make sense. People on here seem to be very anti-clubbing, but honestly, most people at clubs are just normal people, most young people do it. It's a reasonable place to meet people.

Well it depends what you're going for. Obviously if you're going for a more casual thing, these sorts of girls are going to be the one preferred as they're the ones who tend to want casual sex. For monogamous relationships, most guys actually prefer less promiscuous girls.

I dislike people who associate being "fun" and "open minded" with drugs and a boatload of other questionable activities. Being stoned to the point slurred speech and complete unawareness doesn't appear fun to me. If a guy wants a girl like that, it tells you a lot about him (i.e. AVOID) You dodged a bullet imo. He's gonna learn the hard way in the future.

I dislike people who associate being "fun" and "open minded" with drugs and a boatload of other questionable activities. Being stoned to the point slurred speech and complete unawareness doesn't appear fun to me. If a guy wants a girl like that, it tells you a lot about him (i.e. AVOID) You dodged a bullet imo. He's gonna learn the hard way in the future.

I dislike people who associate being "fun" and "open minded" with drugs and a boatload of other questionable activities. Being stoned to the point slurred speech and complete unawareness doesn't appear fun to me. If a guy wants a girl like that, it tells you a lot about him (i.e. AVOID) You dodged a bullet imo. He's gonna learn the hard way in the future.