A little worried...

Hey guys I am a little worried about my girlfriend lately, she has a history of depression and self harm but she has since going out with me [Over a year and a half] gotten over it but lately she has been talking about how she thinks she ugly, how she thinks shes unattractive and hates the way she looks. She doesnt like the make-up she wears and thinks it aswell as the clothes do nothing for her. I dont want to sound big headed but my girlfriend is very beautiful and a lot of guys find her attractive [but shes mine :biggrin:

] anyway I am just a little worried about her and dunno what to do. Shes also going on a diet and shes really thin and theres no need for her to be on a diet.

Reply 1

Flank Runner

proove to her that she is hot and that shes your world

Reply 2

pink_lucie

Flank Runner

proove to her that she is hot and that shes your world

make her feel like she means everything and that you are nothing without her. but if she doesnt ike compliments dont shower with them, eg when you see her say wow your so beautifull today etc not lik OMG YOUR AMAZING ....bla bla bla

:smile:

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

Take a picture of the two of you together and make the effort to say how much you like that picture, frame it, keep it by your bed etc.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

The thing is I compliment her a lot and she says when she says this it is not about compliments so dont give me any. Also I keep a picture of our prom photo next to my bed.

Reply 5

Louise88

What you need to do is be there for her and make her feel special. Compliment her, tell her that she is beautiful and pick out certain things about her, the things that you love about the way she looks. If she does something different with her make up, her hair or has something new on make sure that you comment on it and just generally try and make her feel good about herself. It will be really difficult for you to get her to listen but when she does listen, she will feel better about herself. Don't go over the top with compliments though because it might seem fake. Just be honest with her, tell her how you feel about her and her looks. She will listen to you eventually.

Edit: After reading your last post, I don't really know. I used to feel the same way that she did and I also have a history of self harm. Whenever I feel like that my boyfriend tells me how beautiful I am, he compliments me on things and just makes me feel really loved. I will ignore it at first but in time I will listen and I do feel better about myself. It's hard to get someone to listen to you when they are feeling like that but give it time.

Reply 6

edu

Love her, treat her like a princess (if you dont) and make it extra special and when she says shes ugly (even if she says it isnt about the compliments) ask her if she trusts you, when she says yes, then say trust me when I say your beautiful.

Reply 7

username47781

Unfortunatly girls who are depressed are like that, when you tell them they are hot they automatically say no i'm not, just keep reassuring her is the best thing to do and be there for her.

Reply 8

Anonymous #3

Your girlfriend could be me, in so far as the history and the self confidence issues go. I saw my bf for the first time since starting uni this weekend, and he was so sweet complimenting me and saying such nice things but I just couldnt hear it. Him talking about it only made me feel worse, I will never be happy with the way I look or who I am so I would rather just not have it brought up all the time. Him trying to help just draws attention to it and makes me feel down. Just an alternative perspective, my advice would be to try and take her mind off it, dont say things that may make her uncomfortable by referring to things she is unhappy about, even if you are trying to be nice, just have a good time together and maybe she can forget her worries.