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1st year medical student

The girl I'm getting close to is a first year medical student, she seems to be very busy a lot of the time, I understand that she will be, doing what she is.

But anyone had experiences with such relationships?

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Reply 1

Saffie

she can make time most evenings and surely she won't be working 9-5 mon-fri anyway.
most people are busy except arts students

Reply 2

No Future

Just don't be too demanding if she's busy.

Reply 3

Sazarina88

My boyfriend is a 3rd year biomedical sciences student (so kinda similar!). Whilst you do appreciate that it's a very demanding course, she needs to appreciate that you'd like for her to spend some time with you rather than the textbooks.

If she maximises the time she has during the day then you should easily be able to spend time together. Even if she does have work to be doing, couldn't you do some too? You're still in each other's company which is always a nice thing :smile:

You just need to make sure that she doesn't start falling behind. It might take a while to reach a successful balance of seeing/not seeing each other but it really is possible.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

In my eyes she seems near perfect, so I don't want to mess things up, and I've never had a proper girlfriend so I can't draw on past experience.

Reply 5

WokSz

Medecine is a VERY demanding subject and be prepared to not see her for ages on end. My mum is a Heart Surgeon so I know how hard it was for my parents to stay together. Hence, after 25 years of marriage, they divorced.

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

From the otherside - things that make my non-medic boyfriend seem especially wonderful at times (I'm a medic):

- He appreciates the busyness, probably helps he's a science student too, so for the first few years we had similar contact hours and work patterns
- He's interested in human body trivia! Medics obviously tend to find it fascinating :redface:

, so helps that he's genuinely interested too.
- He gets the confidentiality type issues - so understands if i need to vent even when i'm purposely not giving away identifying details he shouldn't go and broadcast things.
- He has some idea of what it's like to know someone who's health is in the balance, so can appreciate the emotional impact at times.
- He gives good hugs when I'm weirded out/upset by things that are hard to really explain - that would be cadavers for the first time and death type issues!

Reply 7

edu

yea you gota be understanding with medical related subjects, Medicine and dentistry being very demanding. If she says she has a lot of work to do ask her if she needs help studying (hey it helps to have someone test you) if you really want to spend time with her if not just wait till shes free. Feel free to surprise her with dinner or a hi whenever you can but really dont be disgruntled and hurt if she cant see you when you really want to see her.

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

But yeah, you can still make time.
It's not healthy for it to become completely all consuming - non-medic relationships/friendships and other hobbies are necessary.

Obviously it'll depend on your circumstances, but I see my significant other daily (unless I'm on a placement, which is an occupational hazard, she might have to go away for 1-10 weeks at a time!) and would say it's quality time that is more important anyway. *cliche alert*

One other thing - try not to be too impatient if she starts being slightly hypochondriac on your behalf at times because she cares about you & has a head full of worse case scenarios of signs and symptoms, or gets concerned about genetic abnormalities of hypothetical children! ahem... :redface:

But otherwise, yay for medics. :biggrin:

hmm, give it a go

Anonymous

- He gets the confidentiality type issues - so understands if i need to vent even when i'm purposely not giving away identifying details he shouldn't go and broadcast things.

I've signed the official secrets act, and deal a bit with cryptography so I can understand.

Anonymous

He gives good hugs when I'm weirded out/upset by things that are hard to really explain - that would be cadavers for the first time and death type issues!

I might see just as much death in my future career than she does, albeit more violent death.

Anonymous

Obviously it'll depend on your circumstances, but I see my significant other daily (unless I'm on a placement, which is an occupational hazard, she might have to go away for 1-10 weeks at a time!) and would say it's quality time that is more important anyway. *cliche alert*

I might end up being away for 6-9months at a time.

Reply 11

MaryKay

Hmm, well I'm a 1st year medic at GKT and the work-load isn't that bad atm, alos have friends ay Imperial and SGUL and they aren't too busy atm, however people who don't have Biology at A2 are having to put a lot of work at the monent to catch up,so maybe that's it, however the workload will increase as the year continues,maybe offer to help with work as somebody else on here suggested?

Reply 12

Helenia

Sazarina88

My boyfriend is a 3rd year biomedical sciences student (so kinda similar!).

^o)

That aside, what Anon #2 said. Yes, we're busy but it's not like it's the end of the world, a lot of us manage to have quite functional relationships.

Reply 13

Sazarina88

Helenia

^o)

That aside, what Anon #2 said. Yes, we're busy but it's not like it's the end of the world, a lot of us manage to have quite functional relationships.

Why the face? Ok, he might not be doing the same subject but I gave some input on the topic and suggestions about what they could both do to spend more time together.

Reply 14

Helenia

Sazarina88

Why the face? Ok, he might not be doing the same subject but I gave some input on the topic and suggestions about what they could both do to spend more time together.

Sorry, it was a snobby medic joke. I should have stuck a :p:

afterwards :wink:

Reply 15

edu

heh, im 2nd year biomed and I have the same hours as my friends at bristol and St georges :\. Both courses are fairly demanding... unlike my flatmates *growls* they have 2 days of lectures ffs... 2 days....